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How do we cope with deaths and critical illnesses in a family?
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deaths.. critical illnesses.. often break or make a family. recently, my family experienced it. as sudden as it came, all of us were shocked and touched by my grandma's illness. many of us sad, shed many tears, awake for some nights just to make sure she is well taken care of... all of us play many parts in ensuring her well being, beside nurses and doctors at the hospital.
while i was there, i saw ambulans in and out. almost all of those patients were accompanied by a family member. be it a bro, sis, mum, dad, and even a grandma who was so quick to carry her grandkid to the emergency room. how lucky those ppl are.. in their weakest state, they have a family who stand by their side, ready to go an extra mile, anytime, just to make sure their pain is alleviated. and make me think of my grandma, how lucky she is, to have all of us, who loves her well, and take turn to watch by her bedside.
this makes me wonder: what's gonna happen to those who have no immediate family to love them, no wife, no husband, no kids, no parents when they fall sick.. contracted disease that left them handicapped? we can say that nurses and doctors will be there, and if that eprson is so rich, he can have the best medical treatment in town, a helper, but none would beat of having a FAMILY, who care for us because they love us. it's because of the bonds that we have and nurtured, will surpass more than cares provided by those medical experts. FAMILY is an essence that help us go through bad time like this.. we may be bed ridden, but having a family surrounded us, seeing their smiles, listening to their prayers, all that will make this painful ordeal a bearable event.
and this makes me feel that having a FAMILY is a blessing from God... small or big it might be, just to know that we have someone whom we can count on when we are suffering from illness, priceless..
so, how you guys cope with a tragic incident in a family? what makes you guys come together at this moment of time?
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[ Last edited by LostSoul at 30-1-2009 11:38 AM ] |
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Reply #2 putubambu's post
tu yg wa rasa put.. while i was there... org ramai melawat means the person has so many who love her/him.. bayangkan family sanggup mengadakan masa, masing2 bekerja/berniaga, hanya utk dtg melawat yg sakit. dtglah dlm bentuk mcmana pun, senantiasa ada family member di sisi utk menemani.
mmg terharu sungguh la beb masa disana.. dpt menyaksikan kekuatan tali kekeluargaan, even sifat2 kemanusiaan bila kat sana.. |
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aku ada kenal org yg ada potensi mati kering sorg2
sian...harap dia ingat tuhan supaya tidak rasa kesorangan |
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Reply #6 mala0n's post
biasanye, org mcm ni takkan sedar dia akan mati kering sorang2...
sbb tu kita jgn lupa, hidup kita ni interdependent dgn org lain, bersangkut paut.. mungkinlah ada sesetengah manusia tu kata "takpe, aku mati sorang2 pun takpe, Allah itu ada". but at the same time, meragah cube tangkap muat sapa2 saje utk dijadikan pasangannya... dan Allah takkan hampir dgn manusia yg senantisa bergelumang dgn maksiat.. contohnye, mereka yg bersekedudukan dgn teman wanita yg bukan Islam selama bertahun2.. ini contoh la kan.. |
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Reply #7 afja's post
sedihnya.. al-fatihah buat arwah |
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Balas #4 manakautau\ catat
No wonder masyarakat kita harinih biar laki dicurangi takper...sembunyikan darinya at all cost,jangan sampai bercerai.....
Rupanya takut nanti nak mati takdok orang yang nak ziarah.......
pelik aku tgk mcmni punya reply.?
tak semestinya suami je yg dimaksudkan...
kalau org tu yatimpiatu ke apa.... bukan ke tak de org yg nak dtg menziarah.... |
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Reply #15 safada's post
safada..
kat FD ni mmg byk posting yg pelik lagi memelikkan..
cam mistik gitu..
kalau rasa tak boleh terima ignore je yek.. |
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Reply #12 tehlaut's post
beb, when the time comes, all of us have to face this sometimes.. tak boleh nak kenangkan, but it will happen, inevitably.. |
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baru kehilangan kawan raya lepas, sbb kanser
laki bini kawan aku..terharu tgk camana layanan suami dia until the end.. yg best tu walaupun dah bawak balik rumah & mcm takde harapan, diorang masih lagi tak putus asa, masa kali terakhir pegi melawat arwah, suami dia cerita mcmana seleranya wife dia skrg, wife dia pun nampak tenang walaupun masa tu dia semput semput nak nafas, time dia betul betul sedar dia akan cakap macam biasa... rupanya 3 hari selepas tu arwah dah tiada...jenazahnya nampak tenang sewaktu dikapan ...
pada aku kehadiran org org tersayang disisi pada saat cam ni umpama bagi kekuatan pada kita utk menempuhi kesakitan atau kematian |
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masa tok aku meninggal dulu, aku tak nangis pun. masa dpt kol kata tok dah takde, kami smua siap2, terus drive balik kulim. mmg aku tak nangis langsung. denial kot.
tapi, sebulan pas tu, kami dok plan nak balik kulim, aku da excited nak jumpak tok. Then aku tersedaq bila aku sampai sana nanti, tok takkan tunggu aku kat tangga rumah lagi.
Time tu aku mcm tersedq dari mimpi. aku terus nangis kuat2. sambil drive time tu. sepanjang aku drive dari shah alam balik ke kepong (adalah dlm 45 mins kot).
That was the closure for me. |
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Reply #18 misy's post
sis, same as what i felt. having loved ones beside us during this difficult time cukup utk membuatkan kita lebih tabah menghadapi masa2 mendtg..
teringat pulak tragedi masa 1st time bawak nenek ke hospital alot gajah. ada satu family ni, diapun hantar maknye ke wad emergency. maknye ada penyakit 3 serangkai, slalunye tak mau ke hospital. cume ari ni maknye ckp dgn anaknye, hantarlah dia ke hospital. sampai shj kat depan pintu wad emergency tu, maknye terus coma.. tried to resuscitate for 1/2 hour, still takde.
wa nampak anak2nye tenang menerima berita duka. tiba2 shj org yg kita sayang mungkin pergi selama2nya.. time is percious kan sis.. |
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Reply #20 nurulcomfykid's post
nurul, its like delayed reaction. nenek aku mengalami scenario sama masa arwah atuk meninggal.. lama jugak dia dok termenung.. berckp sorang diri (katanye berckp dgn arwah atok).. kadang2 menangis.. yelah, lama dah mereka bersama... |
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Balas #21 LostSoul\ catat
that's why we cant take people around us for granted. ALWAYS appreciate them, for TIME is a luxury we can never afford. |
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