How do you manage your time...as a housewife..

makcikmengamok · Post time 7-4-2009 09:04 PM

yg ni soalan utk ibu2 ada baby...or yg pernah pengalaman taking care of a baby..

so soalannya...cam na korg leh manage time to take care for yourself..masa korg jaga baby..
ataupun korg biar jerk...diri korg...serabai...becos korg lebey focus kat kids korg..

aku tanya ngan dedicated housewife yg jaga baby tu 24/7...
and does it matter to you to be getting appreaciated....segala pengorbanan korg...like your time..your body..
korg rasa sedih bila rasa tak dihargai...oleh hubby..
or it doesn't matter to you..about your hard work and energy utk jaga baby tu...
meaning you couldn't care less about being appreciated..

anyway...aku nak share...dulu..
dulu2 kan...aku ni babysitter..jaga anak buah aku...
masa tu aku...study gak..

aku jaga...dari pagi sampai petang..

by petang badan aku dah lemah..sebab jaga baby tu..so...aku tak sempat study..or exercise..

time aku nak pi lari kat treadmill...baby tu nangis2..so..aku tak jadi..
then...lama2...sampai...aku jadi serabai..cam rambut pun tak bersisir...aku tak jaga looks...
tak exercise..aku tak pat pi kuar date...

anyway i was always too tired to do those things...and focus..my energy kat baby tu...
geram ...marah pun ada sebab dipaksa jaga baby org and terpaksa abai study aku...and then akhir sekali tak kene appreciated.
tu baru setakat aku jadi babysiter jerk..

aku tak nak...jawapan dari org yg soh org lain...jaga baby..tu..
aku nak..dengar..dari org yg..pernah..lalui...and handle the real thing..

thank you

sekali lagi...soalannya..cam nak korg handle..it all..jaga badan...jaga diri..while...taking care of the baby..
and does it matter to you to be getting appreaciated....segala pengorbanan korg...like your time..your body..

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Hanafie · Post time 7-4-2009 09:38 PM

suker sgt topik ni..memang meletihkan memenatkan..takyah citer..dlm kepala ni..semua nya rasa nak buat masa tu gak....
- ini aku ye..dari pengalaman mak aku ..aku ambil tip dia yg satu2 ni..:
..time berpantang or dah habis pantang ada baby..till baby tu semakin hari semakin membesar..bangun jer dari tido..time budak tu tido..kita perlu get ready tuk diri sendiri dulu..bab mandi ke breakfast ke..makan ubat ker..semua nya tuk diri dulu yg penting..takyah risau2 nak bagi mandi baby dulu sampai tak sempat2 breakfast ...so seawal mungkin sebelum subuh la bangun ..jgn malas!!
-bila dah hari2 buat..berbulan2 buat..berthun2 buat..semuanya akan jadi rilexxxxxxxxx jer..confirm muka tak serabai!!

True-X · Post time 7-4-2009 09:52 PM

yg full time housewife pon letih ek... camne laaa ngan career mom :kant:

mclaren · Post time 7-4-2009 10:54 PM

macam mana manage?

tah lah. pagi2 mandi siap2, sikat rambut semua lah. then just go with the flow. kalau nak exercise sikit, senang je, pagi2 atau petang, bawak baby tu jalan2 around taman.
macam me dulu, me kendung baby tu (babywearing), sambil hantar my eldest ke kindy jalan kaki, so, ada lah jugak tak sengaja exercise masa tu. tapi few months aje, then stopped.
other than that, banyak buat chores, so ada lah calories keluar, so badan pun terjaga sikit.

bab2 serabai tu, tak sure lah. me tak serabai pun kat rumah, walaupun tak bermekap.

eastrun · Post time 7-4-2009 10:58 PM

kau buang je baby tu mak dia..buat baby pastu bagi orang jaga pulak

aku_komeng · Post time 7-4-2009 11:03 PM

Originally posted by makcikmengamok at 7-4-2009 21:04
sekali lagi...soalannya..cam nak korg handle..it all..jaga badan...jaga diri..while...taking care of the baby..

