Wajar tak tindakan aku ni??

OraNewID · Post time 11-4-2008 02:37 PM

Hello All,

I'm quite new here..

Just 1 small thing bermain dalam kepala I lately.. tak lama lg will be my 9th anniversary... nearly every year me and hubby will celebrate it by having a special day out just the 2 of us.. last year he nearly miss the date.. but lepas I ingatkan... dia still ajak I celebrate it..

But this year, I'm thinking of not going to celebrate it..
The reason is.. I tanak jd hiprokit.. when we celebrate the anniversary, we pretend that we are happy with it.. sedangkan jauh di sudut hati I, I bnyk makan ati dlm marriage nih...

But yg buat I jd serba salah ialah... this year, my hubby seems really look forward for it.. awal2 lg dia tanya when is actually our anniversary (duhh...). Yeahh... dia still tk ingat the exact date but dia tau the month... Memula I malas nak jwb.. I suruh dia figure it out himself.. but bila dia tanya banyak kali.. I terpaksa la jwb... and dia dh plan utk ambil cuti and etc...

Hmmm.. when I say I'm not going to celebrate it means that I won't buy anything.. won't wish him anything.. and won't do anything.. just lalui harituh macam hari biasa... I know ini akan buat dia rs kecewa, terkejut or etc... but I need to show some protest la.. kalau tak.. our marriage will never be changed...

Should I proceed my plan??

LostSoul · Post time 11-4-2008 02:44 PM

in my opinion, but not sure will it fit your situation or not, you better go ahead with the plan. but plan it in such a way that would enable you to have heart to heart talk to him, instead going for fun filled activities..

abgboroi · Post time 11-4-2008 02:45 PM

makan ati laa ni....sian
camni laa encik....kalau perkara kita buat tu adalah seed of happiness...kita buat ajer....pokok kalau nak berbuah kena makan masa so...kesabaran penting untuk kita get the fruit....betul tak?

kikilalat · Post time 11-4-2008 02:48 PM

i don't get it...

awat tak discuss jer aper yg u tak puas hati tuh sekarang? why nak wait & spoil the anniversary day pulak? u pun cakap yg yr hubby looking forward to it... ntah la... to me macam sadis jer kalo nak spoil a special day, especially if yr hubby tak aware pun yr marriage ader problem.

guys think differently... u can't expect yr hubby to read yr mind... i would suggest that u voice out yr grievances rather than memendam perasaan sampai anniversary day...

that's just me.

aiva · Post time 11-4-2008 02:49 PM

hargailah peluang yang ada

Madiey · Post time 11-4-2008 02:50 PM

Hmm...

Macam ni le makcik,

Bila dah ada peluang untuk happiness kenapa hendak menunjukkan protes pulak?
Enjoy the anniversary dulu, kalau tak happy then baru le protes apa yang you nak protes.
Mana tahu, kali ni dia betul - betul happy dan detik permulaan untuk dia berubah?

Mungkin ini adalah saatnya dimana doa makcik selama ni termakbul.

But please act wisely. Takyah la ikutkan sangat hati yang marah tu. Cakap elok - elok, luahkan apa yang terbuku disanubari. Sesuatu yang elok. Insya - Allah, eloklah hasilnya nanti.

All the best!

Err, lupa nak jawap soalan, 'Tak Wajar'.

[ Last edited by Madiey at 11-4-2008 02:54 PM ]

syahza · Post time 11-4-2008 02:51 PM

just continue celebrate ur anniversary but use that opportunity to talk... tell him bout ur feeling, about ur marriage.. but pls be sincere to him & don forget to talk nicely..

kalo x berjaya, then hv to think bout other option alredi..

alia_elina · Post time 11-4-2008 02:53 PM

Sebenarnya asben ko tak nampak pun ada problem dalam perkawinan korang...
sebab tu ler dia looking 4wd..
apa kata ko luahkan perasaan ko masa 2 nanti, tapi jgn ler plak sampai spoil the day..

