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Brother Affair with Maid - help needed

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 Author| Post time 23-4-2008 12:52 PM | Show all posts
Originally posted by manakautau at 23-4-2008 12:50 PM


Manak tanya Oshin satu jerlagik...jangan ambik hati ye?????? Dalam 12 years they have been together, as a sister in law to your brother's wife......you have got nothing good to say abt your S ...

truth to be told abg manak? sebagai SIL maybe dia ok, ok kerana dia tak kurang ajar ngan kami sekeluarga, tak ok kerana kalau anak2 dah terbiasa, sampai sakit pening lari cari maid, you go sit down and think, tu baru anak2 tahu

sebagai seorang wanita tidak
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Post time 23-4-2008 12:53 PM | Show all posts
bodoh sangat ke seorang isteri tu sampai tak tahu bagaimana untuk menghormati suami...perlu didik lagi ke menda2 macam tu.
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Post time 23-4-2008 12:55 PM | Show all posts
Originally posted by Lipton at 23-4-2008 12:28 PM
tu ler bah..tak sangka aku orang yagn bercakap berkobar2 pasai agama ni cenggitu sekali pandangan kat maid...well jenis hollier than thou ni aku kureng sikt ler..what ever...


aku pun sama jugak....tapi terlanjur aku dah menulis ni maka aku teruskan jugak la.

memang ramai manusia yg melihat manusia lain tidak sehebat mereka...tidak secerdik mereka

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Post time 23-4-2008 01:05 PM | Show all posts
Originally posted by OsHiN_hOnEy at 23-4-2008 12:52 PM

truth to be told abg manak? sebagai SIL maybe dia ok, ok kerana dia tak kurang ajar ngan kami sekeluarga, tak ok kerana kalau anak2 dah terbiasa, sampai sakit pening lari cari maid, you go sit  ...


Enuf said I guessed..............and Manak still hold to her point yg you katakan tu...dia masih tidak paham naper hubby dia seperti itu sedangkan dia tidak merasakan yg dirinya berkurangan.....and bila benda macam gini berlaku...kita sebagai org luar tapi yg ada relation yg terdekat ngan hubbynya who happens to be your bro.......sikit tak banyak pun mesti try to somehow justify perbuatan abg kamu itu ada sebab musababnya terjadik..............Entahler.....Kalo my stand dalam keadaan kamu..........kegagalan my brother mendidik isteri ngan baik bukan boleh dijadikan alasan utk dia jatuh cinta ngan org lain......to me he is a real loser...... mudah kalah dgn ujian TUHAN keatas amanah yg diberikan.......  

Just my personal view.........
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 Author| Post time 23-4-2008 01:09 PM | Show all posts
Originally posted by manakautau at 23-4-2008 01:05 PM


Enuf said I guessed..............and Manak still hold to her point yg you katakan tu...dia masih tidak paham naper hubby dia seperti itu sedangkan dia tidak merasakan yg dirinya berkurangan.. ...

I respect each and everyone view on this abg manak, tu lah like I said, I've given him my point of view, kalau abg manak kenal shin like by does, then you know on what level that is   
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Post time 23-4-2008 01:11 PM | Show all posts
Originally posted by ABAH35 at 23-4-2008 12:53 PM
bodoh sangat ke seorang isteri tu sampai tak tahu bagaimana untuk menghormati suami...perlu didik lagi ke menda2 macam tu.


Just ponder over this ABAH35.......respect to be earned or to be demand???????
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Post time 23-4-2008 01:21 PM | Show all posts
Originally posted by OsHiN_hOnEy at 23-4-2008 12:50 PM

kat sini mak shin yang jagakan nanti, for now lah at least tu, takda tambahan pada bilangan anak2 nanti

seperti kata shin, semua ni perancangan abg shin, tapikan maid tu ada lagi 2 tahun ...



masih aku tak paham hujah abang ko yg maid tuh bley jaga kebajikan anak2 dia... sedangkan nanti plan mak shin yg jaga... abis tuh sil ko buat aper plak? jadik tunggul?

kalo dia ber'anak' dgn bakal bini tuh, kena pikir gak kebajikan anak yg bakal lahir... tak bley pikir pasal perancangan sekarang jer...
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Post time 23-4-2008 01:22 PM | Show all posts

Reply #18 OsHiN_hOnEy's post

dr aper yg i baca... your SIL memang keras kepala... dan jenis org yg tak akan mengaku salah. i'm a right? ... kalu cantik diluar sajer... takde makna nyer... suami adalah syurga bg wife. Sori yer... bagaimana dgn pegangan agama your SIL?

