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to what extend janda suami kita boleh intrude life kita?
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Sorry lah kalau tajuk ni macam kasar je bunyinya...
kepada sesiapa yang berkahwin dgn duda, to what extend anda membenarkan exwife dia 'masuk' dalam hidup anda?
As for me, actually aku tak minat sangat bila dia nak sibuk2 hal family aku dgn suami aku....for example, i don't need her to kirim lauk-pauk to my house (because i got jealous because sejak tu my hubby sebut2 masakan dia sedap la lain kali nak suruh masak lagi la - to me she is trying to 'umpan' my hubby again), i also don't need her sending her maid over to my house (even tough my hubby kata dia hantar ke umah we'all because masa tu anak2 tiri dia datang ke umah - dia tak suka anak tiri dia bersenang lenang dgn org gaji becoz she hates her hubby's ex who also hates her stealing for her husband - argh pening heheh)
yang paling aku tak minat when she starts saying that her family says my hubby (her ex) is 1000x better than her new hubby (mamat ni memang beruk jadian) and she also regrets leaving her ex (dia yg mintak cerai dulu)...now that her life is miserable with her new hubby (laki dia ni mmg sampah sikit...diorang penah bercerai lepas 2 bulan kawin then suddenly back together - aku rasa laki dia tu gaduh dgn exwife dia kot, sbb before this after cerai dia kembali ke bini lama dia)
paling aku tak minat bila hubby aku dari masa ke semasa ada je bercerita dgn exwife...meaning ada time2 maybe bergayut dlm phone borak pasal kehidupan peribadi (i know she likes to inform my hubby kalo ada anything happens to her - latest when her dad halau dia kuar dari umah ayah dia)....yang aku ni plak tau the tip of the iceberg je....kadang2 cerita dia pun aku x tau hujung pangkal...then my hubby will say bukan semua perkara yang aku perlu amik tau (ni yg aku hangin)....the problem is kenapa dia sebok mcm nak jadi part of my hubby's life again? is it now becoz dia dah nampak laki baru dia tu sampah?? is it becoz family dia mmg x pernah approve hubungan dia dgn mamat tu?? then why the hell dia pukul canang kat sekolah sampai member aku pun dapat tau & cite kat aku pasal penyesalan dia?? sejak akhir2 ni kenapa dia mcm cuba nak berbaik-baik & asyik memuji2 laki aku or am i just being paranoid?? |
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Reply #1 mynameisdot's post
berhati hatilah.. she is trying to win him back.. diorg ade anak bersama tak??? 
kalau ade lg la ade reason tuk bersama semula.. lgpun they used to live together as husband n wife, so sikit sebanyak ade la rasa tu... |
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dah 16 tahun kawin...anak pun ada 3 orang...
yang tak menahan aku dengar pasal hubby aku plak leh bantah bila exwife dia sibuk nak antar anak dia + anak tiri dia g klinik upsr....laki aku plak yg sebok suruh anak tiri exwife punya parents bayar sendiri klinik upsr tu...yg dia dengki dgn anak tiri org tu apehal....aku yg sarkastik ni plak kata "ai mak tiri takkan takleh buat baik dgn anak tiri dia? abis ayg ni tak leh baik dgn anak tiri ayg ke?" |
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to me as if she is creating reasons so that dia boleh 'bermesra' dgn my hubby...always volunteering walopun tak mintak...when she got back from holiday overseas, she bought me a local delicacies whilst for my hubby a leather hat...mcm special je... |
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aku baca perenggan pertama ... complicated gak .. hahaha |
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Originally posted by mynameisdot at 22-3-2008 02:04 AM 
dah 16 tahun kawin...anak pun ada 3 orang...
yang tak menahan aku dengar pasal hubby aku plak leh bantah bila exwife dia sibuk nak antar anak dia + anak tiri dia g klinik upsr....laki aku plak ...
16 tahun.. memang ler banyak kenangan untuk di ungkap.. samada yang pahit atau yang manis, memang akan efek pada idup dia kan?
hrmmmm.. payah tuh.. apakah ada bunga2 cinta lagi antara mereka?
masa ko tanya2 kat hb ko tuh, nada dia soh ko tak masuk campur semua tuh ada nada keras2 ker?
siyes wey.. payah gak problem ko neh  |
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takde la nada keras but i can sense his uneasiness by his tone and his expression...
maybe my hubby takde apa2 feeling tapi kalau dah exwife dia yg terkinja2 nak tarik perhatian anything could happen, eh?
apa pasal laki aku pun sibuk nak tanya exwife dia nak kirim makanan tak everytime kitorang bawak anak dia keluar makan? kadang2 kat kedai makan pun dia bertalipon tergelak2 yg aku ni cam bodoh je la makan sambil dengar....lawak pun ada yg x-rated...do u think ianya melampau kalau aku rasa tak senang kalau diorang lawak lucah?? |
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Originally posted by mynameisdot at 22-3-2008 02:25 AM 
takde la nada keras but i can sense his uneasiness by his tone and his expression...
maybe my hubby takde apa2 feeling tapi kalau dah exwife dia yg terkinja2 nak tarik perhatian anything could happen, eh?
