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ni penyakit dalam hati:

matz takut friend yang ada penyakit .......   RIAK  ..........

matz selalu tertanya2..apa sal ya, orang suka nak cakap besar.

i don't come from a  rich family,so matz tak tau nak cakap besar.matz ada  jugak di hina orang.matz punya family,kalau left over food we masok fridge
so that we can makan tomorrow.selalu nya, left over food matz masok microwave to heat up and eat.matz tak shy telling people i am not rich.
in one incident,my colleague were talking about food.matz tak tau kenapa
pulak  this malay friend of mine,dia ketawakan matz after that dia bilang orang...in here, ONLY MATZ CAN EAT LEFT OVER FOOD.my friends pun tercengang...matz tak marah with him,ini lumrah dunia....

deaf4ever

Originally posted by matz_rockz at 18-3-2004 10:41 AM:
orang cakap health is wealth.one of my friend,dia dah operate kepala 2 kali.brain dia ada fluid yang excess (something like that)..kat dahi dia ada operation punya mark.ngeri jugak....satu kali ope ...

kesian eh.....

semoga dia sabar je la....

deaf4ever

Originally posted by matz_rockz at 18-3-2004 04:32 PM:
ni penyakit dalam hati:

matz takut friend yang ada penyakit .......   RIAK  ..........

matz selalu tertanya2..apa sal ya, orang suka nak cakap besar.

i don't come from a  rich family,so ma ...

biasalah matz....   

darah sama merah... tapi hati dan mentaliti lain2.

chicsee

Originally posted by matz_rockz at 18-3-2004 04:32 PM:
ni penyakit dalam hati:

matz takut friend yang ada penyakit .......   RIAK  ..........

matz selalu tertanya2..apa sal ya, orang suka nak cakap besar.

i don't come from a  rich family,so ma ...

Betul tu Matz.  Tapi kenapa kawan you macam gitu?  Kan memang agama kita pun melarang kita membazir.  Makanan tu kan rezki, selagi boleh makan, makanlah.  Buang2 berdosa...

Tapi yang Chic perasan lah, selalunya orang yang riak dan suka cakap besar ni sebenarnya habuk pun tadak.  Its just keeping up appearances...:ah:

[ Last edited by chicsee on 22-3-2004 at 09:32 AM ]

Originally posted by chicsee at 19-3-2004 02:15 PM:


Betul tu Matz.  Tapi kenapa kawan you macam gitu?  Kan memang agama kita pun melarang kita membazir.  Makanan tu kan rezki, selagi boleh makan, makanlah.  Buang2 berdosa...

Tapi yang Chic pe ...

sampai sekarang...matz tak tau makan nasi panas2...rasa macam tak sedap.
nasi semalam pun, matz boleh shoot...tak cerewet...matz tak salahkan dia,mungkin dia rasa diri dia kaya,dia tak tau hidup susah macam mana.
matz ada sedara,jumpa dia kat hari raya.dia kata kadang2 dah terlalu broke,anak makan nasi sama kicap aja.hidup ni nampak senang aja....
each one of us ada story to tell.and from one another we learn.

deaf4ever

Originally posted by chicsee at 19-3-2004 02:15 PM:


Betul tu Matz.  Tapi kenapa kawan you macam gitu?  Kan memang agama kita pun melarang kita membazir.  Makanan tu kan rezki, selagi boleh makan, makanlah.  Buang2 berdosa...

Tapi yang Chic perasan lah, selalunya orang yang riak dan suka cakap besar ni sebenarnya habuk pun tadak.  Its just making up appearances...

