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Sexless marriage, stay or just build new life?
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Post time 1-3-2023 02:16 PM
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Thecatnextdoor replied at 1-3-2023 02:04 PM
Tulah bahaya u
Kalau i ni jahat mmg lama dah i makan luar sbb nafkah batin tu rasa mcm tak benar2 ...
Tak baloi makan luar lah.. sbb too many things at stake...
Kalo sangkut kes nusyuz nnti panjang cerita plak kot... silap2 bertahun2 turun naik mahkamah... i tak pasti sgt apa benda yg boleh hilang kalo kena charge kes nusyuz neh.. tp turun naik mahkamah sgt makan masa dan wang
Yg pasti kalo u tergerak hati utk mula hidup dgn orang lain or tawar hati dgn husband.. u bersabar lah sikit and end one relationship properly before start a new one..
Nak divorce pun susah.. apatah lagi kalo ada bitter experience... sbb divorce ni byk pakai duit.. and byk harta bersama yang kena kira betul2.. u know la kan bila berebut harta sepencarian ni... mcm2 maslaah or isu timbul |
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green~tea replied at 1-3-2023 02:16 PM
Tak baloi makan luar lah.. sbb too many things at stake...
Kalo sangkut kes nusyuz nnti panjang ce ...
Tulah bukannya tak sayang dia, cuma rasa mcm our sex life tu mcm hilang sparks - kadang2 rasa mcm sedih. I pn tak sure i ke problem dia sbb i ni jenis pendam, mcm ssh sikit nak communicate sbb i ni tak suka confrontation n husband i ni cengey sikit
Ada sekali tu i marah dia sbb dia garang sgt dgn i - tp lps tu mmg kerap dia bersama dgn i tp tahan sebulan je. Hampeh |
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Edited by Aril5300 at 1-3-2023 04:56 PM
Entah la..i rsa ada je pompuan yg in love with someone but not interested with sex...mmg bila i nk sex pun, i cuba foreplay lama jgk, tp x basah pun bwh tu huhu...end up i masturbate je sebelah dia...wife terus blakangkan i, terus tido..mungkin lega kot x perlu layan sex haha
Tp yg peliknya, masa couple dlu senang jer dia turned on...bila dh kawin, terbalik pulak huhu
I ada juga beli toys, maybe boleh spice up our sex life..tp bila cuba guna dia rasa pelik, terus dia turned off huhu
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Edited by Aril5300 at 1-3-2023 04:54 PM
Kalau i, bila romantic sex mmg ML dgn penuh kasih sayang..masa ni semua kata2 cinta, puji2an semua keluar la hehe..bila rough sex, mmg buat as f*** buddies la..
Setiap kali lps sex, i akan jdi manja dgn late wife...lentuk2 kepala kt bahu dia, sllu renung mnja..late wife minta belanja makan atau brg yg dia suka, i akan belikan dgn senang hati...wife minta bwk ke mana2, i happily jdi driver dia
Tp bila dh 2-3 minggu tak dpt sex, I dh start rsa kekok nk manja2 especially bila kena reject ajak sex...wife minta buat itu ini, I buat jgk tp rsa mcm terpaksa huhu...wife mcm perasan I jdi kurang manja, but she seems doesn't care
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tp i admit we are not compatible each other...dia degree background bisnes, i background engineering...dia extrovert, i'm a bit introvert..dia suka lawak bodoh, i suka educated jokes...so wavelength x sama..sejak couple pun dlu kitaorg susah nk berborak lama2 sbb x de common interest..borak2 dlm 15-20 minit, lps tu krik3
Masa couple we both notice we are not compatible each other, tp we proceed jgk kawin...mungkin dia tgok i ada rupa, husb material, i pula tgok dia cantik, lemah lembut, ada degree so i rsa mcm sekufu....part incompatible tu i rsa mungkin boleh adapt bila dh hidup bersama...tp end up incompatibility ni la yg buat late wife jdi susah nk turned on, I guess
I teringin nk bca curhat atau confession lelaki/perempuan yg asexual ni, apa POV diaorg tentang sex ni, tp x pernah jumpa lak...puas cari kt iium confession, forum or other plaform...confession psl partner asexual byk la jumpa
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Aril5300 replied at 1-3-2023 04:50 PM
Kalau i, bila romantic sex mmg ML dgn penuh kasih sayang..masa ni semua kata2 cinta, puji2an semua ...
