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KAWAN AKU NAK BERCERAI (UPDATE AT PAGE 5 POSTING NO 109)
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sedihnya.. boleh dijadikan iktibar
habis isteri dia jadi ker dia kawin dengan Bf dia tuh |
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sedih dgr kisah2 camni...dendam dan marah, akhirnya apa yg dpt... |
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jihah xtau kisah mber u ni camne sebenarnye n camne dlm hati dia..
tp jihah pun tgh mengalami situasi yg sama cam kawan u tu.. takut dengar citer, kita xleh duga masa depan kn..?? 
cam jihah mmg dh lama ada problem ngn hubby.. curang, berjudi, xbekerja, malas. tp jihah mmg jenis yg bleh bersabar sbb fikir mcm2. anak2 xde ayah (wpun anak2 slalu suh jihah beli ayah baru), malu ngn keluarga, takut hidup sendiri, takut org mengata.. mcm2 la..
kawan2 slalu suh jihah fikir baik2, syg kn masa depan ngn anak2 tp jihah takut nk buat keputusan.. rasa sendiri sgt.. jihah tahu kalu jihah hidup sendiri pun jihah akan jd lebih baik. sbb selama ni jihah tanggung keluarga n hubby skali. tp tuhan bagi kesabaran betul kt jihah.. ape aje jihah sabar n bleh fikir baik2 utk bimbing hubby.. mmg la ada kala rasa penat sgt, kita bekerja, ngn anak2, hubby wat perangai, nk jaga family mertua (jihah jaga mertua yg sakit parkinson), mak n adik2 pun kena jaga (jihah anak sulung dr 9beradik), kewangan terbeban kt jihah sume.. tp alhamdulillah tuhan bagi bantuan dlm bentuk yg xterduga. wpun duit xcukup tp jihah xpenah berhutang atau meminta2 dr sesiapa pun. dh tahu kemampuan, jadi belanja pun ikut kemampuan
tp tuhan bagi ujian, jihah jatuh hati pd seorg lelaki yg baik sgt.. kawan2 sume kenal lelaki ni n diorg ckp "kami xgalak n kami xhalang, jihah fikir sendiri utk masa depan jihah".. jihah sampai skg xtau nk buat keputusan apa. jihah xpenah cari gaduh ngn suami wpun perangai dia mcm2. tuhan bagi kesabaran yg besar sungguh kat jihah wpun sume kata jihah ni bodoh.
jihah mmg rasa bersalah sbb jatuh hati. n jihah tahu lelaki tu pun sygkn jihah. apa yg pasti, dia xpenah kacau rumahtangga jihah n xnk kacau jihah. kami berkawan seperti biasa wpun mmg ada terselit rasa dalam hati masing2. dia tahu masalah jihah tp bukan melalui jihah. bagi jihah, jihah xkan sewenangnya bercerita terutamanye lelaki utk menagih simpati..
yg pasti dia hormati apa jua keputusan jihah. n jihah xpenah bagi apa2 janji pada dia. jihah buat istiqarah utk tuhan beri jalan mana pun yg terbaik utk jihah selagi masih ada kesabaran dan sayang pada hubby dalam hati |
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jihah xpenah terfikir yg jihah akan jatuh hati mcm skg, sbb jihah mmg seorg yg amat setia walau apa pun masalah yg hubby buat.. dugaan tuhan utk menguji kesabaran jihah agaknye  |
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Originally posted by amidala at 1-12-2008 01:13 AM 
laki dia meninggal kat tmpt keje. time tu dia shift mlm. meninggal time tido.
Laki dia patah hati ke..
terlampau sedih jugak boleh berakhir ngan kematian..
ke laki dia ada penyakit. |
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Originally posted by amidala at 3-7-2008 10:47
Salam,
1stly, aku nk bagitau, ini bukan masalah aku, tp masalah kawan baik aku.
Aku pn dh pening2 lalat ngan masalah dia ni.
Kawan aku ni dh kawen dh ada anak . Semenjak kawen, dia ni sela ...
...but base on what u have told us here...aku berpendapat yang dia patut do something to protect herself and her child from being abused by her husband...tu dah menjadi kewajipan buat diri dia...if the very person yang supposed to protect and care for her berlaku sebaliknya...then...she owe it to herself and her child to ensure not only her child's safety and well being...but hers also...
