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Originally posted by faraway at 1-12-2007 01:55 PM 
its not easylah awal dulu macam dia tak dibenarkan
jumpa kawan ppuan sesorang, pegi rumah ppuan tanpa me, jaga batas sebab dia laki orang,
sebab dia bukan melayu ada banyak benda adalah no ...
dia boleh berubah sebab dia nampak itu yang terbaik, pasal you explain elok elok. itu key pointnya...
cuma saya wonder, untuk orang yang kawin foreigners, kalau berpisah, dorang balik tak ya, pada cara hidup asal. |
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Reply #93 truly's post
kinda like that la truly.. yeah, small things easy to compromise but if that big is so big that it affect the foundation of your relationship, mmm my opinion, kalau tak boleh compromise, kenalah go separate ways.. things like religion... mana boleh compromise.. betul tak? |
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Originally posted by LostSoul at 1-12-2007 02:22 PM
kinda like that la truly.. yeah, small things easy to compromise but if that big is so big that it affect the foundation of your relationship, mmm my opinion, kalau tak boleh compromise, kenalah ...
tapi sedihla kan lostsoul.....kalau kena pegi separate ways?  tak kan tak ada cara......tak kan kita nak cakap jer, takder jodoh? semua boleh di ubah....nak tak nak jer... |
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Originally posted by truly at 1-12-2007 02:04 PM 
betul tu, satu strategy yang boleh di cuba....walau agak dirty.....hehe. cumanya, berapa lama kenal baru nak boleh tahu kelemahan? satu lagi, mungkin dengan gunakan kelemahan dia, akan menjad ...
sound dirty truly but believe me, tu la yg paling mudah di buat......yg ni sesuai tuk pasangan somi isteri jek la...sbb buruk baik mana pun, kita kena terima dia gakkan....takkan sbb perangai dia buruk kita nak tukar dia ngan isteri/suami baru? dlm marriage apa yg buruk & baik, kelebihan & kekurangan spouse kita tuh kita kena terima but kalu kita bley ubah, naper kita x buat camtuhh? dendam ? kalu kena cara takkan jadi dendam.......kalu dia cukup dewasa tuk berpk, dia tau yg kita sayangkan dia & paksa dia berubah sbb kita nak sama2 berbahagia ngan dia......
psl ubah seorg jdk buruk perangai....yg ni lg mudah...........biasanye jdk biler yg sbbkan sorang berubah tuh takde rasa or ujud rasa kasihan dlm diri org yg diubah tuhh.......yg berubah tuh rasa x dihargai....buat pe jdk baik kalu x dihargai somi?
ekekekeke...lain mcm jek bahasa aku ngan truly ni.....truly ko laki ka pompuan? |
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Originally posted by BingkaUbi at 1-12-2007 02:30 PM
sound dirty truly but believe me, tu la yg paling mudah di buat......yg ni sesuai tuk pasangan somi isteri jek la...sbb buruk baik mana pun, kita kena terima dia gakkan....takkan sbb pera ...
betul lah tu...but then kecik hati tak kalau orang cuba mengubah kita?
mengubah untuk keburukan mudah sangat. dan akan jadi secara automatik, diri hendak atau tidak. kalau kita fed up dengan pasangan pun, kita boleh berubah untuk keburukan.
saya perempuan btw. |
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Reply #104 truly's post
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aduhh dear truly.. sedih i baca ur post.. betul.. we do have the power to change ourselves... but to change others, we need their 'permission'... mmmm my exp, things are fairly easy.. cume family tak suke, he does not need to change anything.. mmmm... kalau kita dah try, and no avail, maybe we just have to accept the fate, truly.. but don't give up too easily, and pray to God that your efforts succeeded.. |
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Originally posted by LostSoul at 1-12-2007 02:35 PM
aduhh dear truly.. sedih i baca ur post.. betul.. we do have the power to change ourselves... but to change others, we need their 'permission'... mmmm my exp, things are fairly easy.. cume family ...
hehe...tak yah bersedih, tanya jer....sebab kalau hakikat hidup ni, bila dah tak boleh berubah, kena pegi separate ways....sedih lah kan? but for you, dah selamat berbahagia pun. |
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Reply #108 truly's post
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truly, sedih sbb tgk ikon sedih tu.. heh heh.. well, bahagia pun kena usaha jugak truly.. marriage evolves... so, we gotta catch up with the evolution.. unless you can accept the differences open heartedly.. but i know its not easy.. |
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Originally posted by truly at 1-12-2007 02:38 PM
hehe...tak yah bersedih, tanya jer....sebab kalau hakikat hidup ni, bila dah tak boleh berubah, kena pegi separate ways....sedih lah kan? but for you, dah selamat berbahagia pun.
