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[Cinta] #Move on dari cinta yang menyakitkan#

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Post time 17-1-2022 08:40 AM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
day replied at 17-1-2022 08:21 AM
Confuse jap. So that guy tu ex husband ke atau bf lepas dah cerai..

My 2nd boifren.  Sori mukadimah aku tu meleret dengan my 1st boifren.  My hasben was my 3rd boifren.  Never loved him anyway.
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 Author| Post time 17-1-2022 09:16 AM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
tumpanglalu74 replied at 17-1-2022 08:40 AM
My 2nd boifren.  Sori mukadimah aku tu meleret dengan my 1st boifren.  My hasben was my 3rd boifre ...

Why getting married if no love?
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Post time 17-1-2022 10:28 AM | Show all posts
Edited by figurae at 17-1-2022 10:41 AM

Dear TT, me ols faham patah hati dan putus cinta ni sgt menyakitkan. Tak kiralah dgn sesiapapon. Tambah2 dalam kes TT hubungan cinta yang takde closure, takde penutup... Tapi siapalah me untuk judge orang lain sebab ujian setiap orang tak sama. Tapi daripada post TT tu I know you're a good person.

Tapi dalam kes TT me harap TT ambillah kesakitan ni sebagai hikmah Tuhan nak bagi. Me ols doakan TT dapat lalui phase ni dengan tenang dan tabah, jangan bersedih lama-lama dan semoga bertemu dengan kebahagiaan yang sebenar.

Sayangi diri sendiri, tak mau ulang lagi, dan baiki hubungan dengan Tuhan. itulah erti kebahagiaan yang sebenar.

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 Author| Post time 17-1-2022 02:59 PM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
figurae replied at 17-1-2022 10:28 AM
Dear TT, me ols faham patah hati dan putus cinta ni sgt menyakitkan. Tak kiralah dgn sesiapapon. Tam ...

Masya Allah. Im so touched dgn ur kind words
Bergenang jap air mata..huhu..

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Post time 18-1-2022 05:09 AM | Show all posts
musangbodoh replied at 16-1-2022 05:46 PM
nk refer nasihat pakar/ubat sesuai leh tanya @ipes2 terbaik

terima kasih tag saya
terima kasih juga kerana pujian nya
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 Author| Post time 18-1-2022 08:27 AM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
ipes2 replied at 18-1-2022 05:09 AM
terima kasih tag saya
terima kasih juga kerana pujian nya

Sy ada PM doc..
TQ @musangbodoh bg referral..
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Post time 18-1-2022 04:36 PM | Show all posts
day replied at 18-1-2022 08:27 AM
Sy ada PM doc..
TQ @musangbodoh bg referral..

oh OK but I didnt get any messages.but its OK, maybe u retracted and that is fine.
or maybe that you do not wish to talk to a doctor at this time, and this is fine too.
..only when u r ready.



i am a senior clinical fellow in endocrinology
one of my brach of work is Gender issues, but from medical / hormonal perspectives; i spent 10years in Gender Identity Disorder (mainly hormonally changing patients' sex eg FTM or MTF or etc)


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Post time 18-1-2022 05:01 PM | Show all posts
Sorry didnt have the opportunity to read up focusedly, but i get a gist of what u were saying.

As this is a more psychological ie its an issue with your sexual orientation (specifically your attraction to same sex, female in this case), it would define your issue as having Lesbianism (i think), if you were honest in your thread. I manage more with Transgender, Gender Identity Disorder and sex-change. There is little Sexual Orientation that I deal with, but i think my input would be valid for you. As a start, lets be clear that you do not have a psychiatric disorder and do not need any medications. Its downright common to feel what you feel and some young adults do / did experiment with this.

You are sure that you do not wish to be intimate with a man because of bad experienced with a male gender, eg as a child or a young adult or in your 20s? You may wish not to answer if you feel uncomfortable with it.

I'd like to stress on you that you are not a man or a lesser woman etc, its just your orientation when it comes to intimacy, is more towrads a woman and this is not uncommon.
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 Author| Post time 18-1-2022 07:05 PM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
ipes2 replied at 18-1-2022 05:01 PM
Sorry didnt have the opportunity to read up focusedly, but i get a gist of what u were saying.

As t ...

Kalau kata bad experience, memang tak ada. Saya ada abang n adik lelaki, ada kakak dan adik perempuan. Mak sy garang sikit, ayah sy a bit softer. As far as I know, tak pernah sexually abused smp trauma dgn lelaki. Dari kecik mmg attracted to girls tapi masa kecik tak tau nak define apa feelings ni.
Masa awal 20an, i never pursue atau act on my feelings towards girl. Cuma bila dah 27 gitu, tetiba rasa berani nak approach n start a relationship.
Sy cam confuse sbb kan orang ada kata macam mana pun perempuan in same sex relationship, akan ada masa diorang akan balik juga pada lelaki. As a muslim, of course i feel sinful to have this feeling and i just want a way out of these.
Sekarang, maybe saya tengah berubah, saya boleh control emosi and nafsu. Tapi saya takut sangat, someday, tiber saya jumpa perempuan yg saya suka, and i fall into the same cycle lagi. Penat nk go through another breakup later in life lagi.
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Post time 21-1-2022 07:49 AM | Show all posts
day replied at 18-1-2022 07:05 PM
Kalau kata bad experience, memang tak ada. Saya ada abang n adik lelaki, ada kakak dan adik peremp ...

Sy cam confuse sbb kan orang ada kata macam mana pun perempuan in same sex relationship, akan ada masa diorang akan balik juga pada lelaki.
true la .. same sex relationship .. cinta yang terlarang ..
penyakit .. upsetting social disorder ..
and lagi your existance dalam dunia dari Ibu dan Bapa kamu .. rite

As a muslim, of course i feel sinful to have this feeling and i just want a way out of these.
good aahhh .. when come to your senses ..
follow what your friend did .. 'kahwin' ..