Jgn salahkan your brother jer bila ini terjadi.... 12 thn telan jer derita dgn 25 maid... betul kata your brother baik dier kawin dgn maid tur. I tak sokong pun tindakan your brother tp ini dr segi pandangan i. I juga seorang isteri... sakit hati gak biler baca tentang your SIL. DIer sendri yg taknak berubah.... perubahan dier kena ikhlas dr hati..... dan your SIL seolah mencari penyakit selama 12 thn. maid bkn hamba dan juga bkn rendah tarafnya. taraf manusia hanya ALLAH yg boleh tentukan..... bkn kiter sebagai manusia.

Besar sgt ker pangkatnyer your SIL tur? sampai nak masak pun takde masa tak minta. Hello awak tur perempuan.... kalu nak masak pun kena ada miinat bagus gak tindakan your brother.... baru padan muka dier... barulah timbul minat!!!! selalunya lelaki nie nak gertak jer... tp memandangkan 12 thn your brother cam tanggung derita... dier mmg serius nak kawin...........

tpkan kalu your brother kawin gak.... agak2nya your SIL berubah tak? i tgk cam tak akan berubah jer...................................................................:@  ceh aku plak yg pandai2 meneka. just ignore it!!!!!
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 Author| Post time 23-4-2008 01:24 PM | Show all posts
Originally posted by kikilalat at 23-4-2008 01:21 PM



masih aku tak paham hujah abang ko yg maid tuh bley jaga kebajikan anak2 dia... sedangkan nanti plan mak shin yg jaga... abis tuh sil ko buat aper plak? jadik tunggul?

kalo dia ber'anak ...

plan abg shin sebenarnya, if it ever comes to it kiki, ialah nak tinggal kat indon sana, kita ada family business there, so semua nya kat sana lah, Batam tu shin rasa sebab nak beri my SIL some breathing space, and ulang alik lah jawapnya for him and his family, mak jagakan dulu to...how to say it ek? jadi SIL tak rasa janggal sangat with the whole situation kalau tiba2 maid tu dah jadi 'setaraf' ngan dia lah
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Post time 23-4-2008 01:26 PM | Show all posts

Reply #106 manakautau's post

sebab mereka2 ini suka sangat bercerita soal tanggungjawab...itu yg buat aku jugak tertanya2 apakah seorang isteri ini tidak memahami juga tanggungjawab mereka sebagai isteri. ini benda paling asas sekali dalam soal rumahtangga...saling hormat menghormati.

walau sekalipun seorang lelaki itu tidak begitu tahu mendidik isterinya untuk menghormati dia tapi adakah isteri itu sendiri terlalu dungu sehingga tidak tahu bagaimana untuk membawa diri disamping suami.,,,dan menyenangkan hati suami.

entahla manakautau...nanti lagi banyak aku tulis lagi la kelihatannya aku ni tak cerdik. tapi anak2 aku elok je hidupnya....bini aku elok je perangainya.

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Post time 23-4-2008 01:26 PM | Show all posts
khunshin...how about the kids...what's their preference...your bro or you SIL?....
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Post time 23-4-2008 01:36 PM | Show all posts

Reply #109 OsHiN_hOnEy's post

ntah lah shin... i still think if your brother is putting the interest of kebajikan anak2 dia first... mcm tak betul jer tindakan yg he plan to ambik.

i'm sure sil ko pun ader keluarga gak... ader parents gak... surely dorang takmo tgk cucu2 dorang kena bawak lari ke indon plak kan... buat nyer dorang hasut sil ko cerai dari relakan cucu2 pi indon... tang mana kebajikan anak2 terbela?

lagik satu kes, kalo abg ko plan nak tinggal kat indon... sil ko yg kat sini mcmana plak? berlaku adil ker tuh? ntah la... setau aku, dalam Islam, kalo tak mampu berlaku adil tak digalakkan berpoligami... Wallahualam.

Apa2 pun aku harapkan kebaikan2 sahaja untuk keluarga bang ko & sil ko nih... Tu jer lah aku nak komen. Buh bye
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Post time 23-4-2008 01:44 PM | Show all posts
Originally posted by OsHiN_hOnEy at 23-4-2008 01:24 PM

plan abg shin sebenarnya, if it ever comes to it kiki, ialah nak tinggal kat indon sana, kita ada family business there, so semua nya kat sana lah, Batam tu shin rasa sebab nak beri my SIL some ...