Sbb husband i takde pn mcm tu sdgkn dia kata dia sayang je kt i,
I ada curhat kt kwn sbb husband i jenis tak meluahkan tp i omit sexual part tu, dorg kata maybe itu bkn love language husband i
Tp yelah pelik sungguh i sbb drama2 yg i tgok male leads sllnya romantik je maybe irl tak berlaku. |
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Post time 1-3-2023 08:43 PM
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Thecatnextdoor replied at 1-3-2023 03:55 PM
Tulah bukannya tak sayang dia, cuma rasa mcm our sex life tu mcm hilang sparks - kadang2 rasa mcm ...
Cuba la amal ayat 102, surah albaqarah, setiap kali lepas solat.... takut u kena sihir pemisah je.. sbb korang mcm takde communication and dia garang...
I dunno what to say, sbb i speechless baca... cuba put myself in your shoes..
Kalo sexless dari awal, dan communication fail.. i would walk away je.. tp kalo first 5-10, 20 yrs of marriage semua manis2... tp lama2 heols berubah sexless sbb faktor kesihatan ke etc, i will stay definitely.. and kalo dia masih kuat nafsu di usia 80 an, whereby all my gigi semua dah takde, i will still please him sexually.... off tangent comment sikit, do you know that granny takde gigi can give great blowjob?  |
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Post time 1-3-2023 08:48 PM
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Aril5300 replied at 1-3-2023 04:49 PM
Entah la..i rsa ada je pompuan yg in love with someone but not interested with sex...mmg bila i nk ...
Ooohhh. Kalau macam tu rasanya late wife u tu mati putik kot. Istilah utk lelaki mati pucuk. |
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Post time 1-3-2023 09:31 PM
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Olumis replied at 1-3-2023 09:20 PM
Ooohhh. Kalau macam tu rasanya late wife u tu mati putik kot. Istilah utk lelaki mati pucuk.
Haa ye kot..
Or simply dia tak pernah rasa orgasm or maybe she just faking it the whole time sbb hanya org yg pernah orgasm je tahu mcmana orgasm tu.. cant describe.....
I ni sepanjang 12 tahun kawen orgasm dgn masturbate aje... sbb my ex couldnt be bothered to have proper sex with me... nak ajak tengok porn, i yg kena marah....
I blowjob dia.. dia ckp yucks yekkkkkkk
And he never once lick pussy i... until divorce pun he never tried |
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green~tea replied at 1-3-2023 09:31 PM
Haa ye kot..
Yuppp. Maybe tak pernah rasa orgasm kot. Klu pernah rasa, mustahil nak tolak sex. |
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green~tea replied at 1-3-2023 09:31 PM
Haa ye kot..
I pun sama husband i tak pernah oral i, and i pulak nak try new positions tp husband i mcm suka missionary style je
Dulu i bj husband i, tp lps tgok dia mcm tak rela nak oral i, jadi i stopped. Tp ada juga dia beg for bj so as isteri yg patuh i bg je. |
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Post time 1-3-2023 10:04 PM
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Thecatnextdoor replied at 1-3-2023 10:00 PM
I pun sama husband i tak pernah oral i, and i pulak nak try new positions tp husband i mcm suka mi ...
Eh samaaa.. ex i punya sex pelik sikit. Dia taknak ada sebarang light dlm bilik tido.... kena gelap gelita.. kena dalam selimut, takleh bogel...
i takleh tengok totey dia.. even salin baju pun ada kain utk cover or dia salin or pakai baju dlm bilik air....