Sekarang, maybe saya tengah berubah, saya boleh control emosi and nafsu. Tapi saya takut sangat, someday, tiber saya jumpa perempuan yg saya suka, and i fall into the same cycle lagi. Penat nk go through another breakup later in life lagi.
good ..


worry not .. go and get patner and kahwin .. sampai dapat anak ..
all yang your salah channel feeling semua akan lenyap ..
you will concentrate towards your beloved hubby and baby
ini yang good nya ugama islam .. teach ..
same macam kedua orang tua kamu yang menjaga dan membela kamu sampai dewasa ..

confuse feelings .. errmm

all d'best good luck

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Post time 27-1-2022 10:23 PM | Show all posts
Edited by mbhcsf at 27-1-2022 10:38 PM

manusia ade juzuk atau kmponen : ruh , nafsu, aqal, jasad  

so, apa yg krisis sekarang bukan jasad tapi emosi psyche kan?  jad nak isu komponen ruh tu ialah sama sifat juga - yakni  ilmu.

lorongkan every yearning you have, dissapointment you have dengan bende simple je, mula mengisi jiwa yg 'kosong, atau benda yg you nak ubah tu  'and mulai kekososngan tu - dengan ilmu. itu manfaat minda, jiwa and aqal . you got tiga benda.

kenali diri, nikmat Allah and mula fahami diri and slowly bentuk jiwa dengan ilmu , meahami hakikat hak and hakikit realiti.

so, baguslah so far TT dah berubah so kuatkan je..just carry on with life , alihkan sentimen yg TT nak palingkan itu dengan benda yg produktif and buat you rasa happy. I am sure  u can figure it  out. I think kalau u ada niat nak beruah and miula zahirkan dengan perbuatan tu, kire you ade kesinan kudrat dari Allah and Allah sees that , ini ujian hidup kan , tak mudah surely so...it is okay pelan pelan berunah and letakkan goal , u nak redha aLLAh and ini tak mudah sangat tak mudah tapi boleh apa apa pun mula dengan lagkah pertama.

ilmu ni if according imam ghazali banyak ...so i think kalau u get yourselh busy dengan ilmu dan canag ilmu pun , memang rasa tak cukup mase ...so pada i , u can do alot of thonk to vent out all of this hubungan terlarang. Salurkan kepada sesuatu yg positif and produktif and memanfaatkan , i am sure  kalau dah sekuat ini jiwa you untuk berubah you could find a way sikit sikit.
pasal si dia tu = baguslah dia u lepaskan sebab dia berhak juga untuk capai bahagia dia dengan lakukan benda yg sunnah, so be proud of her in that sense. Doa and doa je , and lakukan sedekah secara konsisten and doa je kat ALlah , agar Allah ambik balik semua feeling y tak produktif - all the yearnings , or perasaan tak sepatutnya...lead a lifestyle yg menjaminkan kesejehateraan aqal. harta , nyawa, agama  keturunan you , all in all known as maqasid syariah.

isikan jiwa dengan komponen yg sama sifat dengan ruh tu , ilmu. itu sumber kekuatan jiwa , jiwa komponen ruh ...so u need simlar  component to strengthen it, since you have been asking apa , bagaiman cara nak kuatkan jiwa, aqal , emosi, nafsu tu part of ruh ...so...itu jawapannya.




okay i wish you well.



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Post time 25-2-2022 08:59 PM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
day replied at 17-1-2022 12:59 AM
Aku bukan tomboy..aku pakai tudung cuma maybe nampak aku tak feminin sangat..masa kecik mmg aku mc ...

Ko ada daddy issue ke dik?

Btw g la bt hormon treatment..pastu try refresh ur look..give it a try for a change...

Xcuba xtau kan..

Hati ni Allah yang pegang..

Hidayah Itu milik Allah

Rezeki xpernah tersalah alamat

Dan laknat Allah terhadap kaum put itu benar..bertaubatlah sementara masih ada kesempatan
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Post time 25-2-2022 09:02 PM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
day replied at 18-1-2022 10:27 AM
Sy ada PM doc..
TQ @musangbodoh bg referral..

Xpyh la dgr Nasihat Dr laki org yg Kaki selingkuh..nk kata xmatang dh tuwe kerepot nk kata xbijak doktor tp dok skandal Sana sini...pffftt
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Post time 28-2-2022 01:16 PM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
Normabaru replied at 25-2-2022 09:02 PM
Xpyh la dgr Nasihat Dr laki org yg Kaki selingkuh..nk kata xmatang dh tuwe kerepot nk kata xbijak  ...

Ipes keww yg kaki selingkuh iteww?

Ko main taram aja ...

Kahkahkahkahkahkah
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Post time 28-2-2022 01:16 PM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
mbhcsf replied at 27-1-2022 10:23 PM
manusia ade juzuk atau kmponen : ruh , nafsu, aqal, jasad  

so, apa yg krisis sekarang bukan jasad  ...

Anak dah berapa ketul?
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Post time 28-2-2022 01:18 PM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
Mana ada thrill, mana nak test your mettle  kalau takda sakit?

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Post time 28-2-2022 01:20 PM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
tumpanglalu74 replied at 17-1-2022 08:40 AM
My 2nd boifren.  Sori mukadimah aku tu meleret dengan my 1st boifren.  My hasben was my 3rd boifre ...

Ko berhak bahagia.....cerai kalau tak bahagia...mungkin husbond ko yg ke 9 baru boleh datang bahagia yg ko dambakheun

Kahkahkahkahkahkahkah
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