Tengah sarat mengandung dan suami nekad mahu berhenti kerja

polahdek19

Guccibamboo replied at 24-11-2019 10:30 PM
Suami tt depressed...minta suami tt dptkan bantuan drpd klinik hospital...rujuk ke psikiatri.....x p ...

Aah dah refer dan dapat cuti rehat, jumpa hod dan pengarah.. Harap2 pengarah dptlah do something utk bantu daripada dia quit huhu

soy_beans

Imo, suami tt depressed. I was a depression patient. So I memahami. U all xtau reason then say dia selfish. He might be depressed due to family background ke, mangsa buli ke. Tt, my advice mintak die amik mc dulu. Help ur husband first. Jgn dgr bila org kate die selfish. Sbb die tgh sakit. Ingat org depressed ni boleh basuh pakai bebel ke. Its not easy. Nampak sgt mentality org kita masih lemah ttg perkara mcm ni.bile org tu dh bunuh diri ko ckp die lemah iman pulak. Ape pun tak boleh. Just support him, and let him rest mentally. Bila dia dh boleh bsuara ttg buli di tempat kerja its a good sign. Sometimes ada yang sampai ke sudah xbgtau knape die depressed. Finally tikam org. So, bsyukur lah ur husband meluah jugak dri snyap sepi. N lebih baik die resign if x tahan dri u dpt suami yg btahan keje because of money but mentally ill seumur hidup.

soy_beans

And I nk tambah lg. Forummers yang ckp boleh bertahan dlm situasi teruk kerja,hidup susah gile etc. U all jgn sama kan diri u all dgn individu lain. Depressed patient mudah trigger. Jgn sbb u boleh btahan, u nk ckp org lain lembik. Bsyukur lah sbb u dpt btahan. Setiap org ujian lain2. I cukup pantang bila compare ketahanan diri sendiri tu dgn ketahanan org lain.sjarah hidup pun berbeza, cara makan pn bbeza lg nk samakan I mampu knape org lain x mampu.

Naatasha

polahdek19 replied at 24-11-2019 10:11 PM
Thank u semua bagi semangat dan nasihat! Saya sebagai isteri pun tak agree tapi tak tahu nak cakap m ...

Tt rasa nya u better focus nak beranak je dulu. Jangan pikir keterlaluan sgt masalah ni. Sbb nya u deserve unt happy dan u deserve jadi ibu yg terbahagia.

Kalau dia nak ikut kan depress dia, biar kan lah kat dia. U xde daya upaya dah melainkan hanya mampu berdoa. Kalau dia terus-terusan menekan u dgn masalah dia, terus-terusan menekan u dgn depresi tanpa cuba cari jalan keluar, u lah yg kena keluar.

ingat, u berhak enjoy ur life, u berhak happy. U isteri dia bukan hamba abdi yg akan sentiasa ada dgn dia. U boleh pergi dari hidup dia kalau u sndiri tak mampu tanggu bebanan yg dia bg. (ini contoh shj, i tak menggalakkan perceraian) for now u boleh bagi kata dua pada dia, samada:

1. Still merungut dgn masalah tanpa cari penyelesaian yg juga turut membebankan emosi u sbg isteri yg sdg sarat mengandung atau
2. Cari jalan keluar dari masalah tu, sentiasa positive dan u akan bersma2 dia tempuhi msalah tu.

Setiap kerja ada bebanan masalah. Kena maki, workloads bertambah2, kena stay kat ofis smpai malam, tu mostly org pernah rasa. Kalau tak nk susah2 deal dgn human being camtu boleh ler try keje penternak, keje ngn haiwan je. Atau keje kebun, keje ngn tanaman. Sendiri jadi bos, most of the time deal ngn pokok n haiwan. Tapi nanti haiwan ternakan n hasil kebun x menjadi takut stress lagi pulak. Hihi.

polahdek19

soy_beans replied at 24-11-2019 11:17 PM
Imo, suami tt depressed. I was a depression patient. So I memahami. U all xtau reason then say dia s ...

Macam mama u recover dari sakit u? U dah kahwin ke tak? N mcm mama org sekeliling beri support? Sorry tanya banyak sbb dulu selalu baca cerita2 org, tak sangka Allah akan duga kena dkt diri sendiri.. I sampai tak tahu nak buat apa.. Rasa helpless sbb pikirkan tgh sarat mengandung dgn financial tak stable huhu

polahdek19

soy_beans replied at 24-11-2019 11:17 PM
Imo, suami tt depressed. I was a depression patient. So I memahami. U all xtau reason then say dia s ...