bini aku tak cukup tido...

makcikmengamok · Post time 8-4-2009 01:18 AM

Originally posted by True-X at 7-4-2009 21:52
yg full time housewife pon letih ek... camne laaa ngan career mom

career mom salu hire amah..
or soh MIL..or mom dorg..jaga..

tapi skrang ada cuti bersalin....90 days something like that..
maybe..masa awal2 bulan baby tu dijaga oleh mak dier..

tapi time kakak aku dulu..
dier seminggu jerk ngan baby dier..
pahtuh dier balik keja pi KL...but tinggalkan baby tu disarawak utk aku jaga..

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makcikmengamok · Post time 8-4-2009 01:20 AM

ko ingat k...
ko jaga bini and hargai bini ko baik2...hargai..pengorbanan dier...
sebab dier dah bagi time..energy and body dier...

jangan mandai2 nak buka cawangan..
klu bini dah tak cantik..or tua..

makcikmengamok · Post time 8-4-2009 01:26 AM

good for you all..tak serabai...

mula2...sblm aku jadi babysitter...
i was like your average teenager..
suka jaga looks...suka berfesyen...rambut berstyle2...

bila aku dipaksa jadi babysitter...i became a mom...terus amik responsibility as a mom..
serabai...tak terjaga...and then stress..
selama ni...aku tak pernah ada kedut2..or...bags undereye
bila aku jadi babysitter...yarabi...nak tumboh bags kat mata aku...kedut2..

aku imagine...klu aku ada anak nanti....
i would prolly be like that..again
dari situ aku tau...cam ner rasa jadi ibu...

buat aku....fobia nak beranak...hehe

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my-alja · Post time 8-4-2009 08:20 AM

Originally posted by makcikmengamok at 8-4-2009 01:26
good for you all..tak serabai...

mula2...sblm aku jadi babysitter...
i was like your average teenager..
suka jaga looks...suka berfesyen...rambut berstyle2...

bila aku dipaksa jadi babysi ...

org serabai nie bukan sebab dia jadi surirumah
serabai tu pembawakan diri dia sendiri
dgn alasan jadi suri...lagilah tak perlu
berdandan sebab mengadap anak2 saja

pd i....tak perlukan sampai nak cucuk sanggul melintang kalo duk umah
esp dgn anak2 kecik tu....cukup bersih dan kemas
duk umah pakai baju umah...tak perlu berkebaya panjang
sebab taknak nampak serabai kannn!...yg penting practicality
pakai baju2 yg senang nak bergerak...bersih dan kemas
rambut esp , kena ambik berat...kalo jenis mengerbang tu
pepandailah bersepit, bercekak...asalkan nampak kemas
kiranya kalo org ketuk pintu umah...tak lari cam lipas kudung masuk bilik

mclaren · Post time 8-4-2009 08:41 AM

i think when the time comes, you are older and taking care of your own baby, you will know how to make time for yourself, jaga penampilan etc, what more, you have a hubby to show off to.

masa awak jaga nephew / niece tu, awak mungkin masih muda, belum mentally ready yet to be a 'mom', tu yang berterabur semua.

i don't think you are the kind yang memang tak pandai jaga penampilan, as you've said, prior to babysitting your niece / nephew tu, you were like any other teen kan. cuma the change came quite drastically on your part, it took a hile to adapt, pulak tu, you may not be mentally ready yet for the ROLE of mom.

you will learn a lot as you age.. also from the people around you, from FD too

ambil yang jernih, ketepikan yang keruh.

MrsJohn · Post time 8-4-2009 08:45 AM

i think time management is not a big problem. IMHO, yg penting how u handle your ur stress. and on whether u hv strong support from ur hubby....mende2 ni lg crucial (bg aku la....)...

ev700 · Post time 8-4-2009 10:06 AM

Originally posted by makcikmengamok at 8-4-2009 01:26
good for you all..tak serabai...

mula2...sblm aku jadi babysitter...
i was like your average teenager..
suka jaga looks...suka berfesyen...rambut berstyle2...

bila aku dipaksa jadi babysi ...

