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Noted....  But, do notice that I wrote "a special..." ticket; so that is not to be taken lightly and simply a reason to keep a leeway option open for intentional mistakes. Anyway, my loved ones are well aware of this and all of them are happy with it since the rule is set on the day 1 and the rule will be enforced for everyone, with no exception.... Sometimes, just a simple and honest act of being firm on some issues can certainly help.
Anyway, how unfortunate to have to disown children as a last resort, must be something that really big... But, I do observe that children mostly will show respects that will carry them into adulthood for parents who are stern but persistent, yet showing unlimited & unreserved loves for them.
Terkenang masa zaman budak2, nakal tu jgn cakap le...  My dad was one of those stern yet persistent guy, being in the army & all... Now, being adult, whenever we got chance with my family, reliving the memories of what I've done and what I got for as the punishment will always welcome with full adorations for his stance.... At least, all those "loving" punishments shaped me into who I am today.... Considering the world today, I turned out okay....
Now.... Don't feel like elaborating on my little ramblings here, so I'll just give a fair statement of the guideline for my decision:
Having known the person whom are about to be granted the 2nd chance; how confident are we to initiate and rekindling the new seed of trust and not having it crushed again without due considerations? Not such an easy task, I supposed.... |
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Originally posted by sarahmirza at 5-3-2008 08:55 PM 
If you've been hurt again and again in a relationship. Feeling as though you were all alone, vulnerable, and insecure. Having someone shut you out. Not appreciate you. Years later, you wake up to ...
a'kum
peluang kedua, ketiga sampai ke berapa puluh ratus pun wajar diberikan kepada semua orang yang menyedari kesilapan lampau mereka.
Alla swt pun suruh kita bertaubat apabila membuat dosa, tapi Dia tak tetapkan berapa kali aje kita leh taubat. means, peluang itu sentiasa terbuka sampai bila2 pun...
wallahua'lam |
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Originally posted by LostSoul at 11-3-2008 04:11 PM
second that! my mum did giev chance, only to be beaten up 2nd & 3rd time... once is more than enough!
It would take few years time to make abusive husband change and the change would be gradual. Not worth the chance. Love should not hurt, physically, emotionally or mentally. Mmmmmmm.. |
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Originally posted by sarahmirza at 12-3-2008 12:28 PM
Berapa ratus kali? Tak pandai insaf ke ? 
Sorry la abe_juzz, second chance pun dah cukup baik. Allah swt memang suruh kita bertaubat tapi kalau dah buat dosa besar kemudian bertauba ...
betul jugak tu.. kalau dah insaf.. xkan beratus kali buat mistake yang same..
itu dah kira mempermainkan.. |
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Reply #84 sarahmirza's post
sis, in my father's case, it took a lifetime for him to see the light... if my mom still waited for him patiently, she would most probably be maimed for life..  |
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Post time 11-3-2008 05:33 PM
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