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Post time 2-10-2020 12:51 AM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
anony-mous replied at 2-10-2020 12:45 AM
Ya sbb cinta uols. Patut i pilih sbb duit. Small or deep talk dua2 i boleh. But deep talk of cours ...

Masa nak kahwin dulu you tak nampak lagi ke perangai diorang? Cara you cakap ni pun I dah boleh imagine betapa beratnya hidup dengan family cenggini. Kalau you rasa serabut, better off. Takmau perangai diorang berjangkit kat anak2 pulak nanti. Unless husband you support you. Kalau husband you side family dia jugak, hmmm nampak macam memang kena bye2. Aaaa takut nak kahwin
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 Author| Post time 2-10-2020 12:57 AM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
Cenderakirana9 replied at 2-10-2020 12:51 AM
Masa nak kahwin dulu you tak nampak lagi ke perangai diorang? Cara you cakap ni pun I dah boleh im ...

X. Mcm mana nak nampak? Sbb bkn duduk sama hari2. Dah kahwin baru nampak. I terus terang ckp i mmg agak selfish. So i rasa mmg xsesuai nk masuk dlm family dia sbb i jenis aku buat utk aku, ank aku, bkn utk org lain happy. Nak buat majlis pon susah tp awal2 kita ingat biasa la kan. I pon pelik kenapa family dia x larang kahwin since sgt lah jauh beza. In 5 years i aspect we not going to be together anymore.

Jgn takut utk kahwin, at least dptkan zuriat . Kahwin sekufu. Kalau xde jodoh, perempuan ni actually kuat. I still syg husband but kalau boleh get rid of his family, its the best
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Post time 2-10-2020 01:08 AM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
anony-mous replied at 2-10-2020 12:49 AM
At least u husband u faham. Kalau i mmg tak mungkin la. Xpasal2 kena tengking. Sbb MIL i jenis sof ...

Try slow talk with ur husband k sis.. kalau u pendam2 org lelaki ni die xkan faham tau.. benak cket otak deols ni.. dan betul u buat mmg kena sorok duit ni.. kite keje penat2 kerahkan tenaga tau,bukan tnggungjwb kite utk bg duit kt FIL.. kalau utk krgkan bebanan family kecil u sndiri yes but not for them.. naik lemak nnti ipar2 u yg mls keje tu
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Post time 2-10-2020 01:49 AM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
anony-mous replied at 1-10-2020 11:22 PM
Susah sgt uols. Mak i jenis jahat, mulut jahat. But ada 1 time mak i xsihat, so i decide cuti pnja ...

Kenapa nak cerai?
Hasben ko tak baik ke?
Ko pikir org berduit tadak perangai hamjat ke?
Mil aku ex cikgu perangai tak semenggah pun
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Post time 2-10-2020 06:40 AM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
anony-mous replied at 2-10-2020 12:57 AM
X. Mcm mana nak nampak? Sbb bkn duduk sama hari2. Dah kahwin baru nampak. I terus terang ckp i mmg ...

You bercinta berapa lama before kahwin?

So far I dah bercinta 3 kali. 2 orang I tinggalkan sebab takleh go dengan perangai diorang and family. Yang latest, I pulak kena tinggal sebab katanya dia rasa bersalah tak dapat bagi attention kat I. But yang tu pun I tak sure I boleh tahan dengan family dia ke tak sebab ayah dia (now dah arwah) was a politician. His brothers too and soon dia pun nak jadi politician katanya. In the blood gitu. I memang tak suka orang politik dari dulu tapi bila dah sayang, mana kita peduli kan. Kalau dia tak tinggalkan I, entah apa agaknya jadi kat kitorang lagi2 sekarang ni kes covid19 naik mencanak sampai semua orang kutuk politician. But again, I sayang sangat kat beliau sampai sekarang belum ada pengganti kui3

So betul la orang kata kita takkan kenal betul2 orang tu unless dah berkahwin dengan dia..