Chic , aku agak ko pun biasa nampak la eh....

memang betul la ko cakap -

kadang2 orang berbual champions, show off ke apa ke....

dorang cam ada mental problem kot..  cam trying to prove something...

kirakan hidup dalam pura2 gitu.

chicsee

Betul tu Deaf, hidup dalam pura2.  These pple are trying to make up for something they themselves are lacking off.  Empty vessels make the most noise...

deaf4ever

Originally posted by matz_rockz at 19-3-2004 02:31 PM:

each one of us ada story to tell.

setuju matz


bila kita kat luar eh, ngan kawan keja lama ke, members ke, apa ke....

semua sama je, happy je , relaks je...

tapi nanti kadang2 eh, kalo kita dah quite close, mesti masing2 bukak story pasal cerita dan masalah peribadi...

so memang la...macam2 story la........


sebagai kawan ke sedara ke... kenalah kita act accordingly...

my dad is a smoker for decades.he had heart problem,keluar masok hospital dari matz in primary school.funny thing,ni doctor tak tahu dia ada heart attack.at one time doctor diagnose,his nerve kat tengkok is too close to the bone,jadik terpaksa operate.doctor dah shave dia punya tengkok,the doctor who was supposed to do the operation pulak fell sick.so  operation was cancelled.in the mean time he keep on going in and out of hospital,at one time dia collaspe kat luar.then,he went to have his medical test to drive taxi,the doctor cakap...your father is in a bad shape.the next attack could be his last.takkan terperanjat ....the next day,doctor want to see my family.we discuss......operation for by pass should be done.
matz,pikir2 pun marah.he's been in and out of hospital for decades,and yet doctor tak tahu it was heart attack.
around that time pulak matz dah book ticket for 3 to go to new zealand.
kalau cancel holiday kena bayar penalty.i was prepared for that.my dad had the triple by pass (cant remember triple or double) operation...and alhamdulilah he was ok.so trip was on.

virgomal

Originally posted by myra81 at 2004-3-16 09:38 PM:
Klinik Raudhah eh??...haritu masa ayah myra sakit tinger..ada org rekemen suruh gi sana...bagus doktor tu...dia explain in detail wats the actual problem..padahal sebelum tu da gi 2 klinik lain ...

erk..mugdak ni...
apsal ko baru cakap sekarang...
kalau haritu time gath ko ckp mungkin dah lamaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa
dah tinger nak baik....:bgrin:

ni pon pasal kawan keje rekomen...
dia selama ni cakap mak dia selalu
setiap bulan sekali musti pi saner cuci tinger...
tapi aku amik tak reti jer... tak koser
sampailah dia cakap lagi
tu pon lepas kepala..gusi sumer dah berdenyut

virgomal

Originally posted by deaf4ever at 2004-3-17 10:33 PM:
referral..
ok ni aku cakap sikit pasal referral...
base on apa aku tahu.... KALO SALAH KORANG BETULKAN
dulu aku ignorant betul pasal ni semua, sampai la keadaan nerve tu jadi..
Kalo k ...

iyer ke deaf........
aku ader gak experience
sekali was time aku kenal viral fever
tu dari private doc --> polyclinic--> specialist..............hmmmm was it specialist???... aala.. aku lupa plak...
aku rasa ader gak beza.. cuma tak perasan brapa bezanyer...

masa kena nerve bermasalah tu... sekali check pala otak jer nak masuk S$200 kot..tapi aku tak go thru... sebab aku ader jalan lain...:bgrin:

masa aku kena viral fever pulak..(time tu time Sars... kat pasir panjang, whole sale)

jap sambung.....

virgomal

Originally posted by matz_rockz at 2004-3-18 09:36 AM:
matz pernah kena food poisoning....mak oiii...ingat tu pagi dah nak meninggal....tak tahan dia punya sakit....first time expereince itu macam punya pain.dia punya bisa rasa kat tummy,macam kena rod ...

erk... pernah gak kena
sekali jer... time tu kat sekolah menengah
mungkin tak ler teruk sangat..sekadar muntah

virgomal

Originally posted by matz_rockz at 2004-3-20 07:59 PM:
my dad is a smoker for decades.he had heart problem,keluar masok hospital dari matz in primary school.funny thing,ni doctor tak tahu dia ada heart attack.at one time doctor diagnose,his nerve kat t ...