apa pasal laki aku pun sibuk nak tanya exwife dia nak kirim makanan tak everytime kitorang bawak anak dia keluar makan? kadang2 kat kedai makan pun dia bertalipon tergelak2 yg aku ni cam bodoh je la makan sambil dengar....lawak pun ada yg x-rated...do u think ianya melampau kalau aku rasa tak senang kalau diorang lawak lucah??...
yea.. anything could happen 
btw.. ko pernah tak cakap kat hb ko yang ko tak suka perlakuan sedemikian? dalam hal ini, aku rasa, komunikasi berkesan dan telus kena perlu ada.. ko pulak, jangan takut2 nak lampiaskan semua ketidak senangan ko dalam hal2 mcm gini..
memang ler mcm melampau ler nak bertalipon gelak2 depan2 u sesambil buat lawak lucah.. siyes, kena kat aku, makan henpon ler dia  (jangan tiru aksi neh yea )
tak kesah ler dia suka ker tak suka ker ko komplen dia ngan ex dia, yang penting, ko kena cakap!!
kalau dia marah2 dan buat tak pedulik dan ulangi lagi perlakuan yang ko dah cakap tuh, then to make it short, memang ada sesuatu!! |
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...to what extend janda suami kita bley intrude life kita depends very much on how far your husband allows her to intrude...your husband needs to set a certain limit lah to their relationship nie...when it comes to matters relating ngan anak2 dorang...memanglah memerlukan kerjasama yang 100% from both of them...but...kalau dalam hal lain2 yang tak melibatkan anak2 mereka...then sikit2 jer lah...janganlah sampai api asmaradana mereka merebak semula...aniaya ko kang....
...ko kenalah hati2...kena trus terang kat laki ko yang ko tak berapa comfortable ngan this current situation.....and that u feel yang dia is intruding into korang punya lives...making u feel jealous and threatened...alaaaa...trus terang jer ngan laki ko so that he noes how u feel...orang lelaki nie kadang2 ada slow sikit...kalau kita diam jer...dorang ingat kita ok kita setuju dan kita mengizinkan...so...u need to verbalise...to tell him how u feel so that dia tau dan dia akan ambil tindakan yang sepatutnya...
...if he loves and care about korang punya rumahtangga...dia akan ambil tindakan yang sewajarnya to reassure u...he will take measures to distance himself ngan ex dia agar tidak timbul rasa cemburu dalam diri ko...he will ensure that his future dealings with his ex is purely business (anak2) jer...
...it is not easy living with a man yang masih menaruh rasa sayang pada ex dia...yes...walaupon dah bercerai...tapi rasa sayang nie amat sukar tuk dikikis dalam hati masing2...and...this feeling bley ngan mudah spark again kalau kesempatan diberikan...so...keep your eye on your man and dont look away for a moment...save your hero...save your marriage and save the world... |
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huh bahaya nihhh............. rasanya dia try nak memenangi semula x-laki dia..... kena berhati2...... |
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Reply #1 mynameisdot's post
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Complicated gak idup kawin ngan DUDA .... dah jodoh nak buat camna... sabor je la ... belajar le ilmu ikat hati suami .... doa hembus ke telinga dia bila nak tido... selawat bila mask makanan dia dan berbagai lagi .. jangan lupa doa selepas semayang supaya keluarga u dirahmai Allah selalu dan berbahgia selalu ... |
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Originally posted by safuan at 22-3-2008 05:48 AM
Complicated gak idup kawin ngan DUDA .... dah jodoh nak buat camna... sabor je la ... belajar le ilmu ikat hati suami .... doa hembus ke telinga dia bila nak tido... selawat bila mask makanan dia ...
bab selawat tu memang ada yang amalkan.. ris pung amalkan jugak.. kalau masak nasi.... time kita basuh nasi tu kita selawat lah tiga kali dan niat yang kita ikat perut dan hati dia sekali..... |
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Reply #14 auntie_girl's post
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Ameen.... baloq masak ke.... |
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Originally posted by Risma at 22-3-2008 06:12 AM
bab selawat tu memang ada yang amalkan.. ris pung amalkan jugak.. kalau masak nasi.... time kita basuh nasi tu kita selawat lah tiga kali dan niat yang kita ikat perut dan hati dia sekali.....
camna... terikat tak perut n hati dia..... kalau dia buat hal gak...ikat kaki ...sure terjamin tak lari ...kekekkeke |
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Originally posted by mynameisdot at 22-3-2008 01:30 AM 
Sorry lah kalau tajuk ni macam kasar je bunyinya...
kepada sesiapa yang berkahwin dgn duda, to what extend anda membenarkan exwife dia 'masuk' dalam hidup anda?
As for me, actually aku tak ...
ko kann duluk2 citer ko yg menangguk di air keroh berchenta ngan somi ko skrg ni time dorang laki bini tgh ader krisis duluk kannn....kira ko gak lerrr yg jdk pemangkin dorang bercerai kannn....padahal kalu ko tak wujud antara dorang maybe lerr, aku tulis mungkinnn plak....mungkin dorang takkan bercerai........ |
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Reply #17 manakautau's post
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it's not ur hubby's x-wife's fault..it's ur hubby's..he should know where to put the boundaries.. |
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Post time 22-3-2008 01:30 AM
变色卡
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Ya ALLAH,tenangkan hatiku...terangkan hatiku...bantulah rajinkan hambamu yg baloq liat ni.....amin 