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Post time 2-10-2020 06:48 AM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
Oo.. faham sgt sbnrnye. I x kahwin lagi tp adik beradik ade yg ade masalah mcm ni. First of all kitorg takde la kaya ke ape, but we're comfortable la. So bile adik beradik kahwin dgn org yg ade adik beradik ramai pastu bile balik kg dgn xde aircond, n tido pakai melambak je camtu, diorg jadik resah sgt. Tp yg mama selalu nasihatkn kt kakak n abg, die suruh discuss elok2 dgn spouse sendiri, kalau time kena balik kampung, bgtau la since xde bilik proper n demi nk jaga aurat, lagi bgs klu tido kt hotel. Tp jgn la nmpkkan sgt x suke duduk kg tu. Kena jadik yg first smpi n the last to leave gitu supaya org x mengata especially time kenduri kendara. Kesimpulannye, ape yg mama I cakap, since u dh pilih org tu, kena la terima die seadanya. Kalau nak selesa time u ade kt kg husband/wife, kena berusaha utk buat tmpt tu at least selesa utk u. Mcm abg i, die belikn aircond kt umah mertua die supaya die x panas bile duduk situ. Bertabahlah ye TT..
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Post time 2-10-2020 07:51 AM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
Edited by tagas at 2-10-2020 07:57 AM
anony-mous replied at 1-10-2020 11:36 PM
Sbb org selalu ckp money doesnt matter. Realitynya it is!!! Kalau FIL kaya, for sure i akn layan b ...


different minded,belief n values

the key just be patient even u

terpaksa mkn hati

more drama will come along ur married

setakat ujian kecil camni u da tak bleh

nak sustain ape tah lg ujian besar happen

if divorce n let say u find others also u will

face da prob..masalah lain pulak mungkin

its abour life..there is no life without

ujian..harungi dgn tabah

sayangi keluarga if nak bahgia

is the only key to achieved mawadah warahmah

dat hold by both

especially husband have to played vital roled

coz he is a leader

go get a discuss
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Post time 2-10-2020 08:23 AM | Show all posts
I think tak perlu sampai nak cerai terus. Slow talk and discuss with husband. Dalam marriage ni the key is husband & wife.orang lain tu semua external factor je.
In my opinion tak patut la in laws you treat you macam a cash cow. Husband you kena tegas and make a decision. Wife/rumahtangga sendiri vs family sendiri mana yang dia pilih.Setiap perkahwinan ada ujian masing masing.


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 Author| Post time 2-10-2020 09:42 AM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
VespaSilbe replied at 2-10-2020 01:49 AM
Kenapa nak cerai?
Hasben ko tak baik ke?
Ko pikir org berduit tadak perangai hamjat ke?

Sbb i rasa baik mengalah. Setiap kali they all dtg, mesti end up i akn gaduh dgn my husband. So dari asik gaduh baik jd kwn,
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Post time 2-10-2020 09:44 AM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
Hurmmmm.... it's in the blood then..sush nk ubah. Clean cut to ur husband 'im going take a good care of myself and our family first,not UR family' hit him with the truth je la kalu rsa nk kekal lama bersama2.

that's all u can do la kot."buat baik berpda2" je mulai skang. kdg org x kisah pon miskin tpi rajin berusha. Org jdi jelak bila da la susah, x sedar dri pulk.dok takuk tu,jdi pemlas.x dgr pndapt.da bodoh sombong pulak..da "dididik" camtu.it cant be changed.

U 'tlg' in law pon tpi hati x redha,husband u dpt dosa sbb it's not ur responsibility pon tpi u p buat jugak. u pon kot x dpt phala. So nak x nk kena keras kan hti.do what u think the best for u n ur own family.

Buat baik berpda2 pada (jgn smpi org  amek kesempatan)
Buat jahat jgn sekali(tdak2 dlm kekurangan kita tu org nmpak kebaikan kta)

The best of luck.
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 Author| Post time 2-10-2020 09:53 AM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
Skydiva replied at 2-10-2020 06:48 AM
Oo.. faham sgt sbnrnye. I x kahwin lagi tp adik beradik ade yg ade masalah mcm ni. First of all kito ...

Diaorang suka judge mcm tu kan? Tp they r not in our shoes yg mana dari kecik dah mcm tu. take time nk biasakan diri. I ni jgn kata aircond, tilam elok sikit pon x ada. Sakit sgt pinggang smua masa pregnant paling seksa. End up i yg beli tilam sendiri. Tp xtau la kan kalau MIL terasa ke bila beli tilam.

Kenapa kita (yg berduit sikit) selalu dipaksa ikut lifestyle diaorang? Everytime? Slh ke kalau geli mkn dekat warung yg nampak kotor? I bkn mcm tu cuma nak tanya salah ke. Klau mknan tu nk mkn tempat mahal kena tggu FIL x ada skali . Sbb kalau x, kena cover utk smua ramai2. Then mesti ada je rungutan. Eii apa ni, ei xkenyang la mkn mcm ni. Ei xnk dah mkn tmpt ni. Sgt menyakitkan hati. While klau balik rumah parent i, best sbb parent belanja. Klau parent i dtg, i pulak belanja they all.

