Tips for Spicing up Marriage.

Strawberry

masa ngan exbf dulu2 bery sangat romantik, mcm2 surprise..  tapi now ngan tunang, rasa pelik nak buat romantic things dah. Hopefully lepas kahwin nanti okayla..

daejanggeum

Originally posted by laila_zi at 14-11-2006 01:53 PM
Nak buat suprise2 or manja2 ngan pasangan memang lah elok. Sekurang2nya cik abe kalu nak start mengatal tu akan teringat2 kat istri yang macam kucing parsi ni. Tapi ada juga type lelaki yang tak sp ...

Hai memacamlah...
Bila isteri ganas or kasar, tak pandai manja2 kata bini macam tarzan...
Dah dapat yg suka manja2 cakap buang tebiat pulak...
:geram::geram::geram:

cendawan_liar

cendawan plak selalu send pic tgh sexy..baru pas mandi kat huby time dia kusus..slalunya dia mesti sms balik..'teruja sungguh' ..ehe..he..

putubambu

upkan balik thread ni..

khaipozi

kami jumpa weekend je...he..he.., so dlm hari khamis / jumaat tu...
start kemas rumah giler-giler le...

1. make sure baju semua dah basuh dan berlipat...
2. tukar cadar, sarung bantal & comforter...
3. replenish lilin kat dlm toilet & bilik tidur..
4. replenish ikan, ayam, sayur & buah kat dlm peti ais...kekadang sayur sampai kuning...sbb jarang masak..
5. mandi sesama...

so far itu je lah....

Hanafie

ahah elok la tu..khamis/jumaat tu tukar cadar, sarung bantal and comforter tu eh..

khaipozi

errr...nak lagi spicy...'variety'kan lokasi ...ha..ha...jgn limitkan kat bilik tidur je...jeng..jeng...

tukar cadar & lelain tu bukannya apa...dah mmg sampai waktunya kena tukar, seminggu sekali tukar le...

Originally posted by khaipozi at 14-3-2007 12:04 PM
errr...nak lagi spicy...'variety'kan lokasi ...ha..ha...jgn limitkan kat bilik tidur je...jeng..jeng...

tukar cadar & lelain tu bukannya apa...dah mmg sampai waktunya kena tukar, seming ...

tulah khai, suami pernah cadangkan nak letak maid kat rumah tapi saya terpikir cam susah nak buat aksi2 spontan pulak bila ada org dalam rumah

khaipozi

yesss...tak yah maid ler...for the time being...he..he..

norsha

Originally posted by khaipozi at 15-3-2007 11:51 AM
yesss...tak yah maid ler...for the time being...he..he..

kalau dah ada anak berderet2, kena la ada maid..time tu la kena ada week-end getaway..

basikalgirl

selalu makan bersuap, tp memang selalu suami yg suapkan.. sekarang dah ada anak pun suami suapkan kami berdua.. pinggan satu kongsi 3 org, tp selalunya 2org, sbb anak cerewet sikit.. bagus cam ni jimat masa basuh pinggan, sabun, air..

pastu waktu masak, org yang tak masak sibuk g kacau, peluk dr belakang ke, berborak pasal mcm2..

selalu sidai kain same2, bersih umah same2..

pastu suami selalu buat surprise, beli hadiah or kek.. sbb kami suka mkn kek.. hr tu suami balik umah, dah masuk umah tu tetiba je die tanye ayang nak buang ke barang kat depan umah tu?.. rase cam tak letak ape2 kat depan umah, kite pun g check.. rupanya die letak kek kat depan pintu, saje buat2 tanye nak buat surprise..
ader jugak die hias rumah mcm nak berparty dgn belon2 nak sambut kite balik umah..

selalu main sembunyi2, waktu suami balik.. sembunyi kat belakang pintu pastu sergah die.. suka tngk muka die terkejut.. selalu gak sembunyi dlm almari, yg ni selalu kalu sblm kuar pg tergaduh ngan suami, pastu malu nak jumpa suami sbb mostly gaduh saye lah puncanya.. so suami balik die akan cari kiter.. bile dah jumpe tu buat2 tak nak kuar, pastu die pun pujuk, geletek2 sikit.. pastu kitorg pun gelak2 balik..

selalu le mandi bersama2 sabunkan, syampoo kan gosok2 mana yg patut..pastu kita pun kene gosok jugak

pingger

Ten ways of increasing happiness in your marriage and making it a successful one:-

The young and excited bride-and-groom-to-be; ecstatic about the upcoming wedding and marriage and the joy that it will bring. Three to six months later, reality has set in and both spouses realize that marriage is no easy task, but one that takes a great deal of effort and patience. The following are tips for both wives and husbands, to help make the task a little less daunting, and to increase the many rewards that are possible in such a marvelous and complex relationship.