Makcik, there is a big difference between mengasuh anak org dan mengasuh anak sendiri. proses mengadung 9 bulan tu dah membuatkan ibu itu cukup bersedia in most aspects. Kau rasa serabai dan terus bertukar menjadik makcik mungkin sbb ko masih teenage lagi masa tu, so actually physically and mentally ko tak 100% fit utk jadik pengasuh baby. kalau anak yg ko kandung sendiri, surely ko akan perform better.

Aku jadik housewife hanya during my 2 months confinement, 4 kali dan aku nak kasitau kau, itulah 8 bulan saat paling indah dlm hidup aku... Aku suka jaga baby dan uruskan rumahtangga, especially kalau takde maid.. mungkin sbb laki aku baik sgt kot...

kokong · Post time 8-4-2009 10:27 AM

bagi saya kalau dikira umur anak yg sulung(17 thn) & yg bongsu skrg 8 thn ,baru sekarang saya
dapat keluar dari rumah utk join aktiviti luaran seperti msk kelas jahitan , masakan & mcm2 xtvt
kemasyarakatan lain.bukan tak ada masa tapi tak sampai hati nak tinggalkan anak2 yg masih kecil
kat rumah.skrg anak yg sulung boleh diharap utk menjaga adik2nya kalau saya kuar rumah.
itupun kol/sms tak henti2 sepanjang masa tu.asyik ingat kat rumah.
ibu mithali kah aku??????????????

pressor · Post time 8-4-2009 10:30 AM

i like pompuan mcm nih...

every the keibuan..but u shud give space for ur leisure..

pu3_krizalid · Post time 8-4-2009 11:14 AM

haku ibu yg bekerja...alasan tuk serabai tu takde...kalo ada pun time anak demam...mmg tak cukup kakitangan n stress pun ye...

kalo haku tak bekerja kan..siap leh msk benda spesel cam mee kari ke...anak haku biarkan dia tgk tibi..sambil tu haku msk...sambil tu leh kemas umah sikit2....

putubambu · Post time 8-4-2009 11:45 AM

Originally posted by True-X at 7-4-2009 21:52
yg full time housewife pon letih ek... camne laaa ngan career mom :kant:

career mom lagik lah letih..cam aku ni..
ndak2 lagi time preggy ni..
sib baik le hubby nak bantu ape2 yg patut

aku_komeng · Post time 8-4-2009 11:54 AM

Originally posted by makcikmengamok at 8-4-2009 01:20
ko ingat k...
ko jaga bini and hargai bini ko baik2...hargai..pengorbanan dier...
sebab dier dah bagi time..energy and body dier...

jangan mandai2 nak buka cawangan..
klu bini dah tak cantik..or tua..
..

buat masa ni, takde le lagi niat nak buka cawangan...

seri_air · Post time 8-4-2009 12:11 PM

Makcik, becoming a mom doesn't mean you have to look like one.

Tu mantra aku lerr...

makcikmengamok · Post time 8-4-2009 12:28 PM

Originally posted by ev700 at 8-4-2009 10:06
Makcik, there is a big difference between mengasuh anak org danmengasuh anak sendiri. proses mengadung 9 bulan tu dah membuatkan ibuitu cukup bersedia in most aspects. Kau rasa serabai dan terus bertukarmenjadik makcik mungkin sbb ko masih teenage lagi masa tu, so actuallyphysically and mentally ko tak 100% fit utk jadik pengasuh baby. kalauanak yg ko kandung sendiri, surely ko akan perform better.

you're right about that...
lagi pun...aku takder...go thru...the pregnancy...like mother biasa...
so aku takder...that..closeness bond..antara ibu dan anak nyer feeling..

in my case aku...tetiba...jerk kene bagi baby..tetiba kene bagi tanggungjawap...sebagai ibu..
aku start jadi serabai..lepas aku change diapers...lepas tengok that nasty icky poo..
lagi pun...aku takder...support...from my family...
i was doing it all alone...kekadang...extended sampai malam aku jaga..

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