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My anak buah came to my house. He is planning to stay at my home until this Sunday. Ok, I am happy with that...He is 15 years of age.
But, just now I caught him watching porno videos using his laptop in the room...my goodness...I saw the action of a man and a woman clearly when I opened the door slowly...
Then, I sergah dia, dia was so suprised and I asked him, what makes you love to see those videos?(he accessed through wireless available at my home)
He said, nothing, he just want to learn how to have sex when he get married later...and he said he loves the way the man approaching the woman and made the woman moan.....I am so suprised with his level of thinking...Slowly I took the wireless hub and keep it in the drawer..now I am dilemma...should I tell his parents?
Why a young man loves to watch such videos?. How to stop them?. I was grateful yang my children semua di sekolah... |
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Reply #1 raducan's post
owh!!!
this is a big issue actually. learning is just an excuses....i can say very2 stupid excuses....
i dunno how to stop them, but raducan, please take care of your own child kay.....im afraid on behalf of youngsters including your child....
use Islam as the way of life....thats the only way.... |
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Reply #3 ajinomotonosuga's post
rite2.....
but no need to worry....
actually any good way is considered Islams way.....so still, there are many ways.... |
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more to pleasure benarnyer... bukan learn tuh |
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Reply #5 True-X's post
yup...dan sex ni tak payah learn2....
kotak tv baru muncul dalam abad ke 20....
tapi manusia dah hidup beribu2 tahun, tak de pun yg bodoh pasal sex ....
sume mesti pandai punyer. |
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topik ni luas laa nak diskus..pakcik aku pun tanya aku bab ni..untuk anak2 dia
once get caught budak tu akan berhati2 next time..kalo tokleh di rumah tu di mana saja asal ada ACCESS..bleh dapat
tak mintak pun mende tu leh maii..so what to do? apa perisai terbaik..esp ibu bapa?
boleh pakai kaedah punishment..but i wisau sapa pun manusia tu besok tua dia sangka sex tu kotor, dirty lalu ada sexual dysfunctional
dalam dunia ni kitab quran jek amongs all kitab agama ada di dunia duk cite pasal seksualiti dengan sopan dan ilmiah
budak2 tu ada PEERS..depa takkan tanya ibu bapa..kalo depa toddlers maybe depa tanya..cam camna adik tu kuo? camna adik ni lahir or dia nampak mak pak dia aneh skit..macam2 dia tanya , that is why perangai suami isteri tu kene btui2 jaga depan anak
ni soal remaja, his or her peers, pergaulan, sosiol dan pendidikan seksualiti..luassssss
cuba bayang kalo pertama kali suami or isteri ternampak anak wat keje cam tu..amik rotann terus piappppppp..melolong2 budak tu..agak2 budak tu berani ke nak sentuh mende2 cam tuh? so ni salah satu kaedah punishment
macam masa toddler..mak cubittttttt kalo nakal sangat so budak tu bleh behave..then dia beso skit pakai rotan sebab body dia leh tahan skit..kendian dia beso lagi so kene fikir lah kaedah
there is no exact ways ..ibu bapa kene balance reward and punish to instil dicipline.. sometime u leh kata mende tu jijikk eeeiii jijikk so anak faham kene jauhi..but another time the same thing u kata sedappppp besssss..ni maybe anak tu dah besor skit dan fahamm ler kut..so bukan senang jadi ibu bapa yer?
i dont think ramai rajin nak amik kisah pun..simply say this is the way of life, that is the way of life kita tak kemana..so tak heran bertudung pun dengan baju sekolah dah pandai isappp itu ini..tak btui? u got to be more analytical, more hands on approach pada anak2, u kene TAILORED or suit dia punya needs..esp bab curiousity depa..dan paling penting buat die berani tanya or close to u, bukan bab2 ni karang dia tanya kawan2 dia..kene kawan tak btui tu yang salu kes geng bang
kalo secara individual, bab ni malulaa nak cite..disini penting peranan MEDIA, media ni bagus sangat2 esp nak didik puak lebih besor cam society..media can create trend..tenguk cam nasyid laa ni..seme pakat suka nasyid..sedangkan zaman aku budak2 taun 70an nasyid dah lamaaaaa ada..al mizan al jawaher seme tu nasyid top satu masa dulu
kesan media tu penting..kalo media asik cite kes budak2 sekolah buat mende tak senonoh ..lama2 jadik COPYCAT...seme budak2 pakat buat sebab mende tu dah jadi trend or kemestian di kalangan depa.
