Things Are Not Always Black or White

leogal_1428

Many times, we tend to argue over isues with our fellow colleagues, spouses, parents, members & etc.
We failed to realise that we're merely stressing our views which could be right for us but wrong to others, in the heat of the arguement. We need to establish greater sense of understanding & maturity, which could could help us to form a meaningful & better relationship.
In life, a lesson learned in your past that you will never forget completely.

When I was in primary school, I got into a major argument with a boy in my class. I have forgotten what the argument was about, but I have never forgotten the lesson learned that day.

I was convinced that I was right and he was wrong - and he was just as convinced that I was wrong and he was right. The teacher decided to teach us a very important lesson. She brought us up to the front of the class and placed him on one side of her desk and me on the other.

In the middle of her desk was a large, round object. I could clearly see that it was black. She asked the boy what color the object was. White, he answered.

I couldn't believe he said the object was white, when it was obviously black! Another argument started between my classmate and me, this time about the color of the object.

The teacher told me to go stand where the boy was standing and told him to come stand where I had been. We changed places, and now she asked me what the color of the object was. I had to answer, White. It was an object with two differently colored sides, and from his viewpoint it was white. Only from my side was it black.

My teacher taught me a very important lesson learned that day You must stand in the other person's shoes and look at the situation through their eyes in order to truly understand their perspective.

purplehyppo

wow..very good lesson youve learned from that..
btw whats that round thing?
me want to have one..its easier to make someone understand about standing in one's shoes thing..

naden

Originally posted by purplehyppo at 30-1-2008 11:59 AM
btw whats that round thing?

donat yg half bersalut susu & the other half bersalut coklat kot..

purplehyppo

hihi..ade jual kat dunkin' donut ak agak2

leogal_1428

it was just a round pensil sharpener.......wah pandai kamu nak ingat yg bukan-bukan

mbhcsf

i thought it was an optical illusion like Roscharsh?? spelling? Chart / thematic chart tu...

Agul

reading the topic title, I thought it was about gray area...

my-alja

nak tahu black n white situation more clearly..u must go to german n deal with a policeman

nak anak2 kita belajar pasal gray more effectively, u must send ur kids to england n learn something from them....

believe me  that's why pakistan n india is never ending issue ...bcos british is so brilliant about being gray on anything

[ Last edited by  my-alja at 30-1-2008 08:43 PM ]

Agul

Gray could be overwheming. (if everything's gray, that is... )

Would black and white definiteness simplify things?

mbhcsf

if there is  such saying or thing labeled as black and white - Grey areas then how about

red and white ?
or even PINK?

what does pink signify>


But in Islam, there is also what is termed as Black and white - mubah ker syubhah? and from there lies the basis of opinions formulations ? fatwa etc or teh scholar opinions?

my-alja

Originally posted by Agul at 30-1-2008 09:53 PM
Gray could be overwheming. (if everything's gray, that is... )

Would black and white definiteness simplify things?

of course....esp for the lawyer who loves to ask YES n NO answer

and for those who are so busy to asnwer ur question like typical gomen officer sitting at the service counter

my-alja

grey is a combination of white n black...how can u get pink out of this two colours

hamizao

A lovely post............but I too thought from the topic, it's about grey.:cf:

hamizao

I know what you mean and you are absolutely right.
The Germans are known for beng exacting, precise and methodical.

nazadiyah

hidup  ne mcm pelangi

naden

Originally posted by nazadiyah at 3-2-2008 06:07 PM
hidup  ne mcm pelangi

yeah.. macam pelangi..
yang hanya hadir selepas hujan, huh?

orang selalu kaitkan hujan dgn kesedihan..
bencana & menyusahkan (kalau hujan sampai banjir la)..
xramai yg pandang hujan tu sebagai rahmat..
pencuci kotoran & palitan noda yg ada di muka bumi..
menyegarkan tanah dan tumbuhan yang kontang & gersang..
menyamankan ruang & suasana setelah teriknya bahang mentari..

pelangi itu indah.. pemujuk hati setelah rasa berduka & berhujan airmata..
yeah, pelangi itu indah.. tapi keindahan yang sementara..
hanya sementara..

cuma itu sahaja.. tapi adakah tetap bermakna?
terpulang pada empunya diri..

ussopp

Originally posted by leogal_1428 at 30-1-2008 11:26 AM
My teacher taught me a very important lesson learned that day You muststand in the other person's shoes and look at the situation throughtheir eyes in order to truly understand their perspective.

so...so right....

correcting people by using their own view is the most effective....

but, must be careful, not every shoes is a good shoes....must be checked with the standard reference...

Agul

That's the basis of subtle persuasion.

seribulan

Black and white...everything in writing...on paper...
on the dotted line...

real life? no black and white...it takes all shades...

thessailly

rasa-rasanya semua perkara ialah hitam dan putih. "kelabu" akan menjadi putih atau hitam pada akhirnya.