Jgn kata i balik kg nak duduk homestay, diaorang dtg pon xreti nk sewa hotel / homestay. Smua cramp ramai2 dkt rumah. Mmg la x lama, tp yg x lama tu la bg effect besar setiap kali tu la i akn gaduh dgn laki i. I jenis xsuka ramai2 bising2, tv pulak jd hak milik diaorang. Boleh x ajar ank2 lain sopan skit dtg rumah org? Tgk je la apa tuan rumah bukak dlu. I dtg rumah org dari kecik xpernah pegang remote tv org lain. Suara pon boleh x jgn kuat2 smpai jiran2 dgr? Mcm x ada sivik
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 Author| Post time 2-10-2020 09:54 AM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
tagas replied at 2-10-2020 07:51 AM
different minded,belief n values

the key just be patient even u

Kalau jodoh xpnjang kali ni, i mmg xnk kahwin dah. Sbb i tau i mcm mana. Lone wolf mmg susah nk mix dgn org lain. Unless yg i nak kahwin tu ank yatim
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 Author| Post time 2-10-2020 09:54 AM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
tagas replied at 2-10-2020 07:51 AM
different minded,belief n values

the key just be patient even u

Kalau jodoh xpnjang kali ni, i mmg xnk kahwin dah. Sbb i tau i mcm mana. Lone wolf mmg susah nk mix dgn org lain. Unless yg i nak kahwin tu ank yatim
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 Author| Post time 2-10-2020 09:57 AM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
CocoCily replied at 2-10-2020 08:23 AM
I think tak perlu sampai nak cerai terus. Slow talk and discuss with husband. Dalam marriage ni the  ...

Diaorang x treat mcm cash cow , tp sejak yg kes psal nk travel tu, i rasa baik i diam2 kalau ada duit lebih. I jenis xsuka org mntak2. Klau i rasa nak bg, i akn bg tp jgn demand. Dlm hati i rasa jk belikan emas utk MIL, tp jgn mntak gelang etc pulak. Ada 1 time tu, dtg mntak brg elektrik. Yg mana dia tgk xguna sgt, dia mntk. Sekali dua ok la. Mcm i nak beli emas pon komen mahalnya. Dah klau xmmpu mmg la rasa mahal. I guna duit sdri pulak tu. i risau takut dia ingt guna duit ank dia
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Post time 2-10-2020 09:59 AM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
anony-mous replied at 2-10-2020 09:42 AM
Sbb i rasa baik mengalah. Setiap kali they all dtg, mesti end up i akn gaduh dgn my husband. So da ...

Paham... Berbelas tahun dah merasa
Cer u tgk utube "Stand by your wife- RIP mother in law" Mufti Menk
Masalah ui lebih kurang gak
Ai siap biras dok merasa laki ai laki dia
Boleh dok arah2 asben nak ajar ai camna
Sampai suruh ceraikan ai
I tahan... Sampai satu tahap ai suruh laki ai p kongkek ngan kak ipar dia
Mil I pulak ada duit tapi dok tabur kat abang dia
Duit yg asben dia p tabur kat cucu belah sana
Padahal anakberanak semua pakai ifon
Bercuti oversea 3 Bulan sekali walapun kerja kerani bank
Tapi pelahap duit faraid ngan adik dia


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Post time 2-10-2020 11:01 AM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
go get discuss b4 toxic spread

looser nya ur fil tak taw malu perguna

menantu perempuan yg sepatutnya

di lindungi bkn utk di susahkan

husband u lembam ke mcm tak main

peranan skolah kan parent jgn menyusahkan

bini


buat hal masing2 jelah afta dis..time raya jer

jumpa bersalaman bermaafan even fake sbb

kita tak taw bila ajal maut dr sentiasa

ngadap mendam rasa..dun divorce fikir anak2
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Post time 2-10-2020 11:12 AM | Show all posts
TT i rasa masalah kita sama masa i dengan my ex husband..
i mula mula kawin kesian sebab family dia susah..
dalam rumah tu ada kakak dia anak 6 yang dah janda..
so i tolong.. sekolah kan anak anak buah ex i..

