Edited by manjalara_01 at 5-11-2016 06:33 PM
tajuknye "on the way to the airport" ke? confuse pulak i heheh..
ni pulak model suami yg wanita x nak..(manja ade bc sebelum ni kat forum ni ade yg dh kongsi some info..tp x ingat kat board mana)
Why Men Abuse Their Wives?
Men who abuse their wives are usually passive and dependent individuals. They find it difficult to express emotions and to deal with anger in nonviolent ways. Often, they did not have a close relationship with their mother. They may never have formed a close, warm, intimate relationship with a woman at all. Men who abuse their spouses often have low self-esteem and their wives do as well (law of attraction). Power and control are also essential features in the dynamics of spouse abuse. A wife abuser tends to be filled with anger, resentment, suspicion, tension and fear. Often the husband may simply be displacing his anger about his situation or circumstances onto his wife. He is, in essence, using her as a vent for the frustrations of his life. He believes that home is one place where he can express those feelings without punishment to himself. For instance, anger with his boss couldn’t be acted upon without dire circumstances. Yet, all too often he gets away without penalty when he beats his wife. She becomes the target of his vengeance, and he gets the satisfaction he is looking for.
The abusive husband often exhibits the following traits: 1. He has low self esteem. 2. He blames circumstances for his problems and does not assume personal responsibility for his actions. 3. He is pathologically jealous, and often exhibits a dual personality. 4. He has severe stress reactions, during which he uses drinking and wife-battering to cope. 5. He frequently uses sex as an act of aggression to enhance his self-esteem in view of waning virility. 6. The abusive husband demonstrates unpredictable behavior, belittles his partner, rages with uncontrolled anger and later often asks for a second chance.
7. Abusive husbands are chameleons. They say they will change and will not hit again. They play on their wives' guilt (If you loved me, you would….) 8. Outwardly, the abuser may seem charming, gregarious and even gentle to family members. But beneath the surface they dislike women and believe that “a woman’s place is in the home and that men have the right to control women.” 9. They often witnessed abuse in their home growing up, (subconsious mind) and frequently abuse their children as well. Most women suffer these attacks for years before they finally determine to take steps to keep from being victims or further abuse. The first step for a woman to take is to admit to herself that she is being abused and that she is not being treated fairly. She has the right to feel safe from physical harm, especially in her own home. No one, including a husband, has the right to hurt another individual. In addition, abused women need to work on their self-image with a trusted counselor or pastor in order to develop better feelings about themselves.
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