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Edited by tayam at 24-3-2017 02:23 PM
simpati kat you.. ...are you sarawakian??sbb biasanya org sarawak yg brew diorg punya arak sndri and why your dad blh layan citer2 mcm tu dpn korang..ngeri weh |
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setiap family ada kisah sendiri..
lagi teruk sampai kena rogol dengan ahli keluarga sendiri pun ada..
so u jangan rasa rendah diri sebab tu..
yang dah lepas tu, just let go..
learn to forgive and forget..
lapangkan hati dan fikiran u..
fikir untuk masa depan yang lebih baik..
one day bila u jadi ibu, jadikan kisah kanak-kanak u sebagai iktibar..
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this...
Tapi me tak boleh nak jumpa psychiatrist coz menurut orang Malaysia ni, hanya orang GILA yang pegi jumpa shrink.
first of all TT kena ubah persepsi TT sndiri tentang org lain/umum tentang pakar sakit jiwa.lantak die org la nak fikir ape... . Sesi perjumpaan antara psychiatrist ke kaunselor ke therapist ke tu semua P & C....so kalau TT gi jumpe mereka pun, xde sape yg akan tahu kalau TT x cite pd org lain. yg penting TT ade duit.
TT perlu utamakan diri TT dahulu. ni utk kesihatan mental, emosi fizikal TT. Tgk la keadaan TT skrg. hal mengenai family ni bukan sesuatu yg kite bleh buang dlm tong sampah atau delete. Ia selamanye dgn kite, sbb ia sebahagian dari hidup kite.Ia sebahagian besar diri kite ia adalah sejarah hidup kite.
manja nasihatkan TT utk berjumpe dgn yg pakar. mereka lebih mengetahui bagaimana nak sembuhkan TT. dgn support dari org tersayang, kekuatan diri TT & Allah swt..insyaallah TT bleh recover dari semua ni..but it all takes time..
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Edited by mbhcsf at 25-3-2017 06:27 AM
okay - still she is your mom at least i guess you can be alhamdulillah grateful for what she has done for you and i think yg mana u think u are in control and dysfunctional tu u are still in control. i could see the effect of faulty learning there but well...u cant reverse the past but you are in fact in control of the future...so...how do u feel as a person when you realised that these 'toxic painful experiences of your childhood ni ' are affecting you and you think u dont want to have these things to overpowering you subconsciously?
do u feel it is about time to seek ' space and solace' for to self growth ? ke?
untuk improve. gitu ke?
i think seeking psychiatrist - or registered caounsellor would be the best thing u know...i mean think a bout it positively...
so since u are aware about it, which is a good thing though, so my next line of query wouldbe:
what you would want to do with these challenges that u have faced, thus far ? pada i ini lebih penting.
i mean - what is the bigger purpose of this sharing u nak capai anything yg positive - i believe? ? sorry i asked, i am not quite clear ?
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yes so true, makes her ab better person,, rich with life experiences and in control of the future on certain things ...
so yeah i think she has loads of space for more self growth and improvement
optimist.
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these are a few quite a personal questions and you dont have to answer these here.
would u be able to forgive ( i know forgetting is hard ) those who are at fault? or your past?
would this be a closure of a new chapter ?
i mean ...is that what you are yearning for , ke?
dont have to answer here , ini self check je... |
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is there any tiny weeny bits of love for her ( you r mom ) in you , tak?u rasa macam mane ye kat your parents ( regardless who and what they did to you lah sekarang)
kalau dia numb , detached and heartless...i think ubatnya the touch of love from her own children unconditionally and nak ras aitu dengan ikhlas ...tulah tu questions i kat you ...pelan pelan...
i mean parents make mistakes kan? depa tak perfect , i mean that is a givenlah jugak...