hmmm... matz... citer sikit pasal bypass surgery...bleh...
erk... sesapa tolong ah...kalau tau
actually my mom-in-law memang sakit ah
yang 3 serangkai tu...
since last year doc suruh dia buat bypass surgery
tapi tak buat gak sampai lah sekarang ni
keadaan, kesihatan my mak mertua memang tak boleh
kita sumer predict... sekejap ok
sekejap tak boleh jalan..sekejap pusing kepala...hmmm
kekadang eh kesian sesangat tengok keadaan dia

orang cakap bypass surgery kat singapore ni kira chances of
success tu tinggi...iyer ke??...
but kita cuma merancang...Allah sajer yang menentukan...

my mom-in-law memang tak mau go thru it walaupon sumer
yang ader kat depan dia encourage...
she pefer's the natural death...erk... sori eh cakap camni...

Originally posted by virgomal at 23-3-2004 10:46 PM:


hmmm... matz... citer sikit pasal bypass surgery...bleh...
erk... sesapa tolong ah...kalau tau
actually my mom-in-law memang sakit ah
yang 3 serangkai tu...
since last year doc suruh dia bu ...

success rate quite high...i think, they take some veins kat kaki and sambong kat the heart.i pun scared jugak for my dad,and after the next day he's was ok.alhamdulilah....

deaf4ever

aku pun tak tau topik mana nak pos benda ni, so aku taruk kat sini je la....

kesian la ni amoi... belajar pandai tapi ada mental depression.


http://newpaper.asia1.com.sg/top/story/0,4136,55378,00.html?


Undergrad sells herself for $100
My body was not worth anything

By Tan Mae Lynn

A SINGAPOREAN undergraduate led a secret life - attending university by day and prostituting herself by night.

In two months, she slept with about 20 men, she said.

Jenny (not her real name) charged $100 each time. But her clients would also have to pay for her cab fare to either the men's homes or hotels.

Jenny, who is in her early 20s, said she was initially drawn to these sleazy encounters because of her loneliness and depression.


She was also curious about sex and wanted extra cash.

'I never had sex before. I wanted to try out what is sex,' she said. 'I preferred to try it out with strangers rather than with friends.'

But there was little pleasure in her sexual experiences, she said.

'Most of the time I felt pain. Only once or twice I enjoyed it because the guys bothered to warm me up first.'

She said most of the men she slept with used condoms.

She also claimed she had been 'sabotaged' several times. Some of her clients would leave her waiting for hours or not show up, and a few would not pay after sex.

She said: 'To me, having sex with strangers didn't matter... My body was not worth anything.'


She said she has stopped offering sexual services.

Her main reason: 'It's not a good business. I feel bad whenever they waste my time and don't show up, or they don't pay.

'I always feel guilt, whenever I do it. I can't do it anymore because I'm constantly scared of getting caught. I feel pressurised thinking about it so it's better I stop.

'With some help, I'm starting to get back my self-esteem. I realise I shouldn't be feeling like I'm not worth it.'


Jenny claims her grades in school are acceptable - Bs and Cs.

A few close friends know what she did. But her family and classmates have no clue about it.

She said both her parents, who are in their 50s, are ill and not working.

Jenny wanted to earn her own keep so she would be less of a financial burden to them. Her financial stress and other problems led to depression.

About a year ago, she was lonely and wanted to talk to someone, so she decided to call a chatline. She chose a chatline over the Internet because she didn't have a computer at home at the time.

From there, she would exchange messages with male callers, informing them of her vital statistics, age and what she could do for them. If the callers were agreeable, they would exchange telephone numbers.

Jenny said she didn't lie to them.

'I tell them the truth about myself... that I'm plump, my actual height and weight.'


They would then talk and arrange a time and place to meet.

Usually, she said, she would meet the men at a hotel or in their homes. She has even been sneaked into their homes late at night.

The men were mostly in their 20s and 30s, and some were married.

Sometimes, after one customer, she would try to get another for the night.

