being judgemental

redsinner

sometimes i wonder...are we allowed to classify people other than races and religions?
in this context, are we allowed to tell people off that they are BAIK, JAHAT or ALIM SGT2 or JAHAT NAK MAMPUS???
or perhaps any religion point of view? i dunnoo....juz wanna hear ur opinions.

for me, i'm pretty happy with what i have surround myself with. people that r nor too good or too bad. well, i think. ;)

kicaptamin575

in my opinion, everyone is entitled to their judgment, the question of being judgemental is not an issue here but whether our judgement would affect anyone is another story.

who are we to judge ppl? we are smothered in sins and dirts and at the same time we dare to be opinionated abt ppl. Only God can judge ppl for we never know what the future holds. we cant say a prostitute is bad when not knowing dat God will accept her repentence in the future. after all is said and done, the ending of the life is all dat matters....

husnul khatimah

don't judge the book by it cover.....

atau dengan kata yang yang lain, jangan menilai seseorang melalui penampilan luarannya semata-mata. Memang benar, mengklasifikasikan orang dengan sifat-sifat tertentu bukanlah satu tindakan yang wajar kerana kita perlulah mengenali mereka dengan sedalam-dalamnya dahulu sebelum membuat pe"labelan" dan bukan berdasarkan sekilas pandang sahaja seperti yang berlaku dalam interview kerja sekarang. Mudah sahaja mereka membuat kesimpulan hanya berdasarkan beberapa minit soal jawab tanpa mengetahui bahawa orang yang mereka tolak atau terima untuk pekerjaan itu benar-benar berupaya melakukan kerja atau hanya pandai di bilik temuduga. Praktikal dan teori merupakan dua perkara yang berbeza, tetapi perkara ini mudah sahaja diketepikan oleh penemuduga.

Namun "pelabelan" juga kadang-kadang perlu untuk kita bersikap lebih berhati-hati. Misalnya kalau seseorang itu sudah lama diketahui terlibat dalam kegiatan rompakan atau gangsterisme walaupun bersikap baikk pada masa-masa tertentu namun pada hakikatnya tidak dapat menafikan bahawa mereka boleh berubah sikap pada bila-bila masa sahaja. "Pelabelan" ini berfungsi sebagai peringatan dan amaran apabila berhadapan dengan mereka. Pembawaan diri perlulah disesuaikan supaya tidak mengundang konflik.....

[ Last edited by simplelife at 13-12-2005 11:44 AM ]

mrs_livingstone

being judgemental ni for me perlu kat tempat2 tertentu..contohnya dlm memilih teman...bukan bermaksud memilih berkawan dgn org2 kaya/setaraf ngan kita je...org pandang org tak de kelas ke....thts jdgemmental is not good.what i mean is pilih kawan tgk dia punya cara/attitude...kalau kawan yg asik ajak ngumpat je..sendiri mau igt lah.sbb kawan ni umpama pelita,kalau kita tak terbakar dek apinya,kita tetap kena jelaganya...

tugas yg menilai alim gila,jahat gila tu for me tugas yg Diatas..tugas pencipta...bbiar saja Dia yg menentukan.
sbb kita pun bukannya ada tanda cop 'ahli syurga' kat dahi

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dia letak kat bod Suggestion nuh...

Are we acting like a blind person?

We all heard about the story of 9 blind people who want to figure out how an elephant looks like. One who touch the tail of the elephant, think the elephant is like a snake, one who touch the elephant抯 leg, think the elephant is like a tree,

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Originally posted by simplelife at 13-12-2005 11:41 AM
Namun "pelabelan" juga kadang-kadang perlu untuk kita bersikap lebih berhati-hati. Misalnya kalau seseorang itu sudah lama diketahui terlibat dalam kegiatan rompakan atau gangsterisme walaupun bersikap baikk pada masa-masa tertentu namun pada hakikatnya tidak dapat menafikan bahawa mereka boleh berubah sikap pada bila-bila masa sahaja. "elabelan" ini berfungsi sebagai peringatan dan amaran apabila berhadapan dengan mereka. Pembawaan diri perlulah disesuaikan supaya tidak mengundang konflik.....