Enter the Marriage with the Right Intention and Renew this Often

Both spouses should enter the marriage with the pure intention of pleasing Allah, subhanahu wa ta'ala, in order to receive His grace and blessings. The marriage itself then becomes an act of worship and one for which both spouses will be rewarded. Allah will be pleased with them and this will be the most critical element in ensuring peace, stability and happiness throughout the marital life. It is also important to realize that when an act of worship is continued over a long period of time, it becomes necessary to renew one's intention often to remain on the correct path and to obtain the most benefit.

Remember that Your Spouse is also Your Brother or Sister in Islam

Too often Muslims treat other people outside the home with kindness and sincerity, but then behave in a very different manner when it comes to their own spouses. Muslims should always remember that one's spouse is also another brother or sister in Islam and that the rights and duties that apply to the general brotherhood (sisterhood) of Islam, should also form the basis of the marital relationship. Obviously, a spouse has rights beyond these, but there should be a clear understanding of the rights of brotherhood (sisterhood) and adherence to these principles.

Do Not Hold Unrealistic Expectations

Before marriage, people often have unrealistic ideas about their spouse-to-be, expecting perfection in all aspects. This rarely, if ever, plays out in reality and can lead to unnecessary problems and concerns. We should recall that Allah, subhanahu wa ta'ala, created humans as imperfect beings, which means that many mistakes will be made throughout a lifetime. By turning the table and expecting imperfection, we will be pleasantly surprised and pleased when our spouse is much more than we ever hoped for. This, in turn, will lead to contentment within the marriage.

Emphasize the Best in Your Spouse

Since no one is endowed with all of the best qualities, emphasis should be placed on the positive qualities that a spouse possesses. Encouragement, praise, and gratitude should be expressed on a regular basis, which will strengthen these qualities and be beneficial in developing others. An attempt should be made to overlook or ignore negative characteristics, as the Prophet, sallallahu alayhe wa sallam, said, "A believing man should not have any malice against a believing woman. He may dislike one characteristic in her, but may find another in her which is pleasing." (Muslim)

pingger

Ten ways of increasing happiness in your marriage and making it a successful one:-

The young and excited bride-and-groom-to-be; ecstatic about the upcoming wedding and marriage and the joy that it will bring. Three to six months later, reality has set in and both spouses realize that marriage is no easy task, but one that takes a great deal of effort and patience. The following are tips for both wives and husbands, to help make the task a little less daunting, and to increase the many rewards that are possible in such a marvelous and complex relationship.

Enter the Marriage with the Right Intention and Renew this Often

Both spouses should enter the marriage with the pure intention of pleasing Allah, subhanahu wa ta'ala, in order to receive His grace and blessings. The marriage itself then becomes an act of worship and one for which both spouses will be rewarded. Allah will be pleased with them and this will be the most critical element in ensuring peace, stability and happiness throughout the marital life. It is also important to realize that when an act of worship is continued over a long period of time, it becomes necessary to renew one's intention often to remain on the correct path and to obtain the most benefit.

Remember that Your Spouse is also Your Brother or Sister in Islam

Too often Muslims treat other people outside the home with kindness and sincerity, but then behave in a very different manner when it comes to their own spouses. Muslims should always remember that one's spouse is also another brother or sister in Islam and that the rights and duties that apply to the general brotherhood (sisterhood) of Islam, should also form the basis of the marital relationship. Obviously, a spouse has rights beyond these, but there should be a clear understanding of the rights of brotherhood (sisterhood) and adherence to these principles.

Do Not Hold Unrealistic Expectations

Before marriage, people often have unrealistic ideas about their spouse-to-be, expecting perfection in all aspects. This rarely, if ever, plays out in reality and can lead to unnecessary problems and concerns. We should recall that Allah, subhanahu wa ta'ala, created humans as imperfect beings, which means that many mistakes will be made throughout a lifetime. By turning the table and expecting imperfection, we will be pleasantly surprised and pleased when our spouse is much more than we ever hoped for. This, in turn, will lead to contentment within the marriage.

Emphasize the Best in Your Spouse

Since no one is endowed with all of the best qualities, emphasis should be placed on the positive qualities that a spouse possesses. Encouragement, praise, and gratitude should be expressed on a regular basis, which will strengthen these qualities and be beneficial in developing others. An attempt should be made to overlook or ignore negative characteristics, as the Prophet, sallallahu alayhe wa sallam, said, "A believing man should not have any malice against a believing woman. He may dislike one characteristic in her, but may find another in her which is pleasing." (Muslim)

Be Your Mate's Best Friend

Try to think of what a best friend means and be one to your spouse. This may mean sharing interests, experiences, dreams, failures and upsets. It may involve understanding a spouse's likes and dislikes and attempting to please him or her in any way possible. A best friend is also usually someone that can be confided to trusted, and relied upon. A spouse should be the kind of friend that one would want to keep throughout life.

Spend Quality Time Together

It is not enough to share meals, chores and small talk together. Spouses should also find time to focus on strengthening the relationship. Often couples get busy with their own separate tasks and forget about working on one of the most important elements in life. Quality time may be anything from having a quiet, profound conversation to going for a nice long nature walk, to sharing a special hobby or project. Both spouses should enjoy the particular option chosen and distractions should be kept to a minimum.

Express Feelings Often

This is probably a very "Western" concept and one that some people may have difficulty fulfilling, but it is important to be open and honest about one's feelings, both positive and negative. The lines of communication should always be open and any concerns should be brought to the attention of the other spouse as soon as they arise. The rationale of this is that what begins as a simple concern may grow into a major problem if it is not addressed quickly and properly. The "silent treatment" has never been the remedy for anything.

Admit to Mistakes and ask for Forgiveness

Just as we ask Allah to forgive us when we make mistakes, we should also do the same with our spouses. The stronger person is the one who can admit when he or she is wrong, request pardon from the other, and work hard to improve his/her aspects that are in need of change. When a person is unwilling to do this, there will be little growth and development in the marriage.

Never Bring up Mistakes of the Past

It can be very hurting for another person to be reminded of past mistakes. In Islam, it is generally not recommended to dwell on the past. One may remember errors that were made so that they are not repeated, but this should not be done excessively. Certainly, as humans, we are not in the position to judge another person. Advice may be given, but not in a harmful manner.

Surprise Each Other at Times

This may entail bringing home a small gift or flowers, preparing a special meal, dressing up and beautifying oneself (this is not only for women), or sending a secret note in a lunchbox. A little imagination will go a long way here. The idea is to spice up the marriage and avoid getting into a dull routine that may negatively affect the marriage.

Have a Sense of Humour

This particular aspect can go a long way in preventing arguments and brightening the atmosphere of the home. Life is a constant stream of challenges and tests, and to approach it in a light-hearted manner will help to make the journey smoother and more enjoyable. You may also find that your spouse enjoys this characteristic and looks forward to spending time with you because of it.

Quick Tips for Discussions and Disagreements:

Begin with the intention to resolve the issue. If both spouses have this intention and plan to consult together, it is more likely that there will be a successful resolution.

Remember that it takes two to quarrel. If only one person chooses not to argue, there will be no argument. Generally, the one who is wrong does most of the talking.

Both spouses should not be angry at the same time. If one of the spouses becomes upset, it is best if the other tries to remain calm and collected.

Never yell at each other unless the house is on fire. Of course, house fires do not occur very frequently; yelling should occur at about the same rate.

Never go to sleep with an argument unsettled. This is one of the worst things that can happen in a marriage and should be avoided as much as possible. This allows hurt feelings and thoughts to linger and generally exacerbates the problem.