Jenny said: 'I usually try to wait with a customer until the morning, because cab fares are cheaper. I can't take the bus because my leg gives me pain.'

Jenny is recovering from a broken leg and a broken bone in her spine, which nearly left her crippled. She is still able to walk with help.

ATTEMPTED SUICIDE

About a year ago, she had attempted suicide by jumping from her third-floor HDB flat.

The police confirmed the incident. Attempting suicide is a crime in Singapore. But the police told The New Paper that after considering her case, they decided to let her off with a stern warning.

When she was 17, she was diagnosed with major depression and borderline personality disorder. Since then, she said she has been admitted to the Institute of Mental Health (IMH) at least 10 times. Each stay lasted at least three days.

She said she has been seeing a psychiatrist for six years, and has to take five different types of medication every day.

The New Paper contacted her psychiatrist but he declined to comment, citing patient confidentiality.

One of her friends from university said: 'When she told me about how she slept around for money I was very surprised and disappointed.

'Later, I realised she had problems and I warned her about the dangers of meeting strangers.'

To protect Jenny's identity, we are not naming her friend.

She added: 'She's not any different from any one around our age group. I think she resorted to this because she was going through a rough patch.'



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Jenny may be safe from the law, but she needs help

PROSTITUTING herself may be morally wrong, but in the eyes of the law, it's not illegal.

Criminal lawyer Luke Lee said: 'Prostitution (sexual services for payment of money or goods) is not an offence per se.'

However, he added: 'Soliciting for prostitution is an offence if done by someone other than the prostitute, that is pimping.

'Soliciting by the prostitute is an offence only if the soliciting is persistent and done in a 'public road or public place'. The Computer Misuse Act does not address this activity.'

Jenny may be safe from the law, but she needs to seek help.

Dr Brian Yeo, consultant psychiatrist at Mount Elizabeth Medical Centre, said there are some sexual abuse victims who go into prostitution or engage in promiscuous sex to feel like they're 'taking care' of themselves. Others don't appear to them as being supportive.

'They feel sullied, like there's nothing more to lose, so they feel they might as well take advantage of the situation and make money out of it.

'It's not a good way of coping, but it's not uncommon,' Dr Yeo said.

However, Jenny's case is not without hope.

'At least she seems to be asserting some control over her life... she's in university and has also been seeking help,' he said.



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If you notice yourself or someone else feeling depressed...

IF there's something bothering you, there are people you can turn to. They can help you deal with stress or depression.

This is particularly important if you've been feeling down for a prolonged period.

Ms Rajeswari K, executive director of the Singapore Association for Mental Health, said that if you notice yourself or someone else feeling depressed, and if the depression continues for some time - for example about two weeks - you should seek professional advice.

Ms Rajeswari said: 'Sometimes, some people can cope with natural support such as that from family and friends.

'If they can carry out day-to-day functions, they may be coping. If day-to-day functions are affected, then they should seek professional help.'

It could just be a matter of talking it out, to find out if they have clinical depression, she added.

'There are a lot of places you can turn to. The person can go to any counselling centre to find out if it's something that will pass, or if it's an illness.

'Sometimes depression can result from the loss of a loved one, or loss of a job, or any crisis-induced event.'

And there's no reason to be embarrassed about seeking professional help. It's much like 'seeing a doctor for high blood pressure or any other illness'.

Some numbers those who need help can call are:


Singapore Association for Mental Health (SAMH) 1800-2837019, Monday through Fridays 9am - 6pm

Suicide Prevention and Crisis Helpline (Samaritans of Singapore) 1800-2214444, 24 Hours.

deaf4ever

Dari new paper semalam.











Their 3 sons are wasting away

M'sian family struggle with kids' crippling illness

HE hardly has money to feed his seven children. Yet, recently, Mr Lun Wei Ping, 39, blew all of his savings on a TV set and a VCD player.

All the construction worker wanted was to put a smile on the pale faces of his three sick boys.

Jia Ming, 13, Jia Hong, 12, and Jia Jie, 7, are all suffering from Duchenne muscular dystrophy, a genetic disorder.


