[Geng] Rumah Kaki Royan Part 175

miss_pooh

When a survivor shares their story with u:
Remain judgement-free
Give them 100% of ur attention
Tell them that u believe them
Tell them that it wasnt their fault
Thank them for sharing their story
Offer support, only if u can

miss_pooh

When a survivor shares their story with u, DO NOT:
Try to "fix" them
Interrupt or talk over them
Provide unsolicited advice
Tell them things could be worse
Make promises u cant keep

miss_pooh

Try to understand their triggers.

Emotional and sensory information from traumatic experiences is stored in our brain and bodies. So even though what happened is in the past, when a trauma survivor is triggered by something that reminds them of their trauma, their fear structure is activated. And it feels like theyre reliving the traumatic experience over again.

And it's terrifying.

miss_pooh

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Activated

miss_pooh

Someone might be triggered if :
They start panicking
They freeze or are unresponsive
They begin panting or hyperventilating
They burst into tears or seemed terrified
They start yelling or screaming
They seem detached from reality

miss_pooh

How to help when someone is triggered?
Listen to them
Stay with them - dont leave unless they ask u to
Holding both hands together *
Take a few deep breathes together
Gently remind them they're safe
Ask if u can give them a hug
Validate their feelings

* additional

miss_pooh

When someone is triggered, DO NOT:
Dismiss their feeling
Ignore that it's happening
Try to "fix" them or find solutions
Tell them theyre overreacting or to "just calm down"
Touch them if they say they dont want to be touched or are backing away from u.

miss_pooh

End.

Momod nk minta tacang lebih plisss

miss_pooh

Oh ya credit to healingfromptsd

miss_pooh

Overreacting.
Overthinking.

Persepsi manusia pd mereka

miss_pooh

Kte x sukakan prhatian. Dari kecik dari sekolah kte mmg x suka. Tp zmn skola mmg rmi cekgu bg prhtian. Trutma skali cekgu lki. Smpi ke secondry - uni - work. Tp kte hide sebole mngkin rsa x ska tu tamo org nmpk yg kte mmg x suka bnda tu. Sbb akn jd persoalan yg x de kesudahan. Yg mna aku sndiri x de jwpan. Dan x kn bg jwapan.

miss_pooh

Dan some akn anggap kte overreact. Buat lek lek dah la, katanya. Kte x bole nk lek lek lu. Sbb bnda tu triggered kte. Prhatian tu buat kte rsa org nk buat x baik kt kte. Buat baik sbb nk dekat dan nk jhatkn kte. Ini bnda yg kte tkut.

miss_pooh

1st sem kt uni dlu, ada sorg lek yg brpotensi jd sprti sorg pndidk msa zmn kte skola. Potensi prhatian. Msa tu kte rsa mcm ya allah aku kna hadap bnda sma lagi ke..aku da onat dgn 5 taon yg seksa jiwa..tp mjur lek tu nk pncen dah msa kte msuk sem..smpat 2 sem je kot. Dan kte sgt2 x brkenan dgn smua prhatian tu. Special prhtian dlm klas. Aku x suka. Apetah lg dri mnusia brnam lki. Tak kira kau ondidik atau siapa pun.

miss_pooh

Ble krja..aku x ska prhtian yg bos bg shingga mngundang jeles kelig lain. Tp bos aku xgtal miang la. Wlupun kami kerap kna os brdua. kte suka krja under he. Sjenis strghtforwrd, strict, n tau nak appreciate staff. Seorg yg professional. Msa kte amik kputusn utk resign bos yg slalu buat muka ktat grang tu tiber merh mata msa he pnggil kte utk heart to heart session. Cewah. Kte dah bukn under he msa tu. He kta klu kte msih under he, he tau cmna nk buat utk buat kte stay. Huhuu..takpela boh. Gue disni hnya smpai takat ni ja. Kte da taleh go dgn toxic env ofis.

miss_pooh

Boh kte ni jnis racist kuat sbnarnya tp klu krja okay n perform, sikap racist tu he cmpak masuk gaung jap..

miss_pooh

Kte pnah rsa kte slh buat decision..
Kte pnah rsa kte trgopoh buat decision..
Kte pnah rsa lembik dgn impak decision yg "makan diri" kte smula..

miss_pooh

Tp..
Semua ni ada hikmah.
Hikmah yg bsar..
Hikmah dan hadiah dari Pencipta utk kita hargai sesuatu..

miss_pooh

Mungkin klu kte x buat decision bla bla bla..kte akn trlepas hadiah yg Allah bg..yg kte nmpak dan tangiskan slama ni cuma bnda2 sedih je..tp sbenarnya smua yg berlaku ni ada hikmah..hikmah yg kena syukuri dan hrgai..and the rest will be slowly back to normal. InshaAllah.

miss_pooh

Dlu kte rsa kte boleh lalui phase bla bla..tp sbnarnye kte x bole..kte ckp x bole lpas cuba..n lepas cuba kte rsa da smpai limit dan kte kna cari solution lain..

miss_pooh

Kte x suka dgn cara begitu wlupun atas nma tanggungjwb..aku x suka..dan bnda tu buat kte lg sedih..kte pnah ty diri knapa org lain boleh..nape kte x boleh..

sbb stiap kte ada cerita sndiri. X sama dan x boleh disamakan..sndiri ty sndiri jwb..huhuu