If one spouse needs to win, let it be your mate. Do not focus on winning yourself; this is the main reason that discussions tend to become heated.

personally, in our relation, normally we try to be the prettiest / most handsome partner ever exist. that's why normally she does her make up when she's at home, not only when she's going to work. me too, my perfume and cr鑝es are used more at home than outside. it's easy. we dont like to be shabby, n never like to see one.

second thing, we wear the best clothes we have to show our "sexynesss" at home. We buy things we think sexy being showed on a human model, and we make a small d閒il

genUmi

aku pulak bila nak gerakkan dia dari tido

aku suka guna suis suis sensitip kat badan dia
cepat sikit dia bangun tido

nurulaini

aku setuju..kami selalu wat gak..wekekek

haira

best topik ni...  baru rini prasan.
gud utk org

lisnaree

Kemesraan adalah antara cara mengekalkan keharmonian rumahtangga & Rasulullah telah mencontohkan kemesraan tersebut dengan isteri-isteri baginda..........

     

    Tidur dalam satu selimut bersama isteri..

    Dari Atha` bin Yasar:

    "Sesungguhnya Rasulullah s.a.w. dan Aisyah r.a biasa mandi bersama dlm satu bejana. Ketika baginda sedang berada dlm satu selimut dgn Aisyah, tiba-tiba Aisyah bangkit. Baginda kemudian bertanya, `Mengapa engkau bangkit?` Jawab Aisyah, Kerana saya haid, wahai Rasulullah.' Sabda Rasulullah, 'Kalau begitu, pergilah, lalu berkainlah & dekatlah kembali padaku.' Aku pun masuk, lalu berselimut bersama beliau."

  ( Hadis Riwayat sa`id bin Manshur ).
     

    Memberi wangi-wangian pada aurat

    Aisyah berkata, "sesungguhnya Nabi s.a.w. apabila meminyaki badannya, baginda akan memulai drpd auratnya menggunakan nurah  ( sejenis serbuk pewangi ) & isterinya baginda meminyaki bagian lain tubuh Rasulullah s..a.w.

    ( Hadis Riwayat Ibnu Majah ).

     

    Mandi bersama isteri

    Dari Aisyah r.a. beliau berkata, "Aku biasa mandi bersama Nabi s.a.w. menggunakan satu bejana. Kami biasa bersama-sama memasukkan tangan kami ( ke dlm bejana tesebut )."

    ( Hadis riwayat Abdurrazaq dan Ibnu Abu Syaibah ).

     

    Disikatkan oleh isteri

    Dari Aisyah r.a, beliau berkata, " Saya biasa menyikat rambut Rasulullah s.a.w, ketika itu saya sedang haid".

    ( Hadis Riwayat Ahmad ).

    Meminta isteri meminyaki badan

    Dari Aisyah r.a, beliau berkata, "Saya meminyaki badan Rasulullah s.a.w pd hari Raya 'Aidil Adha' setelah beliau melakukan jumrah aqabah."

    ( Hadis Riwayat Ibnu 'Asakir ).

     

    Minum bergantian pada tempat yang sama

    Drpd Aisyah r.a, dia berkata:"Saya biasa minum dari cawan yg sama walaupun ketika haid. Nabi mengambil cawan tersebut & meletakkan mulutnya di tempat saya meletakkan mulut, lalu Baginda minum, kemudian saya mengambil cawan tersebutdan lalu menghirup isinya, kemudian Baginda mengambilnya dari saya, lalu Baginda meletakkan mulutnya pd tempat saya letakkan mulut saya, lalu Baginda pun menghirupnya."

    ( Hadis Riwayat Abdurrazaq dan Said bin Manshur ).

     

    Membelai isteri

    "Adalah Rasulullah s.a.w tidaklah setiap hari melainkan beliau mesti mengelilingi kami semua ( isterinya ) seorang demi seorang. Baginda menghampiri & membelai kami tetapi tidak bersama sehingga Baginda singgah ke tempat isteri yg menjadi giliran Baginda, lalu Baginda bermalam di tempatnya."

    ( Hadis Riwayat Ahmad ).

     

    Mencium isteri

    Dari Aisyah r.a, bahawa Nabi s.a.w biasa mencium isterinya setelah mengambil wuduk, kemudian Baginda bersembahyang & tidak mengulangi wuduknya."