Alhamdulillah, nasib suami beritahu walaupun dia jenis pendam tak suka mengadu.. Actually before this masa dia ho mmg ada juga fasa depression tapi dia tak sampai nak quit n alhamdulillah dia survived .. Just this time dia rasa meletop, dgn I I meletop jugak dlm diam sbb tak nak dia lagi stress huhu.. My advice siapa2 ada anak2 jangan lah bagi kerja doktor, ramai I tgk kwn2 hsbnd dok stress depress huhu.. Bila dpt department ok baru lah dorg ok

mongoose_kidz

suruh husbnd minta cuti dulu...
n try locum klinik2 swasta...
klinik swasta pt x ramai n keje pun xstress sgt sbb patient x teruk sgt sakitnya..
tp kena make sure dia ade good personaliti, sntiasa senyum n ade rapport yg baik ngan pesakit..dr mcm ni mmg pesakit suka..klau performance bagus mst akn diserap jadi dr ttap kat klinik tu..
n masyuk weh keje klinik swasta..
tp tula nak tanya..husbnd tt stress sbb ape ye??
time ho aku fhm la stress sbb mmg keje mcm xde hari esok n selalu kena marah ngan specialist/mo semua...ni da jadi mo..selalunya akn lebih ok

polahdek19

mongoose_kidz replied at 25-11-2019 12:03 AM
suruh husbnd minta cuti dulu...
n try locum klinik2 swasta...
klinik swasta pt x ramai n keje pun  ...

Aahh mmg short term plan mcmtu, akan buat locum.. Saya ada explain di post atas, My hsbnd dpt emergency department 1st day je dah kena letak di red zone, sistem, bos n environment sgt hectic.. Husbnd br nk mula belajar to adapt sbb semua sgt2 baru.. Kena maki dgn boss hari2, actually part kena maki dia cakap boleh go on lagi tapi ditambah dgn situation hectic dan ramai pesakit kritikal kena attend.. Dia culture shock & cepat down.. Btw U doc ke? I mmg tgh try nk consult hsband tapi tak tahu mcm mana

polahdek19

mongoose_kidz replied at 25-11-2019 12:03 AM
suruh husbnd minta cuti dulu...
n try locum klinik2 swasta...
klinik swasta pt x ramai n keje pun  ...

Hsbnd dpt hspital besar, mmg dkt town yg pesat.. So pt shari mmg ramai n staff pun kurg.. Igtkan bila dpt town mudah lah sikit utk kami sbb byk kemudahan tapi rupanya sebaliknya hmm

adila39

polahdek19 replied at 24-11-2019 04:25 PM
Hsbnd dpt hspital besar, mmg dkt town yg pesat.. So pt shari mmg ramai n staff pun kurg.. Igtkan b ...

jgnla resign dulu amek unpaid leave and calm down. semoga sis and husband dipermudahkan. Hmm MO ya? dah habis kontrak ke belum? i would suggest.. unpaid leave.. lepas tu utk tampung kehidupan buat locum. Town tu kat mana? i am looking for a locum dr and also resident doctor. Pm i if interested.. jgn sedih2 sis

babynina30

polahdek19 replied at 24-11-2019 10:11 PM
Thank u semua bagi semangat dan nasihat! Saya sebagai isteri pun tak agree tapi tak tahu nak cakap m ...

Beliau grad mana dlu dek?

vee_zara

salmon-suki replied at 24-11-2019 05:17 PM
Ntah laa tt..to mee your husband seems a bit selfish..mana2 keje pun stress,setakat kena maki tu b ...

Obviously u have no empathy or sympathy. How could u accuse someone who had depression as selfish?
Ingat senang ke nak recover from depression or anxiety.
Mana u tahu cousin u ok? For me doctor ni stress tp diorg tak leh tunjuk takut hilang kepercayaan daripada masyarakat. Unlike cikgu yg asyik nak merempan je kat facebook pSal work load, dr lebih beretika dan classy.  SebB tu depression. Sebab tak de tempat nak meluah

polahdek19

babynina30 replied at 25-11-2019 12:36 AM
Beliau grad mana dlu dek?

Grad local uni.. Taknak reveal takut nanti ada siapa yg related dgn i tgh baca ke boleh cam pulakk huuu

salmon-suki

vee_zara replied at 25-11-2019 12:48 AM
Obviously u have no empathy or sympathy. How could u accuse someone who had depression as selfish? ...