hmmm...truly true...nothing to be sad about babe....as normal human being....compromising in a relationship is a mandatory...but definitely there are a certain limit on how much a person can take...and when the mind and soul says "enough"...then enough it is and seperate ways is unavoidable....
but once seperated does not meant that we are not good enough for a new relationship...something did goes wrong somewhere and if we believed in ourselves...find that something....change it to be better than before based on our scales of best... |
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Originally posted by truly at 1-12-2007 02:34 PM
betul lah tu...but then kecik hati tak kalau orang cuba mengubah kita?
mengubah untuk keburukan mudah sangat. dan akan jadi secara automatik, diri hendak atau tidak. kalau kita fed up deng ...
naper nak kecik ati kalu apa yg dia tegur & mintak kita ubah tuh sst yg baik? sbb ego kan........ |
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Originally posted by BingkaUbi at 1-12-2007 03:02 PM
naper nak kecik ati kalu apa yg dia tegur & mintak kita ubah tuh sst yg baik? sbb ego kan........
most of the time most people would say the cause of defensive attitude towards change proposed by others is due to ego....but is it truly ego....or because the change is against the rules and principles that has been laid down on us by our ancestors from generation to generation....
different families have different ways of life....and when two differences meet up...percentage of deviation is very high....to change is to believe that the change is the right choice....but how to ensure who is right...and who is wrong...is the person whom asking for the change is making the absolute right decision...or is the person denying the change make a good choice in not changing as per requested... |
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Originally posted by cantthinkofany at 1-12-2007 03:08 PM
most of the time most people would say the cause of defensive attitude towards change proposed by others is due to ego....but is it truly ego....or because the change is against the rules and ...
yerlaaaaaaaaa tuuu...atas kertas jek seme tuuu..superpesil |
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Originally posted by cantthinkofany at 1-12-2007 03:08 PM
most of the time most people would say the cause of defensive attitude towards change proposed by others is due to ego....but is it truly ego....or because the change is against the rules and ...
tp kalu suh ubah dr +ve to -ve camner plak? bini malas kemas umah, tuh +ve ka -ve? mak dia ajar x yah kemas2 umah tuh bagus ka? semak tau..aku rimas umah sepah2... |
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Reply #1 truly's post
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Aku pernah dngar seorang ustaz berkata bahawasanya tidak ada sesiapa yg boleh mengubah seseorang sekiranya dia tak mahu merubah dirinya sendiri. Dan seseorang itu juga tak akan dapat merubah dirinya snd sekiranya dia tak mendapat hidayah daripada Allah s.w.t. Jadi untuk mngharapkan seseorang itu berubah kpd baik, maka kita hanya dpt menasihat dan akhirnya berdoa mdah2an Allah membri pertunjuk dan hidayah kpd dia supaya berubah, kepada yg baik tentunya. |
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Originally posted by truly at 1-12-2007 01:06 AM
dia boleh berubah sebab dia nampak itu yang terbaik, pasal you explain elok elok. itu key pointnya...
cuma saya wonder, untuk orang yang kawin foreigners, kalau berpisah, dorang balik tak ...
me rasa bergantung camana hati budi keperibadian dorang..
jika dia memang lelaki bebaik, memang kekal sifatnya..
tetapi kalau jenis lelaki entah apa apa... rasanya jangan kata
lepas berpisah, masa tengah jadi suami isteri tu pun dah
boleh nampak belang sebenar... |
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DOA adalah KUNCI ibadat.
pi salin besor besorrrrr..wat font lawa2..kendian print dan tempek merata lam bilik even kat dahi tu pun ok?
apa fungsi ilmu dalam isu ni?
ilmu tu akan tarik iman..yakni percaya so manusia tu bertambah percaya , tambah yakin, kendian iman tu tambah ilmu, kendian ilmu tu tambah iman
tapi seme ni tetap dalam ketetapanNYA
[ Last edited by ajinomotonosuga at 2-12-2007 02:32 AM ] |
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Usahakan bersama agar ruang perbezaan itu dikecilkan dan ruang persamaan itu pula diperluaskan........InsyAALAH. Noticed that I did not mention anything about having to change .
[ Last edited by manakautau at 2-12-2007 03:35 AM ] |
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Post time 1-12-2007 02:22 PM
pedihhhhhhh nyaa eeeii 