Jia Ming and Jia Hong can't even walk or stand up, while Jia Jie - still in the early stages of the illness - can still manage to stumble around their wooden house in Rawang in Selangor.


When a Guang Ming Daily reporter visited the family on Thursday, Jia Jie fell down every few steps that he took.

It was a pitiful sight.

But every time he stumbled, the determined little boy would pick himself up and continue.

Mr Lun's children were all born healthy.

He and his wife, Madam Huang Si Yue, 36, got married 14 years ago.

They have seven children - three girls, aged 14, 11, and 9, and four boys, aged 13, 12, 7 and 5 months.

Their woes started when Jia Hong was 2 years old.

Doctors discovered that he had two growths in his heart. They said the boy would be in a vegetative state if he was not operated on.

With money borrowed from his boss, Mr Lun sent Jia Hong for the operation. Nevertheless, the muscles in the boy's legs wasted away when he turned 9.

Four years after Jia Hong's operation, Jia Ming got a high fever. He was then 7 years old.

After he recovered, he appeared to be intellectually slower and his speech was affected, said Mr Lun.

He started stuttering and finally, like his brother, the muscles in his legs started to waste away.

The final blow came just five months ago, after the birth of their youngest child.

The family discovered that Jia Jie's legs were also losing their strength.

Unable to go to school, the boys lie or sit at home with nothing to do. They can only listen to their sisters' stories about school.

Desperate to make his boys happy, Mr Lun bought the TV set and VCD player. Now, despite the sad plight of the Lun boys, the house is often filled with music and laughter.

Still, the pressure on Mr Lun is immense.

As the sole breadwinner, his meagre income is hardly enough to pay for the weekly visits the three boys have to make to the hospital.

At his wits' end, he finally approached the Malaysian Chinese Association's welfare arm for help.




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Soccer star also had disorder





MUSCULAR dystrophy is a genetic disorder characterised by progressive muscle wasting and weakness.

Some well-known public figures have muscular dystrophy, including British physicist Stephen Hawking and the late Malaysian soccer legend Mokhtar Dahari

Mokhtar died in July 1991.

The Lun boys have a variant - Duchenne muscular dystrophy (DMD). Boys begin to show signs of muscle weakness as early as age three.

The disease gradually weakens the voluntary muscles - those in the arms, legs and trunk.

DMD is said to run in their mother's family, reported China Press.

chicsee

Originally posted by deaf4ever at 24-3-2004 01:43 PM:
aku pun tak tau topik mana nak pos benda ni, so aku taruk kat sini je la....

kesian la ni amoi... belajar pandai tapi ada mental depression.


[url]http://newpaper.asia1.com.sg/top/story/0[/u ...

Deaf, yang ini memang quite normal jugak lah. Budak melayu kita pun ada jugak yang terpaksa keje pat karaoke lounge to make ends meet....

deaf4ever

yep....

dressing dorang ....alahai........


dulu kan, time keja malam, so supper selalu turun Newton Food Centre ah...kul 2 pagi gitu...

semua ah melayu....adoi ngan dress code kaler hitam dorang.;)

virgomal

Originally posted by matz_rockz at 2004-3-24 08:19 AM:


success rate quite high...i think, they take some veins kat kaki and sambong kat the heart.i pun scared jugak for my dad,and after the next day he's was ok.alhamdulilah....

hmmm matz... thanks alot ah...
tapi orang tua...susah nak cakap...
lebih rela tahan sakit dari pi operation...
(:sad: teringat kat hooded...)
tahun ni jer dah nak 4 kali masuk hospital
tapi doktor tak boleh buat apa

virgomal

aku dah check bil hospital aku yang dulu tu...
yes...betul ah ckp ko tu... ader beza dari segi bayaran
kalau refer via private clinic or polyclinic...
bayaran lebih murah kalau dari polyclinic...
hmmm... kalau nak jumpa gynae kat polyclinic....ader ke????:hmm::hmm: