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mamajawie replied at 18-7-2023 10:45 AM
i kurus after bersalin ank ketiga ni..pastu i diet jaga kalori plus i exercise pastu enroll taekwo ...
Jgn ckp nk diet. Bila u ckp mcm tu dia rasa mcm u hina dia gemuk (?) . Mcm i ckp la cuba ajak dia hiking sama2 tp bg alasan nk dating. Klau semua i ckp u dah buat, dia tetap mcm tu, last step, jujur je. Ckp apa masalah dia? Insecure? Jeles u kurus n lg berduit? Sbb i rasa dia xckup kasih syg tp bkn pasal sex. Klau dia still diam membatu, i suggest u let go je dia. 30 still muda. Rugi habiskan umur dgn org yg salah. |
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mamajawie replied at 18-7-2023 10:48 AM
kahkahkah..iollss ni tak penah ada pakwe b4 this solely laki iollss la 1st bf iollss..i ada pengal ...
I faham perasaan akak sedara tu . Tp u mesti lg strong dri akak sedara tu. Love urself 1st. Bdn fit, berkerjaya, walaupon ank dah 3, sure one day akn jumpa org yg hargai u |
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btul i ckap utk diet sbab dia gain nearly 30kg lepas kwen n skang dia cpat mengah cpat sakit..tah la ye anak2 i sume rapat dgan dia sbab dia buat katering so byak masa dkat rumah than i..i ni sbar je sbab anak2 n even my mom pun ckap sbar je la lme2 elok la..weyh aku da sbar 7 tahun n worse sjak awal tahun ni..perlu ke iollss sbar lagi?
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i wish too sis sbab i slalu dimomokkan yg dia je sggup terima i sebagai couple n wife..yela dia gunakan kekurangan i utk takutkn i..tu i ckap in case kalau ada lelaki willing nk kenal iollss more deeper & syg kat anak2 iolss why not i take next steps?
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kalau duit ada, financial stable nak cerai go on jee. tp lepas cerai cerita dia lain pula. sebelum cerai kikis sakau sebanyak mungkin duit laki. nama rumah tukar nama anak.
cara nak sakau dan kikis boleh tanya kaka friska sebab dia ratu sondol cariforum |
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mamajawie replied at 18-7-2023 12:42 PM
i wish too sis sbab i slalu dimomokkan yg dia je sggup terima i sebagai couple n wife..yela dia gu ...
Sah dia insecure. Look around u. Ramai lg yg kahwin baru walaupon gemuk, walaupon ank ramai, walaupon x berduit. U dah fit, dah ada kerjaya, so step xbyk utk u focus perbaiki diri. Kiranya penampilan u dah settle, kerjaya settle, klau ditakdirkan xkahwin lain pon, x rasa u rugi apa2. In this 6months if dia degil mcm tu jgk, boleh angkat kaki. Mgkin masa tu baru la dia merayu2 buang ego dia yg entah pape tu |
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mamajawie replied at 18-7-2023 12:40 PM
btul i ckap utk diet sbab dia gain nearly 30kg lepas kwen n skang dia cpat mengah cpat sakit..tah ...
Klau dia ayah yg baik, u boleh consider utk bg dia jaga ank2. Mcm erra buat dlu. Org akn mengata, surely, tp lantak kan aje. Erra ok je n her doter turns out fine n rapat je dgn dia bila dah besar. Diam dah mulut2 yg mengata tu |
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nak kata stable tu idok la sbab iollss keje swasta lgi2 time covid ni anything happens..plus bertambah anak lgi so iolss x brape nk kkuh sgat ekonomi lagi ni..
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ni i bagi chance kat dia lagi ni smpai 6 bln cm u ckap..btw i ni takde la gelenyar sgt nk manja doplopat jam but skang i yg slalu pluk ke pgang tgn dia n dia da x nak buat bnda sama kt iollss..tah la ye iollss btul2 da x cantik da ke ni?i is stressssssss
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I'm gonna be honest, most men don't know how to control their emotions or tempers. These men do not know how scary they are.
Talk to him if not tell him to go to therapy. Emotional abuse is not something anyone should have to live with.
Your husband has internal issues. |
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I'm sure he will refuse to go seek for psychiatrist because even if he sick he don't want to go to clinic..
I'm not sure about his childhood moments but what i know is that his parents were poor at that time and he was being adopted by his aunt from age 2 until 8 yo..maybe somehow it does affect his emotions..
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Hi sis, based on ur descriptions, i think he's insecure and he's projecting his insecurities towards u. Some lelaki tak boleh terima if their wife lagi 'lebih' drpd dia. Nnt dia akan rasa mcm dia bukan the 'alpha man'. And the way he bodyshame u & marah2 u depan khalayak ramai pun da nampak ke-insecure-an dia kt mana. Slow talk with him. Ask him apa yg dia nk sebenarnya drpd diri dia, diri u and perkahwinan ni. Jgn emosi dulu. Biar dia luah ketidakpuashatian dia. Validate his emotions. And then baru u ckp ur point of views, apa perasaan u bila dia buat mcmni dekat u. Try to solve it from there. Bagi tempoh masa and chance dulu utk berubah. Hope this helps my dear  |
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And thing is kalau dia start berubah perangai tiba2 ni, ada kemungkinan dia buat 'hal' atau makan luar mcm forumer atas tu ckp. Tp harap bukan yg ni lah. Haha |
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mamajawie replied at 24-7-2023 02:56 PM
ni i bagi chance kat dia lagi ni smpai 6 bln cm u ckap..btw i ni takde la gelenyar sgt nk manja do ...
Boleh jadi he rasa insecure… maybe dia terdetik dlm hati jugak sebab dia pnah buat salah berskandal once upon a time, then now tetiba you put effort utk kurus apa semua so dia start pikir kot yg benda yg dia pnah buat kat you boleh berbalik ke dia pulak? Benda mcm ni kena be transparent kot laki bini kalau tak memang pendam perasaan jelah buat sakit hati, sakit kepala suma.. btw well done you for losing weight and live healthier now.. harap aku pun ada willpower nak start jaga makan and exercise sikit2 
p/s: takyah la harap sgt dpt laki kokesen, letih ajar adat budaya kita org melayu kat dia… skang laki aku dah bagi 1 rule, kalau pegi tgk org meninggal straight terus pi kubur.. jgn gatal2 nak suruh dia tgk muka si mati in kain kapan mode  |
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dia jenis x nak meluah tunggu dia free baru nk kabo..tah la iollss rasa benda ni makin teruk since i da lose weight pastu i groom diri i seiring dgan umo bukan cam dulu iolss gi keje pkai baju beli kat sakan je..now i ada duit i slalu ke aeon mall sbab byak pilihan perfume, kasut n beg berjenama..lagipun i guna duit iollss sendiri heollss bagi baru la rm500 simpan dlm acc je..nak insecure kejadahnye patut bangga dpat bini kemas pandai jaga badan walaupun umo 30 anak 3 tapi ni lain lak..hmmm
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kalau insecure perlu ke nk marah2 i dpan2 orang ramai?penah i tnya dia ckap dia penat urus biz i counter dia balik ckap i habis keje i jaga anak2 siap tolong dia buat katering in case order banyak..i lagi la penat ada dua keje plus anak2 kuat meragam sampai nk makan takde masa tido tak cukup..
btw chaiyok2 semoga sama2 kurus untuk kesihatan..amin
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Insecure sbb isteri makin cantik
Pening sbb duit takde
Malu bila isteri back up hal kewangan keluarga
Huhu |
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rasa pun ye dia ni insecure sbab 1 tmpat iollss ni ada 3 orang lelaki sorang cina dua melayu segak2 belaka..mostly kalau ada makan2 somi iolss x bgi pergi sbab dia ckap kerja is enough..ok la kalau jeles at least cuba la ambil hati i balik..ni x kelmarin was my birthday & our wedding anniversary tapi sepatah haram dia x ingat..iollss smpai nangis sbab i rasa i kawen dgan jantan red flag jenis x reti caring pasal i..
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Selalunya hub/wife yg suka marah marah..ubah sikap..mostly hati dia dh tawar kat psgn. mungkin dia dh ada pilihan dlm senyap2 atau sdg peringkat buat perbandingan.
Check solat dia cukup 5 waktu? Kalau xde..kalau masih nk jaga perkhwinan..dh bole start semua ni. Kalau yg wajib ni dia x buat sampai bebila perkwinn tu xkan ada rase bahagia. Slow2 ajar..ubah sikap kita juga.
Ingat ni ujian dariNya.
Jgn semata ingat sex yg utama baru bole bahgia..itu ckp2 org yg tiada pedoman. check balik antara kita dgn Tuhan.. muhasabah..InsyaAllah.
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i x tau la kenapa dia nk tawar hati dgn i sdangkan i slalu tnya dia ok ke x, slalu buat physical touch cam peluk dr belakang ke pgang tangan dia tapi benda2 tu sume useless..i rasa ni dia ni kuat marah since i da lose weight da pandai gi medispa beautician da x sememeh cm dulu..dia suka i lagi sememeh kot serabut sbab takde orang nk tgok i..siap i ckap u ni kenapa sntiasa bagi cold treatment kat i pastu dia siap ckap kalau i x suka i boleh minta cerai dgan husb i...mcam bongok siyes dia blh ckap cmtu..
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Category: Cinta & Perhubungan
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Post time 18-7-2023 12:25 PM
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