fifie_olin · Post time 11-4-2008 02:53 PM

jgn la mcm tu hubby ko dh plan nk amik cuti pon..dia lupa tu adatla..benda kecik kan..
sekurang2 nya dia still nk celebrate (smpi sanggop amik cuti)..
syukur la skit..sesetengah hubby lgsg x amik pot psl anniversary2 ni semua..
kekadang birthday sendrik pon lupa...
proceed la cam biasa...lps tu ko mintak arr hadiah memahal skit...

edmundo · Post time 11-4-2008 02:54 PM

Alamak....aduuh...
pasal annevesary rupanya...
What ever protest u plan 4 ur hubby....
Satu je i ingatkan, jgnla tunjuk muka MASAM. Guys easily turn down bila kita dh buat macam2...tetiba muka masam yg korang bagi...

finding · Post time 11-4-2008 02:54 PM

husband punya la baik, caring.
sanggup keluar sambut anniversary...
awak pak tak nak.
awk tak nak ambik hati dia, so, camana nak harapkan dia jaga hati awak...
anyway, we all kat sini tak tau apa your problem sebenarnya...

OraNewID · Post time 11-4-2008 02:57 PM

Originally posted by kikilalat at 11-4-2008 02:48 PM
i don't get it...

awat tak discuss jer aper yg u tak puas hati tuh sekarang? why nak wait & spoil the anniversary day pulak? u pun cakap yg yr hubby looking forward to it... ntah la... to me m ...

err... just 1 quick respond... yang lain2.. I jwb after I compile and analyze a couple of responds...

kikilalat.. pernah tak awak terpikir kenapa orang Palestin tuh sanggup bom diri dia sendiri... sedangkan ada meja perundingan??

Itu contoh yg besar la.. tp saya takdelah nak bom diri sendiri...

syahza · Post time 11-4-2008 03:01 PM

maksudnye ko rasa ko xleh nk bwk hubby ko berbincang la yer.. smpi terpaksa tnjk protes...

ko pegi khatamkn dulu topik2 dlm forum family discussion ni dulu. pastu aku rasa baru ko sedar betapa bertuahnye ko

zeetacunn · Post time 11-4-2008 03:01 PM

since ur hubby dah beria ia nak celebrate... eloklah u celebrate jer... then, after the celebration, bincanglah aper aper yg tak puas hati tu.... biasalah marriage.. mana yg tak tergigit lidah.... and sometimes men nih, tak paham perasaan isteri dia.. to them bende bende cam nih perkara kecil.. sedangkan bagi orang pompuan, bila dia tak ingat anniversary date macam rasa dia just dont care less jer..... aku paham perasaan kau...

cutebaby5907 · Post time 11-4-2008 03:03 PM

sekurang2nye dier dah mencuba utk memperbaiki semula hubungan yg awak rase sgt frust dgn dier...
beri dier peluang x salah kan???

hmmmmm...
tepuk dada tanye iman...
good luck...

mama_dinie · Post time 11-4-2008 03:04 PM

terimalh kelemahan pasangan seadanya..
tkde sapa yg perfect termasuk diri kita..
apa kata u celebrate spt biasa, at least your husband still concern bout your marriage..
isikan hati dengan rasa syukur, jgn hanya memandang kekurangan, lihatlh kebaikan diri husband u..
selagi dia masih ada, hargailah dia, kerana manusia selalu menghargai orang yg telah tiada.

niceghost2005 · Post time 11-4-2008 03:06 PM

Originally posted by OraNewID at 11-4-2008 02:37 PM
Hello All,

I'm quite new here..

Just 1 small thing bermain dalam kepala I lately.. tak lama lg will be my 9th anniversary... nearly every year me and hubby will celebrate it by having a sp ...

Ceghiter ler skit..........
Naper yg sampai 'makan ati' tu???

lipans · Post time 11-4-2008 03:06 PM

aku sebagai lelaki....

"hmmm... perempuan......"

kikilalat · Post time 11-4-2008 03:07 PM

ko rasa protes ko suatu jihad ke jalan Allah ker?

amazing

kikilalat · Post time 11-4-2008 03:10 PM

Tambah lagik sket...

Biler kita pikir pasal suicide bombers, biasa nyer org2 yg dia bomb tuh merupakan musuh Islam... so ader logic lah jugak... (though personally aku tak agree dgn suicide bombers nyer teknik, sebab kengkadang bley melibatkan pompuan and kanak2)