So ngesek dlm selimut lime 1-2 mins settle.. stress laa sex camtu.. but i dpt tahan 12 yrs ye... last2 i tak minta dah sex from him.. kalo tak minta 6 months, then 6 months laa dia suka suki tak perlu touch i.. siap suruh mak dia tido kat katil i lg supaya less skin touching dgn dia
Kat mall pun dia tak suka i pegang tangan dia.. heols marah2.... siap forward hadis youtube ceramah pasal suami isteri PDA (public display of affecfion) |
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Post time 1-3-2023 10:06 PM
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Bila ingat balik apa ex buat.. i rasa terhina sangat..
I felt ugly... i felt useless...
Terngiang2 bacaan lafaz taklik tak sentuh isteri lebih 4 bulan, jatuh 1 talak... so i mmg usaha minta sex at least once every 6 months... sbb i takut jatuh talak |
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Post time 1-3-2023 10:08 PM
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Terbalik dgn suami sekarang.... dah bertahun2 kawen pun heols masih merenyam nak ML 3-4 times per week okay...
He doesnt mind i nak paut lengan dia, peluk dia, raba dia in public.. semua dia suka....
Perempuan ni simple je kemahuan nya... kita nak companionship sahaja... others is just a bonus.... |
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green~tea replied at 1-3-2023 10:08 PM
Terbalik dgn suami sekarang.... dah bertahun2 kawen pun heols masih merenyam nak ML 3-4 times per we ...
Issue i lebih kpd intimacy i rasa, sbb bila keluar boleh je pegang2 tangan tp sekejap je. Dia pn bila i lps tangan dia takde dia nak grab balik ke apa so i assume mmg dia tak berapa suka pda huhu
Ktrg suka keluar mall dgn anak2 jarang sgt dating sbb sibuk dua2 org...bila balik i sll kena layan kena anak2 sbb dorg mmg tak main dgn ayah dorg.
Entahla, nak meluah pn taktau nak meluah kt mana...i sendiri taktau apa sbnrnya isu rumah tangga kami sbb dh lama sgt jd barah...
Tp kwn2 i yg kenal kami, mmg kata husband i actually nampak happier bila i kerja dkt dgn pejabat dia banding dulu. Dulu i keja jauh sikit skrg i pindah masuk pejabat yg sama tp lain2 dept. Jd tiap2 hari i spend masa dgn dia breakfast lunch sama |
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Post time 2-3-2023 01:36 PM
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Thecatnextdoor replied at 2-3-2023 01:15 PM
Issue i lebih kpd intimacy i rasa, sbb bila keluar boleh je pegang2 tangan tp sekejap je. Dia pn b ...
Tengok dendepan/baca cerita sounds normal to me...
Maybe husband u penat kot.. cer rekemen supplements utk kurangkan penat both |
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Sungguh ngeri ek bila keinginan sexual tu tidak dipenuhi. Sampai sanggup bersugar mygad this is ngeri.
At one point, mesti ada reason kenapa keinginan sexual ini hanya halal dalam perkahwinan sedangkan sex ini salah satu keperluan yang orang cakap memang perlu la.
Didoakan semoga awak jumpa pasanganhalal yang sama vibe dengan awak in every ways.
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tq tt buka thread ni. wpun iols xhadapi masalah tp thread ni very knowledgble & buka mata |
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Uol yang mkn luar, pls stop it.
Bila dah mula sekali, susah nak stop.
Nanti dah kena penyakit, lagi teruk.
Mungkin kena cari hobi lain yg boleh alihkan fikiran kita dari terlalu memikirkan hal itu.
Kalau ikut ustaz, kena puasa utk kurangkan nafsu...tapi gitu la...semua berkait dgn iman. Malas nak ceramah mcm ustazah kat sini sebab i yakin, semua dalam ni tahu psl dosa zina dan pahala puasa bagai. hahaha
Yang wanita pulak, kalau tak bernafsu, mungkin blh cari bidan, utk urut. Dlm badan kita ni ada urat yang berkaitan tu, mungkin tersumbat atau apa yg menyebabkan hilang selera terhdp s**, selain dari berubat in case terasa mcm kena sihir. |
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