If everything has been well planned & the ideas's supported by ur family, what I can just say is good luck to ur bro. After all, it's all up to ur bro, he's the man of the house, he'll decide, his choice.
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Post time 23-4-2008 01:45 PM | Show all posts
Originally posted by OsHiN_hOnEy at 23-4-2008 10:07 AM
btw, shin dah minta izin dari SIL untuk ceritakan segalanya kat sini, dan dia kata ok, shin cakap kat dia, I need to tell the whole story, baru lah boleh dapat a fair advise for her


Goshhhhh........baru terperasan yg ini........Try as much as I could...but this statement ngan post hang yg ke 18 tu (just b4 this)........totally absurd dan unthinkable........... ...Even on the pretext that she allows you to be frank and upfront.........read back wat you have written Oshin...and you will be laughing out your heart too........adalah Manak ingat serious mana kes ni.......
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Post time 23-4-2008 01:48 PM | Show all posts
tulah..lelaki ni selalu anggap bini cam maid. so bila maid buat semua kerja2 yg dia expect bini dia buat, dah rasa cam maid tu bini diala pulak
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 Author| Post time 23-4-2008 01:53 PM | Show all posts
Originally posted by kikilalat at 23-4-2008 01:36 PM
ntah lah shin... i still think if your brother is putting the interest of kebajikan anak2 dia first... mcm tak betul jer tindakan yg he plan to ambik.

i'm sure sil ko pun ader keluarga gak...  ...

thanks for all your advise kiki, as always a pleasure to read

luv...anak2 nak dua2 ofcourse, too young to let them choose

yazz...thanks

abg manak ,as always do I need to asked you to explain yourself? or is there a loophole in my story that is still there for you to dissect before you can ascertain that nothing is fabricated?

Am trying to think hard according to your level of thinking here, and what comes to mind is the counselor thing lah

and if you understand ...sitting yourself in front of a person and having to acknowledge what is consider by some to be a failure, or to read comments in cyber, then I got nothing more to add
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Post time 23-4-2008 02:11 PM | Show all posts
Ape pon reason yg diberi..

Nasihat dari penaja....


Jauhi la mengahwini Pompuan Indon....

Belum dpt jadi isteri... layanan seme BEST je depa bagi....
Dah jadi isteri... tengok ler ape jadi.......
Selalu nye maid2 indon ni.... kat negara org depa kata Single or J model.... walhal.. suami ade tunggu tu kat sane....
Byk muslihat dorang ni.... hati2 je la yer...
Selagi boleh mengelak tu.... baik elak lerrrrrrr.....
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Post time 23-4-2008 02:47 PM | Show all posts
shin, susah jugak jadi org tengah ni...
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Post time 23-4-2008 02:55 PM | Show all posts
bro u just balas dendam je dgn wife dia
maybe da comfort sgt
so dia nk kasi ajar sikit

anyway mmg indon ni aku pn xsuka
byk prob dr advabtages
dia kaut harta je
lps dpt sme bye2 la bro  u

i ade kawan
kena mcm ni
last2 mati serong2 kat umah di melaka
abis smu xade
kena bomoh lagi
nasib laa sape kena

regards
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Post time 23-4-2008 03:31 PM | Show all posts
Originally posted by kikilalat at 23-4-2008 01:36 PM
ntah lah shin... i still think if your brother is putting the interest of kebajikan anak2 dia first... mcm tak betul jer tindakan yg he plan to ambik.

i'm sure sil ko pun ader keluarga gak...  ...


see what i can see here..
in the 1st place reason tuk kawen maid coz leh jaga anak2 dia.
then bila kawen dgn itu maid, anak2 bg mak dia plak yg jaga.
Tak harapkan maid tu jaga ker, takut lepas tu di tonyoh2 nyer kepala budak2 tu...
ker budak2 tu plak jadi maid kpd mem to be.
Bila dah angau, byk alasan keluar...

I think, the man yg tak reti2 berkeras pada tempatnya dgn wife
sampai bila2 akan duduk bwh telunjuk wife.
He choose to be like that..
tak kiralah dia kawen dgn sesaper pun...

bro tu bkn nak cari solution, nak menambah masalah lagi ada la kot...
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