    ( Hadis Riwayat Abdurrazaq ).

    Dari Hafshah, puteri Umar r.a, "Sesungguhnya Rasulullah s.a.w biasa mencium isterinya sekalipun sedang berpuasa."

    ( Hadis Riwayat Ahmad ).

     

    Berbaring di pangkuan isteri

    Dari Aisyah r.a, beliau berkata: "Nabi s.a.w biasa meletakkan kepalanya di pangkuanku walaupun aku sedang haid, kemudian beliau membaca Al-Quran."

    ( Hadis Riwayat Abdurrazaq ).

     

    Memanggil dengan panggilan mesra

    Rasulullah s.a.w biasa memanggil Aisyah dgn beberapa nama panggilan yg di sukainya spt Aisy & Humaira (pipi merah delima).

     

    Menyejukkan kemarahan isteri dengan mesra

    Nabi s.a.w biasa memicit hidung Aisyah jika dia marah & Baginda berkata, "Wahai Uwaisy, bacalah doa: 'Wahai Tuhanku, Tuhan Muhammad, ampunilah dosa-dosaku, hilangkanlah kekerasan hatiku & lindungilah diriku dari fitnah yg menyesatkan."

    ( Hadis Riwayat Ibnu Sunni ).

     

    Membersihkan titisan darah haid isteri

    Dari Aisyah r.a, dia berkata."Aku pernah tidur bersama Rasulullah s.a.w di atas satu tikar ketika aku sedang haid.Apabila darah ku menitis di atas tikar itu, Baginda mencucinya pd bhgn yg terkena titisan darah & baginda tidak berpindah dari tempat itu, kemudian beliau sembahyang di tempat itu pula, lalu Baginda berbaring kembali di sisiku.Apabila darah ku menitis lagi di atas tikar itu, Baginda mencuci pd bhgn yg terkena titisam darah itu saja & tidak berpindah dari tempat itu, kemudian baginda pun sembahyang di atas tikar itu.."

    ( Hadis Riwayat Nasai ).

     

    Memberikan hadiah

    Dari Ummu Kaltsum binti Abu Salamsh, ia berkata, "Ketika Nabi s.a.w menikah dgn Ummu Salamah, Baginda bersabda kepadanya,'Sesungguhnya aku pernah hendak memberi hadiah kpd Raja Najasyi sebuah pakaian berenda & beberapa botol minyak kasturi, namun aku mengetahui ternyata Raja Najasyi telah meninggal dunia & aku mengagak hadiah itu akan di kembalikan.Jika hadiah itu memang di kembalikan kepadaku, aku akan memberikanyya kepadamu." Dia ( Ummu Kaltsum ) berkata,"Ternyata keadaan Raja Najasyi seperti yg di sabdakan Rasulullah s.a.w & hadiah tersebut di kembalikan kpd Baginda, lalu Baginda memberikanyya kpd masing-masing isterinya satu botol minyak kasturi, sedang sisa minyak kasturi & pakaian tersebut Baginda berikan kpd Ummu Salamah." ( Hadis Riwayat Ahmad )

     

    Segera menemui isteri apabila tergoda

    Dari Jabir, sesungguhnya Nabi s.a.w pernah melihat wanita, lalu Baginda masuk ke tempat kediaman Zainab, utk melepaskan keinginan Baginda kepadanya, lalu keluar & bersabda, "Wanita kalau menghadap, ia menghadap dalam rupa syaitan.......apabila seseorang di antara kamu melihat wanita yg menarik, hendaklah ia mendatangi isterinya krn pd diri isterinya ada hal yg sama dgn yg ada pd wanita itu."

    ( Hadis Riwayat Tirmizi ).

     

    Begitu indahnya kemesraan Rasulullah s.a.w kpd para isteri Baginda, memberikan gambaran betapa Islam sgt mementingkan sikap kerana sikap & perbuatan baik cara yg paling efektif menyatakan rasa cinta, kasih & sayang antara suami & isteri. Inilah
teladan yg perlu di contohi........ :flower: :flower: :flower:

boxchick

indah sungguh sifat Rasulullah...
kalau lah semua lelaki bersifat begitu .. indahnya dunia