rumah tak ada wifi i pasangkan..
katil tak ada i belikan.. i sponsor macam macam..
lepas setahun diorang pula demand.. i tak ada anak so i tau apa trend budak budak..
bila i beli kan beg sekolah, boleh pulak dia cakap bukan yang ini.
nak i lepuk je..

kalau nak kenduri ke apa mesti tanya berapa i nak contribute..
kalau makan makan i memang tak kan tolong kemas sebab i pun tak reti tapi i angkut maid i sekali so family ex i tak boleh cakap macam macam..
kalau weekend balik rumah mentua biasanya i akan kesana kesini takde duduk umah..

kalau raya hmmm jangan cakap la..
i memang duduk hotel sebab bilik semua anak anak buah yang bujang conquer.
ex i pun tak cakap apa..
so nasihat i, apa yang you pun kena la kering hati macam diorang jugak kalau you nak marriage you last.
i masa divorce i memang tak fikir family ex i sebab i know they don't care pun..kalau sedih pun sebab dah tak ada orang nak sponsor itu ini..
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Post time 2-10-2020 11:13 AM | Show all posts
anony-mous replied at 2-10-2020 09:54 AM
Kalau jodoh xpnjang kali ni, i mmg xnk kahwin dah. Sbb i tau i mcm mana. Lone wolf mmg susah nk mi ...

kalau kawin anak yatim, if laki you rapat dengan adik beradik dia yang mentaliti sama macam ni pun masalah juga...
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Post time 2-10-2020 11:28 AM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
anony-mous replied at 2-10-2020 09:54 AM
Kalau jodoh xpnjang kali ni, i mmg xnk kahwin dah. Sbb i tau i mcm mana. Lone wolf mmg susah nk mi ...

Ok baru abes bace semua luahan hati you. Dis is why i tak kawin lagi kot.. haha. Org salu kate i mèmilih sgt, tp my dad ckp biar la memilih dari tersalah pilih giteww. (Plus sbb i ank bongsu n die dh ade berderet2 cucu sbb tu die x kisah pn i kawen ke x.. duh~ ayah)

My sisters semua ade prob dgn family in-laws. Yg sulung situation same mcm u gak. Yg 2nd, reverse situation. Die kawin dgn anak datuk, tp sis-in-law die kawin dgn org x berduit, n bdk tu pn x keje tp lifestyle still nk same cam time die ank datuk dulu. Family die dh larang gile, sbb tau die jenis hidup lavish semua, tp time tu mmg mcm drama la. Die lari dari umah sbb x bagi kawin dgn cinta hati die. Nangis ngadu kt semua makcik die ckp papa kejam x bg kawin dgn org yg die cinta bla..bla.. Money is not everything la. *roll eyes*  Bile lps kawin tau plak susah. Ape yg my sis beli, diorg cuti kt mane, semua die nk jugak, tp laki die tu xde duit. Keje askar prebet je. End-up abg die aka husb kakak i la yg salu kena bagi die duit. Dh tu bile laki kakak i xde duit, die mintak kat kakak i. So masing stress srang. Semua advice kat i, x kahwin pn senang jugak sbb xyah pikir masalah in-laws la, husband buat hal la ape semua. Semua pikir nk cerai n hidup sndr je srang.

Tapi.. sbg org yg selalu handle kes cerai kt court, i will advise against that la. Cases mcm ni, temporary je sis. I mean, if ur husband jenis baik n x buat hal, bertahan la demi anak. And i rase kalau u dh lame kawin dgn laki u, u stop je jadik hipokrit tu, cam kakak sulung i. Srang die jenis dh lantak la keluarga mertua nk ckp ape, die nk tido hotel die tido sndr dgn anak. Laki die nk tido kt umah die pn die x kisah asalkn die sndr selesa. Pastu klu diorg nk dtg ramai u ckp je dh tempah homestay utk diorg duduk sbb anak nk study ke ape. Gune je alasan anak as pest control utk u. Lol. Trust me, i pernah handle kes yg family in-laws siap hntr santau kat ex-wife n bomohkn laki die. Mmg xleh buat ape.. kena cerai n wife die duduk jauh dari laki n in-laws lps tu. If anything yg u x puas ati, u curhat je kat sini or cerita dgn kwn rapat. But most importantly u kena cerita kt husband u pasal masalah ni, biar die aware pasal perasaan u sikit.
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Post time 2-10-2020 11:28 AM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
Omg.. panjang plak i pny reply. Sorry. Haha.. skip je kalau malas bace.
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