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Reply #110 ABAH35's post
abah, sbbb we are the doer.. not the thinker.. kita buat apa yg patut... 
oshin dear, i think its the time your sil get a taste of her own medicine. perhaps this incident will make her realize that being a wife with a maid does not mean we have to let go all our responsibilities to the maid. nak salahkan abg u pun tak boleh jugak, well, we tend to love the one who shows us TLC, esp bila kena neglected camtu skali.
kalau abg u mampu nak poligami, dan cinta tak kenal bangsa atau kedudukan, well, your sil kena terima kot.. and blaja from it. cume part nak pindah indonesia tu, she gotta reason with the hubby not to do that, as she needs her kids too...
then again, let your bro decide... mesti dia pun sayang lagi your sil and concern about her well being kan. |
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Originally posted by zarul427 at 23-4-2008 02:55 PM 
bro u just balas dendam je dgn wife dia
maybe da comfort sgt
so dia nk kasi ajar sikit
anyway mmg indon ni aku pn xsuka
byk prob dr advabtages
dia kaut harta je
lps dpt sme bye2 la bro u ...
Bomoh2 ni depa confident takder tau...
terjatuh chenta dgn peranan maid kat rmh cam bini sebijik
kecuali bersamamu jer tak lepas lagi... tu kena kawen...
No prob dgn wife indon, satu family setuju kebetulan ada bisnes kat indon,
yer ker tuan rmh... dari yg ko tulis tu aku faham camtu la lbh kurang |
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Reply #123 yaszz's post
satu family setuju kebetulan ada bisnes kat indon,
huh? siapa cakap ni? kan shin dah kata ibu bapa shin tak setuju yaszz?
shin sendiri dah beri pendapat shin kat abg shin, and the reason kenapa shin buka thread ni, nak minta pendapat dari semua, apa yang SIL shin boleh lakukan, dan juga setelah membaca yang abah serta kuda nyatakan, perihal suami pula, nanti shin nak cakap ngan abg shin
mana ada shin kata kami semua setuju? kalau dah gitu buat apa shin minta pendapat? |
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Originally posted by OsHiN_hOnEy at 23-4-2008 08:59 AM 
heya semua, shin nak minta tolong dari semua kat sini
meh shin ceritakan sikit, abg shin dah jatuh cinta ngan maid dia, to the extend dah nak kahwin dah, sebelum ada orang cakap ...ni mesti ke ...
dapatkan kembali kasih sayang suami?
dapatkan kembali?
dah tau banyak punca dari akak ipar ko yang sengal tu..camna nak dapatkan kasih sayang suami plak?
next time dia slit..ajor dia slit btui2 sampai btui mati..aaaaa lagi senang abang ko kawin
oang kalo baru jumpa kesenangan macam ada maid tu cenggitu laa..sampai cabut bulu ketiak pun ntah2 suruh maid
gaji kasik seciput jek..mentang2 oang tu mai carik makan di buli..napa tak maid tu yang sepatutnya slit her wrist
abang ko sedor dia nikah silap oang.. kalo aku bio nature takes its course |
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offtopic jap, shin baru dapat a very very nice email tentang ni lah
luv mana thread yang kita boleh paste kan artikel ek? shin dah lupa siapa author dia, tadi search tak jumpa 
dulu yang kat sticky tu  |
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Reply #126 OsHiN_hOnEy's post
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paste sini jek tk leh ker??? |
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Reply #125 ajinomotonosuga's post
takkan lah takda cara2 dia abg aji, kan abg aji juga selalu nasihatkan, cerai walaupun di izinkan, tapi perkara yang Allah tak suka 
dah2 takmo marah, meh kasi bunga :flower: |
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Originally posted by tehlaut at 23-4-2008 04:03 PM
paste sini jek tk leh ker???
ok..khunteh panjang sikit, but touching nya
To All Married Couples and Singles Who Intend To Get Married
When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly.
She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why? I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer, she had lost my heart to a lovely girl called Dew. I didn't love her anymore.. I just pitied her!
With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Dew so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now..
The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Dew. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.
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part 2
In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a months time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.
This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into our bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that everyday for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door every
morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.
I told Dew about my wife's divorce conditions. She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.
My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on
the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mummy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly, don't tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.
On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest.. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realised she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.
On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Dew about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger. |
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part 3
She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily. Suddenly it hit me, .. she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.
Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mum out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly, it was just like our wedding day. But her much lighter weight made me sad.
On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy.
I drove to office... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind... I walked upstairs. Dew opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Dew, I do not want the divorce anymore. |
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part 4
She looked at me, astonished. Then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head.. Sorry, Dew, I said, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our
lives, not because we didn't love each other any more. Now I realise that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart. Dew seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away.
At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote: I'll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.
The small details of our lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank, blah..blah..blah. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!
If you don't share this, nothing will happen to you, but if you do, you just might save a marriage.