:setuju::setuju::setuju:

redsinner

Originally posted by mrs_livingstone at 13-12-2005 07:08 PM
being judgemental ni for me perlu kat tempat2 tertentu..contohnya dlm memilih teman...bukan bermaksud memilih berkawan dgn org2 kaya/setaraf ngan kita je...org pandang org tak de kelas ke....thts j ...

then y ah sum people keep on labeling, thinking like they are so perfect? pelik tau...i've come across these people n i decide to shun them. mcm malu gak kawan dgn diaorg nih. what should we do for these people ek?

raeshad

u can't shun them forever...i guess, being judgemental is in our blood(whtr we like it ir not...)

even like being a teacher pon - they can't be judgemental of their students, but impossibly, they cant...coz we're human and we've been blessed/cursed with the gift of our heart - which can sometimes be pure and sometimes not..(and we know which one overshadows which rite?)

klkl

we have to be judgemental

sanggup ke tengok adik or anak kita kawan dgn org jahat
tak kira la  jahat apa...sex ke drugs ke

redsinner

Originally posted by klkl at 20-12-2005 09:12 AM
we have to be judgemental

sanggup ke tengok adik or anak kita kawan dgn org jahat
tak kira la  jahat apa...sex ke drugs ke

this is when being judgemental is the most important...
but for normal human relation mcm cikgu ker, a professional ker, judgemental also means biasness towards a decision. or perhaps that is how they perceive others in their own eyes.

raeshad

Originally posted by redsinner at 20-12-2005 01:05 PM


this is when being judgemental is the most important...
but for normal human relation mcm cikgu ker, a professional ker, judgemental also means biasness

true...like me - (who are currently in the making..he he..), prof always stresses that we cant be judgemental.....if not, we wont get the patients real info.....and their trust.....as i say, we've gotta learn how to control our heart...n brain of course.....

Agul

Can you be, totally non-judgemental?

We always have pre-conception, notion and ideas about anything.


Anyway, being non-judgemental(for me), is not that much fun. You just need to add sophistication to your judgement by knowledge, intellect, experience and intuition. You also need to be aware that you're bound to be wrong, sometime.

raeshad

yup..THAT IS THE QUESTION!!!

can we ever be non-judgemental????

blackmore

...aku rasa semua orang ada sifat2 judgemental nie...cuma...the degree of how u make your judgement jer yang berbeza...afterall...we are given a brain to analyse things rite??...and being judgemental is just the same like u applying your intelligence in analysing a situation...pple...stuff...and apa2 lagik lah...and...i think this is important before kita buat sesuatu keputusan atau form an opinion on that matter...

...however...what pisses me off are those pple yang sanggup mencari dan mengorek segala macam info tentang seseorang tu just to form a negative opinion tentang orang tu...cos aku believe kita nie semua bukanlah perfect...semua orang ada cacat celanya...semua orang ada their own strength and limitations...so...chill...:cak:

raeshad

ni cam talking form experience jer blackmore? yer ker?

blackmore

Originally posted by raeshad at 24-12-2005 10:05 AM
ni cam talking form experience jer blackmore? yer ker?

...hehehe...dont u just sometimes feels like u are being scrutinised by the pple around u???...terasa plak macam lah aku nie micro-organism di bawah microscope...hehehe...

raeshad

ha ha..cam starting of War of the Worlds plak...

jadilah hakim yang bijaksana setelah meneliti hujah-hujah peguambela dan pendakwaraya dan meneliti keputusan juri...............

mysara

bagi sara..

dalam diri setiap manusia sudah ada sifat malaikat (kebaikan) dan sifat iblis (kejahatan) serta manusia dianugerahiNya dgn nafsu utk memenuhi tuntutan biologis.
maka, manusia jika mengikut sifat ini, lebih condong ke arah negatif jika pemikiran yg waras (waras merujuk kpd aturan hidup norma yg diterima dlm masyarakat, fahaman agama dan budaya), keimanan dan akhlak tidak dapat mengimbangi kehendak nafsu dan hasutan iblis.

manusia boleh berlagak spt malaikat dgn mempamerkan watak baik utk tontonan org lain namun boleh berubah menjadi iblis jika tiada sesiapa yg melihatnya andai dirinya kurang kuat pegangan agama dan engkar dgn kehendak norma masyarakat.  hal yg sama juga boleh berlaku, sifat luaran nampak jahat tetapi dalamannya baik.

maka, pentafsiran baik atau jahat, selain ras, bangsa, dan agama juga akan menjadikan manusia menghakimi manusia lain.  masalah komunikasi yg tidak berkesan juga memudahkan kita menjatuhkan hukuman kpd manusia yg tidak sehaluan dgn kita.  

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