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Edited by mbhcsf at 25-3-2017 06:21 AM
I always knew my family & I are dysfunctional! Tapi me tak boleh nak jumpa psychiatrist coz menurut orang Malaysia ni, hanya orang GILA yang pegi jumpa shrink. U all ingat tak dengan penyanyi Muhd. Yassin, orang mengata dia gila sedangkan dia cuma mengalami tekanan perasaan.
think an educated person with strong personality ( which i think u are ) like you shouldn't be thinking like this, sebab u aware and u sedar this is thing needs ? intervention if you think so lah...
u tau kan , kenape? it is sign of strength to seek help , ikhtiar dan dan ia satu pahala u know untuk get help
forsaken lah org luar nak kata apa, seeing a psychiatrist is okay ...u nak tolong diri and understand and gain control better of your ' situation' - boleh cuba forsaken all the negatives?
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tt jumpa psikiatri xseterukyg disangka
bukan org gila je jumpa psikiatri
org depreseion, ocd, bipolar pun jumpa psikiatri
semoga yg terbaik buat tt sefamili
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Edited by onexox97 at 28-3-2017 03:42 PM
petua nak bahagia adalah redha dengan apa yg ditaqdirkan
tidak menyesal meratap pilu
nescaya tenang je rasa
tpi seme tu senang disebut payah dibuat |
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walaupon aku kelam kelibut baca ko asik ber me2 tt, tetap aku kesian dgn kau. aku tau ramai bg cadangan suruh lupakan semua dan mulakan hidup baru. tp its not that simple. tp berbalik pada fitrahnye itu lah mak kau, die sebegitu dan kau terimalah die begitu. |
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Kesiannya hidup family ko tt penuh kepura-puraan.
Apapun,, hidup perlu pandang ke depan. Mmg kta tak dpt nk pilih sapa yg jadi mak kita, tp kita boleh pilih nak hidup bahagia ke tak. Mak x boleh buang, tp bahagia boleh carik. |
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msti ko ingt ko sorg je yg ade dysfunctional family kn. mak aku pn xpenah hug aku adik bradik. xbuat mcm mak org lain.tp jgn pk sgt.ko je yg blh buat hdp ko bhagia.ape je yg mak aku buat kt aku, aku sabar n redha tp aku bls dgn buat baik pd mak..dan aku percaye bapak ko punca mak ko jd mcm tu.cuba ko bg kasih syg and more attention to her. yg mgkin die xdpt dr bapak ko.ko xpnh beranak ko xtau betapa sukarnye beranak setiap tahun.mental fizikal hbs. emosi ni makan tahun utk pulih tau. ntah2 baru nk pulih dh pregnnt balik..its not easy to pregnnt every year. |
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mak ai.. tak terjangkau dek pemikiran aku ni pasal masalah ko ni tt..
aku sangat-sangat bersimpati terhadap kisah hidup ko
tak dpt nak bagi apa2 lagi cadangan/nasihat bernas utk tt buat masa ni
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Kesiannye idop u...mentally torture ! Please smbung.. |
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Simpati kt u... Pape pom i xsabar nk bca cerita drpd u lagi, sbb bila baca terbayang drama2 dlm tv tu, xsangka ianya wujud... Btw, keep strong dan tabah, i xmo judge u, i anggap u juz share the story of u n ur family. |
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sedara aku satu fam ada penyakit mental..
adik beradik sepupu ayah aku.. semua perempuan semua mental..
sorang kalau dapat air.. mmg main air je..
tapi dorng tetap berkahwin ada ank2x yang baik..dan suami yang penyayang..
tapi kena bawak pi hospital la..
ada je antara dorng di refer ke tg rambutan... and keluar.. fam support.. ank support..
sekarang okay je..
takde la nak bandingkan TT dengan keluarga makcik tu..
tapi kalau boleh dapatkan rawatan dulu... |
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kesian tt, tapi maybe aku reserved komen dulu.. sbb aku nak baca kisah2 tt bagi habis baru boleh komen secara keseluruhan..
hope tt dpt smbung.. |
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Category: Cinta & Perhubungan
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Post time 24-3-2017 01:19 PM
