kawan saya telah berkawin dgn suaminya selama 15 tahun, ada tiga anak. namun, dia mengetahui rahsia suami ada perempuan simpanan lain di belakangnya. saya tak pernah menemui keadaan mcm ni so saya tidak ckp apa apa, saya nak tanya adakah cara- cara lain kecuali cerai?
Post time 17-1-2020 11:23 PMFrom the mobile phone|Show all posts
KIM.K replied at 17-1-2020 09:57 PM
Iols sambil buat grafik selalu dengar TedTalk. Masa dengar konsultan ni suruh forgive cheating ...
I agree dgn acik TEDtalk ni. Mmg betul pun ada 2 option.. to stay or to go, but its better to stay, look around and see what can be fixed first. Sometimes kita tekan button "go" hanya nak validate yg partner adalah "org jahat" which is a natural defense mechanism. Bukan nak suruh stay forever.. tapi bukan senang nak bercerai berai. Utk TT, jwpn apa u expect keluar dari soalan ni? hanya tuan badan sendiri boleh timbang tara decision yg mana lebih mudarat kpd diri dia. Sbg kawan, kita bantu dia utk fikir secara rasional..
1. bercerai, and live with principle and honesty.. dont expect bercerai ni happy2 tau.. it is full of heartbreaking moments (perebutan harta, anak2)... and please know that filing for divorce and sebarang tuntutan hak di mahkamah especially masuk mahkamah tinggi, adalah wayyyyy tooo expensive and time consuming.. easily duit RM30k terbang utk bayar legal fees and 2 years turun naik mahkamah yaa~~~
2. stay.. tp u akan hidup dlm kepura2an... actually ramai je kawan2 iols choose to live this way.. biar je spouse dia continue makan luar... sbb they cant afford a divorce and to start new life.... kalo spouse jenis simpan betina /jantan sekor dua takpe, ini kalo jenis celup merata, better be careful la... buat laa test STD and HIV every 6 months...
3. stay... and cuba usaha improve... welll benda ni kena works both ways and kena open minded... jgn laa mulut je kata nak perbaiki skill in bed, tp sebenarnnya self proclaimed skillful semata... learn from porn.. dah takkan itu pun nak ajar satu2... ahahha learn skill mcm2, how to use toys, how to give world class blowjob whatsoever...
tp honestly...i sendiri cannot stand cheating... once jadi, i akan leave... i cant handle cheating spouse.. mati kau aku kerjakan...
tp the best way to save urself... get a clean divorce... settle smua tuntuan fairly
Post time 23-1-2020 08:40 PMFrom the mobile phone|Show all posts
Kalau rasa boleh tahan dgn suami yg curang then stay klu rasa xberbaloi untuk stay so cerai je la. Tittle J bukan maksud you gagal atau kalah. Sometime tittle j tu lg buat you rasa tenang n happy