Sorry ye sis..kalau betul2 depressed,jumpa psychiatrist,dapatkn pengesahan,bukan setakat self-diagnosed..lebih2 lagi zmn skrg y semua org stress sikit terus ngaku depressed..ko ingat dgn mengaku depressed semua masalah ko boleh selesai??

In da first place,do they know what's depression and what's stress? That's why ai suh syuben tt p jmpe psychiatrist check,is it really depression?kalau ada signs of it,boleh "cuti" sekejap drpd keje and fokus utk pulihkan diri..kalau setakat sendiri cakap,xde nak seek treatment ape,it's no use..

Pakai otak sis..kalau ai ni sejenis bkn empathetic atau xde simpati,ai suh jah syuben tt tu suicide..kalau benda gini pun xleh nak settle,how's he going to take care of his family,lagi2 tt tgh sarat preggy,another kid is coming..

Kwn sy ada y depressed,ni mmg dia dah jmpe doktor ye,bkn self-diagnosed..skrg,alhamdulillah,she's getting better with the right treatment..tu baru awal depresi,bkn y extreme pun..kalau dah syak ada tanda2,jmpe yang pakar..faham ke x sis?bebel pjg ni haa

polahdek19

adila39 replied at 25-11-2019 12:31 AM
jgnla resign dulu amek unpaid leave and calm down. semoga sis and husband dipermudahkan. Hmm MO ya ...

Aah alhamdulillah nasib cuti dia approved.. Until now still contract walaupun dah berapa bulan jd mo tak sure bila gov. akan serap jd permanent.. Skrg kan ada isu dr. Contract dgn kkm, ramai tak puas hati huhu.. Thank u sis, inshaAllah suami mmg dah secure 1 private klinik utk locam utk stahun .. Tapi skrg ni pun tgh tggu jwpn utk pertukaran juga, kalau ada rezeki dpt tukar ke kk.. Just skrg kena bdoa je n tawakal je huhu

polahdek19

vee_zara replied at 25-11-2019 12:48 AM
Obviously u have no empathy or sympathy. How could u accuse someone who had depression as selfish? ...

Aah.. Betul, tak semua dr. Akn lalui benda sama.. Its depends on department, colleagues, boss, kerja,.. Kalau semua atas tu ok alhamdulillah mmg rezeki sgt2.. Tp kalau sebaliknya,

polahdek19

polahdek19 replied at 25-11-2019 01:07 AM
Aah.. Betul, tak semua dr. Akn lalui benda sama.. Its depends on department, colleagues, boss, ker ...

Ramai dr. Suffer in silence.. Yg tgk dari luar mmg ok.. Tp kalau ur closed member sendiri yg jadi baru tahu mcm mana suffer dorg kerja huhu.. Dpt department ok, mmg alhamdulillah semua ok..kalau rezeki dpt xok.. Mmg kau stuck dkt situ jela huhu..

polahdek19

salmon-suki replied at 25-11-2019 01:02 AM
Sorry ye sis..kalau betul2 depressed,jumpa psychiatrist,dapatkn pengesahan,bukan setakat self-diag ...

Of coz dah refer psy. Plus my hsbnd is a doc dia tahu symptoms tu.. N dah seek for treatment, dats y dpt cuti..

salmon-suki

polahdek19 replied at 25-11-2019 01:15 AM
Of coz dah refer psy. Plus my hsbnd is a doc dia tahu symptoms tu.. N dah seek for treatment, dats ...

Ok laa tu sis..sbb kt citer tu sis xde mention dah jumpa psyc etc..kalau mentioned before,org boleh faham his situation..

So,all da best tt..y penting skrg ni mmg tt kena kuat semangat je...ada cuba apa2 treatment x?mcm kwn sy tu dia guna aromaterapi..and dia akn buat something y dia suka mcm travel etc..and dia akan cuba avoid drpd staying alone..Alhamdulillah..dia beransur pulih...

adila39

polahdek19 replied at 24-11-2019 05:03 PM
Aah alhamdulillah nasib cuti dia approved.. Until now still contract walaupun dah berapa bulan jd  ...

glad to know. bertuah husband ada wife yg supportive. U know what.. now u are facing challenges.. don't stop encouraging husband. Insyaallah semua akan ok.. just dont and don't ever give up. Nite sis.