yang sedih nanti anak2 tak berdosa or inesen cam arwah adik nurin tu kee adik nurhuda tuu jadik mangsa kebuasan anak2 jantan ni yang terbiar cenggitu sampai dewasa sebab takdok program nak interrupt mende2 cam ni sejak depa kecik. |
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Balas #1 raducan\ catat
haiyooo |
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Reply #1 raducan's post
realitinya lelaki dgn video seks ,gambar2 porno,pompuan bogel ni memang dah sinonim...mmg tak boleh dipisahkan...cuba lu buat survey suami2 atau lelaki2 bujang kat fd ni..stat dari umo brape depa dah arif ttg sex ni..sebelum sunat ke,seminggu pas sunat..
nak best lagi pi tanya kat bod ask the men..wat pool..tgok resultnye..pasti x mengecewakan..
[ Last edited by Cajole at 1-8-2008 06:57 PM ] |
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Reply #1 raducan's post
aku penah baca bende ni kat majalah atau suratkhabar. aku tak ingat each word tapi explanation dia almost as below (diserta sedikit perencah secukup rasa)...
i think it is normal. back when my age of 15yrs old are very limited to printed material only... it is more secret and private, easy to hide and don need electicity to access it.
somehow, it become your responsibility to monitor and guide him and find the best way to pass it to his parent.
at this age, in this modern era, its very difficult to stop teenagers from porn material.
plus, "teen age" are very rebelious age. if u see any teeangers are attached to his/her family very closely, consider the parents are very lucky.
i also have 12 nieces/nephews, and i'm afraid that some of them are rebelious or do something stupid, especially my niece who are teenagers now and start to have boyfriend who is older than her. nephews are however easy to talk to bcoz, boys will be boys. boys language and slang are "one".
we cant stop them to those material, but we can input them with moral and civilization thought based on religious teaching. make it "cool" and "awesome" so that its easy for tem to swallow our "words of the day". |
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1) gertak nak tempeleng dan ngadu kat parent ..
2) install program yang boleh halang dia bukak website porno... |
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Originally posted by raducan at 1-8-2008 05:54 PM 
My anak buah came to my house. He is planning to stay at my home until this Sunday. Ok, I am happy with that...He is 15 years of age.
But, just now I caught him watching porno videos using his ...
tak segan ker bercerita psl sex dgn anak buah awak....sampai tanya "why do u like to watch this?"and then listening to all his excuses... |
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Reply #12 demonicboy's post
demo,
dia bukan anak I, so I cannot simply marah dia..kang I marah dia, parents dia lak kecil hati...I tak nak because of this little issue, sampai kaum kerabat semua masam2 muka..nanti kang anak I macam baik sangat nak komen anak dia...so, I tanya dia baik2...and I am so suprised dengan his answers...especially when he said he was so fond with the way the man doing sexual intercourse upon the woman, and the way the woman moaned when she was....oh no...I cannot teruskan... |
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[ Last edited by Maideena at 1-8-2008 10:58 PM ] |
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choiii.. 15 tahun underage lagi tuh.. tableh layan porn .. nanti diorang ni cepat terpengaruh,, maklumla tengah raging hormone.. kang takut ada pompuan terdekat tak berdosa yang jadi mangsa ajek |
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Reply #16 faraway's post
I have no strength...but I suruh dia balik je la...tak yah la tido sini... |
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Baru 15 years old... wow! so advanced. Well, rasanya youngsters skrg ramai yg mcm tu, high curiosity. Somehow, it's not the right time kut for him to venture that far (sbb reason given supaya tau nak buat camne masa dia dah kawin kan?). Surely dia tak akan kawin so soon. In my opinion, pls inform the parents and let them deal with the son. Tak healthy lar sis benda-benda mcm ni. He's too young to be able to control his desire, takut tersalah langkah lak nanti kalau iman tak kuat. |
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Reply #18 pinkyberry's post
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I suruh dia balik je la...takut la...tapi 15tahun dah baligh,kan??? |
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Post time 1-8-2008 05:54 PM
变色卡
Post time 1-8-2008 06:06 PM
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