...a wife yearns to be touched...to be caressed and to be love by her husband...unfortunately...kalau keinginan yang memuncak ini tidak mendapat sambutan seperti yang dia idamkan...tentu saja dia akan merasa disappointed dan frustrated...to make matters worst not only is she not being appreciated and respected at all...she is also being treated like a sex object...tempat suami dia melepaskan nafsunya saja...tak kira masa...tak kira tempat...kalau tak dapat...dia kena rembat...other than that...shes like a nobody...how do u think she feels...??...
...yeah...its true...even if the husband is like an animal...that doesnt justify for her to have an affair...well...kalau isteri itu seorang yang kuat imannya...yang tidak mudah terusik emosinya...insyaallah dia ada her own coping mechanism untuk memujuk hatinya yang terluka itu...tapi...kalau mendapat isteri yang emosinya mengawal akalnya...maka akan tersimpang jauhlah si isteri itu....cos...akan timbul perasaan yang she deserves more and she deserves something better that what her husband had given her...once perasaan begini dah berputik dalam hatinya...and given that the husband is still oblivious ngan keadaan yang makin meruncing ini...the wife will shut down emotionally towards the husband and she will eventually look for comfort and love from some other men yang sudi memenuhi keinginannya...and in this instance who can blame her??...day in day out dia kena abused by her husband...physically and mentally...
...and let me tell u something...when u first started having secret affair with someone else...gawd...i tell u...it is so damn exciting and beautiful...its like u fell in love all over again...head over heels with that someone...as days passed by...u become more attached to your kekasih gelap and more and more detached and distant from your spouse...in your heart there is only your new found love...u will do anything to protect it...to keep that feeling alive inside u cos it makes u feel damn good...
...at the same time...makin hari perasaan benci dan meluat terhadap pasangan ko akan makin menebal...communication antara korang berdua makin berkurangan...and in the end...u dont even bothered kalau dia ada di depan mata ko ataupon tidak...his presence is not felt and his absence is not missed...and at this point of time...u are willing and prepared tuk seberang lautan api bersama2 kekasih gelap ko itu...aku percaya...this must be what your fren is feeling rite now...
...your role as a fren is merely to give her your listening ears and your shoulders for her to cry on and challenge her so that she will be able to find her own solutions to her problems...offer her your support and insights...one way of doing this is by questioning the way she looks at her current marriage situation...the way she is behaving - having a secret lover and preparing for her future when her current predicament is still not settled...itu saja...
[ Last edited by blackmore at 7-12-2008 10:27 PM ] |
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Originally posted by amidala at 3-7-2008 10:47 AM
Salam,
1stly, aku nk bagitau, ini bukan masalah aku, tp masalah kawan baik aku.
Aku pn dh pening2 lalat ngan masalah dia ni.
Kawan aku ni dh kawen dh ada anak . Semenjak kawen, dia ni sela ...
suruh dia terus terang ngan laki dia yang dia ada boipren kalau dia berani sangat...
gerenti dapat cerai punya... |
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Originally posted by blackmore at 7-12-2008 10:24 PM
...patut ke...tak patut ke...it is not for us to saylah kan cos we are not in her situation...hanya dia saja yang tau keadaan sebenar2nya...
...but base on what u have told us here...aku berpe ...
Hmmmmmmmmmmm...dalam dan tepat...
Macam pernah lalui nya jer blackmore? |
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Originally posted by nighunter71 at 7-12-2008 07:15 PM
suruh dia terus terang ngan laki dia yang dia ada boipren kalau dia berani sangat...
gerenti dapat cerai punya...
suami dalam watak cerita di atas tu dah meninggallah..
cerai mati dorang bukan cerai idup. |
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Originally posted by nighunter71 at 8-12-2008 08:17
Hmmmmmmmmmmm...dalam dan tepat...
Macam pernah lalui nya jer blackmore?  |
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susah nak cerai nih.. laki dia mesti tamau ceraikan sebab dia pun maybe nak berubah.. pastu kalu nak cerai gak, ambik masa lama nak kena guna peguam sebagainya.. tak taula.. |
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Originally posted by faraway1 at 8-12-2008 08:24 AM
suami dalam watak cerita di atas tu dah meninggallah..
cerai mati dorang bukan cerai idup.
Kalau dah mati..idak ler curang namanya...dah masuk kategori available lah.. |
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jihah xmau "kuar mulut buaya.. masuk mulut naga.." 
skg hari2 jihah wat solat istiqarah mtk petunjukNya |
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Reply #135 nighunter71's post
masa tn rumah mula2 bukak cerita ni
kawan tn rumah ni dah ada buah hati lain ketika suami dia masih hidup
skrg si suami dah pergi x kembali |
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Post time 1-12-2008 03:38 PM