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Reply #124 OsHiN_hOnEy's post
aku ader satu lagik nak add.
pada aku, perbuatan halau laki dari rumah, siap campak pakaian segala tuh memang melampau la. maner lojik nyer halau laki dari rumah sebab takmo marahkan maid yg silap beli ikan kat pasar? gilopo??? kalo nak beli ikan yg betul, sundrik pi pasar ler... i wonder aper keja sil ko kat rumah tuh, mcm goyang kaki sgt ler pulok...
and slit2 wrist tapi tak mati2 jugak nih pun = emotional blackmail yg melampau.
kakak ipar ko nih mentally stable tak? sembahyang tak? camner bley jadik lagu nih pulak? salah suami mendidik? perangai sejak azali?... menda2 nih sumer may be factors... but weightage tuh dia laki bini jer lah yg tau... |
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Reply #132 OsHiN_hOnEy's post
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sweet story... small gesture that produce big change.. makes me realize that insignificant things in life do constitute a big part in it.. |
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Originally posted by OsHiN_hOnEy at 23-4-2008 04:03 PM
takkan lah takda cara2 dia abg aji, kan abg aji juga selalu nasihatkan, cerai walaupun di izinkan, tapi perkara yang Allah tak suka
dah2 takmo marah, meh kasi bunga :flower:
kalo dah sampai akak ipo ko tu kelar wrist dua kali , tak ke tu dah psiko..bawak laa jumpe psikolojis ke..puan aniz tu haa ada
ko pompuan dia pompuan so korang lai kenal..abang ko tu lelaki..dia nak yang terbaik..so dia dah jumpe ..bior ler dia kalo dia mampu
sapa suke cerai..memang le sapa pun tak suka..
bahya gak nanti abang ko plak yang dia kelar..bini psiko sampai bunuh suami or potong anu dia tu pun ada..tu haa kes jirus asid kat muke..psiko la tuh
so tenguk kes la..dah itu abang ko ..ko sure lagi maklum..kalo dia nak cerai or nak madukan bini dia tentu ada alasan..ko lebih maklum
kalo bini aku buli2 sesapa pun even anak sendiri, aku pun tak suka. Bukan tadak kes, isteri pendam bila suami marah dia, takmo lawan balik kendian abissssssssss anak2 tu jadik mangsa..adaaaaaa.
boleh jadi gak isteri or akak ipo ko tu piss off lama dengan abang ko or ada mende dia pendam tak puas hati nak cakap tak mampu so dia lepaskan kat bibik tu..tu sampai mistreating ..tak semestinya abang ko salah, mana tau mende dia tegur tu dia tak suka pada mata dia so bini tu kene redha laa..so dedua kene cek per se..sure ada miskomunikasi, akak ipar ko tu maybe tak leh faham lagi abang ko walo dah lama kawin tapi bibik tu cukup pengalaman memahami seorang lelaki..so abang ko suke dia lebih dari akak ko..boleh jadik gak seme ni |
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Reply #132 OsHiN_hOnEy's post
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huhuhu... yup... i did received this email before.... |
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Originally posted by kikilalat at 23-4-2008 04:09 PM
aku ader satu lagik nak add.
pada aku, perbuatan halau laki dari rumah, siap campak pakaian segala tuh memang melampau la. maner lojik nyer halau laki dari rumah sebab takmo marahkan maid yg s ...
i agree with this.... tk kisah la ape sebab pun (yg tidak memudaratkan).. ape la nk di halau kan.. bukan itu umah suami ker? aiseh....
pasal bab bunuh diri nih yg seriusly aku tk suka.... sangat rasa tk suka.. awat tk tikam je terus badan tuh... kot nk sgt la commit suicide... adehh.. iman ke mana la agaknya....
but... even aku tk suka kelakuan kakak ipar ko tuh.. ala ala easy nye sil lak gamaknye.... aku tetap tk suka abg ko kawin lagi ngan maid dia... point seperti yg forumer point kan... pasal didikan anak anak.... klu ye pun wife dia tk leh didik stabily... cari la yg lebih baik dari segala aspek.... not form his aspect.... lagi satu.. dari post khunshin pasal abg yg sgt la baik nih... i do believe there are guys like this... thats y i wonder, kenapa lelaki macam nih leh tahan ngan kerenah wife tuh bertahun? mcm citer manjalara tuh, macam citer bella tuh.... hemmm...
iye, thn akan dtg tk leh di duga... thats y teh cadangkan ur abg timbang tara betul2 bab kawin lain.... betul ke kawin lain leh sove the problem? bukan tamabh problem? lagi dbl nk pk.... adilkah dia ngan anak2 kandung dan anak2 tiri....
as your sil, i think, she better try to accept her weaknesses... and then try to improve.... nk tk nk hati sdiri yg lebih tau..... klu dia tk kurang ajar ngan ur family, ada satu point yg bukti dia masih boleh di bentuk.... cemana, bagaimana... u all yg keliling jek nampak...... |
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Originally posted by OsHiN_hOnEy at 23-4-2008 03:58 PM
huh? siapa cakap ni? kan shin dah kata ibu bapa shin tak setuju yaszz?
shin sendiri dah beri pendapat shin kat abg shin, and the reason kenapa shin buka thread ni, nak minta pendapat dari ...
ops sori, miss that one...
ingat dh stujuk jaga anak2 tu 
aku ni bkn bias kt bro ko, tp since sil ko ckp susah dgr ckp so aku nak nasihat lebih2 pun buang karen jek... 
btw, dia syg ker laki & anak2 if dia treat camtu, from ur story?
slalu klu org syg, ckp nak tinggi sore pun tak sanggup, klu laki tak mintak air pun offer, suka layan laki & anak2, klu anak2 sakit, mak ler yg paling risau ...
buat kerja rmh tu biaq pi la maid yg buat kan... konpius plak aku tentang cinta sayang nih |
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Post time 23-4-2008 03:32 PM
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