seksualiti anak

yohani

I tau dah banyak topik tentang ni tapi susah la nak percaya kalau tak ada penjelasan kedoktoran atau sains. gini, anak I umur 13, lelaki. I haritu terbuka pc tgk dia tak log out akaun facebook, terbaca la mesej dia, ada dia sembang dgn kawan. lelaki jugak kawan tu, tapi kan ada mesej bunga2 gitu, macam cintan cintun. I igt diorang main2. tergerak la utk tengok siapa dia kawan tu. I buka profile, tengok kawan dia tu likes benda2 gay. Gambar2 pun ada artis2 korea lelaki
I dah rasa pelik pasal anak I kawan dgn dia, siap ada msg2 lagi. dia macam suka dgn budak gay tu je. Anak I tak lembut, tak ada gaya org perempuan. I bukan nak tanya macam mana nak handle masalah ni atau apa2 pasal agama ttg masalah gay ni. I google2 dalam bm, balik2 org cerita pasal sama, kisah nabi luth Allah turun bala, kena banyak2 bertaubat semua....ini anak I, dia budak lagi. I ada cara I sendiri dalam mendidik anak2. I tau la anak tu macam mana. I cuma nak tau dari segi sains tentang seksualiti gay. Macam mana dia terbentuk, ada kaitan ke dgn masa I pregnant dulu, atau keturunan? Kalau kita tau semua2 ni baru kita faham macam mana nak handle.

I ada baca kebarangkalian anak2 lelaki jadi gay tinggi dalam keluarga sebelah mak yg ramai ahli2 perempuan. I punya family memang ramai perempuan. I ada 10 adik beradik perempuan, 2 org lelaki (abang). Anak2 saudara pun ramai perempuan. so betul ke tu? I nak doktor2 beri penjelasan dari segi sains pasal ni. dan ada tak kaedah psikologi perubatan utk ubah seksualiti remaja yg masih muda. Anak I tu budak lagi.

mizmini

tak tahu la plak kebarangkalian macam tu
adik badik sy ramai pompuan 4pompuan 1 lelaki (bongsu).. ramai makcik drp pakcik sebelah mak & ayah...
tp adik sy tu normal macam lelaki biasa... sy rasa teori tu tak boleh pakai la..
tak tahu la plak kan... kena tanya pakar2 sains kat sini

namakurahsia

tak bleh pakai langsung teori tu...mak sedara aku adik badik 10..sorang jer lelaki..elok jer pak sedara aku jadi lelaki sejati..

ini jenis terikut2...

rimau_belang

ini jenis terikut2,tp elok lah awk bendung dr skrg

marumaru

http://www.psychologycampus.com/teens-children/gay-lesbian.html
Gay & Lesbian Teens

     Growing up is a demanding and challenging task for every adolescent. One important aspect is forming one's sexual identity. All children explore and experiment sexually as part of normal development. This sexual behavior may be with members of the same or opposite sex. For many adolescents, thinking about and/or experimenting with the same sex may cause concerns and anxiety regarding their sexual orientation. For others, even thoughts or fantasies may cause anxiety.

     Homosexuality is the persistent sexual and emotional attraction to someone of the same sex. It is part of the range of sexual expression. Many gay and lesbian individuals first become aware of and experience their homosexual thoughts and feelings during childhood and adolescence. Homosexuality has existed throughout history and across cultures. Recent changes in society's attitude toward homosexuality have helped some gay and lesbian teens feel more comfortable with their sexual orientation. In other aspects of their development, they are similar to heterosexual youngsters. They experience the same kinds of stress, struggles, and tasks during adolescence.

     Parents need to clearly understand that homosexual orientation is not a mental disorder. The cause(s) of homosexuality are not fully understood. However, a person's sexual orientation is not a matter of choice. In other words, individuals have no more choice about being homosexual than heterosexual. All teenagers do have a choice about their expression of sexual behaviors and lifestyle, regardless of their sexual orientation.

     Despite increased knowledge and information about being gay or lesbian, teens still have many concerns. These include:

* feeling different from peers;
* feeling guilty about their sexual orientation;
* worrying about the response from their families and loved ones;
* being teased and ridiculed by their peers;
* worrying about AIDS, HIV infection, and other sexually transmitted diseases;
* fearing discrimination when joining clubs, sports, seeking admission to college, and finding employment;
* being rejected and harassed by others.

     Gay and lesbian teens can become socially isolated, withdraw from activities and friends, have trouble concentrating, and develop low self-esteem. They may also develop depression. Parents and others need to be alert to these signs of distress because recent studies show that gay/lesbian youth account for a significant number of deaths by suicide in adolescence.

     It is important for parents to understand their teen's homosexual orientation and to provide emotional support. Parents often have difficulty accepting their teen's homosexuality for some of the same reasons that the youngster wants to keep it secret. Gay or lesbian adolescents should be allowed to decide when and to whom to disclose their homosexuality. Parents and other family members may gain understanding and support from organizations such as Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays (PFLAG).

     Counseling may be helpful for teens who are uncomfortable with their sexual orientation or uncertain about how to express it. They may benefit from support and the opportunity to clarify their feelings. Therapy may also help the teen adjust to personal, family, and school-related issues or conflicts that emerge. Therapy directed specifically at changing homosexual orientation is not recommended and may be harmful for an unwilling teen. It may create more confusion and anxiety by reinforcing the negative thoughts and emotions with which the youngster is already struggling.

marumaru

apapun caranya diharap guna cara lembut...
kena hormat ape yang dia rasa...
dengar segala yang dia nak cakap dan rasa...

lepas tu kalu buleh kita taknak dia jadi camtu untuk kebaikan dia...
bukan sebab parents tu malu ngan masyarakat bila anak jadi camtu...
takut orang kata macam2 dan sebagainya...