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my mum one of the yg kuat berbelanja gak....
kalo ade rm1000 kt tangan dia mcm2 agenda dia n duit tu boleh abis dlm sehari je..
my dad sampai pening kepala ngan dia... |
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my mum one of the yg kuat berbelanja gak....
kalo ade rm1000 kt tangan dia mcm2 agenda dia n duit tu boleh abis dlm sehari je..
my dad sampai pening kepala ngan dia...
qislea Post at 26-2-2010 15:08 
ur mom mcm my mom..sampai sekrg dugaan i 'my mom'..klu dah cukup tahun tanya dah dpt bonus??nak buat apa?? wat apa simpan..berapa increment?? dia ckp kerja teruk2 dpt gaji besar wat apa le simpan sampai bila x merasa..selalunya i avoid cakap pasal duit kat family sbb menjerumus kpd benda2 x berfaedah..lagi satu aku klu nak raya mesti tension sbb masa tu le sedara mara sibuk ajak dtg umah masing2 nak tunjuk derang renovate rumah...berlawan lawan..klu yg renovate rumah ratus ribu tu i x gi..bukan apa sbb tak nak hati berdetik apa2..kita ni manusia biasa.. |
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wallah tersgt la hebat bini TT nih smpi berpoloh2 riban rugi masih gak x mau sedar diri yg dia x lucky lam mende alah nih.... dan TT pun duk main sabar jek ngan kerenah bini yg dah pd hemat aku over limit sbg isteri...yes suami yg sabar good veri gud lam umahtangga tp bilamane bini dah x tau nak hormati nasihat dan teguran suami pd perkara yg sepatutnye pd aku not gud at all... bleh rosak umahtangga.... x kan la nak smpi umah kene lelong kete kene tarik baru nak sedar dr mimpi ittuh.... sgt2 rugi dan merugikan...:kant:
bila TT kate x bleh nak korek lebeh2 pasal aktiviti hutang bini kot2 bini kate kacau privasi dia aduhaiiii betape hampehnye stetmen ittuh.... kalau nak ade limit ala2 prebet n compidential lam umahtangga better x yah nikah kawin..bujang smpi kematu... kalo dah nikah kawin ape jadah nak takut ceroboh privasi pasangan polak...untung2 ngan pencerobohan ittuh bleh menyedarkn pasangan yg ala2 mabuk kayak berhutang ka, berskendel ka sedar diri dan tau yg dia ade laki or bini tuk di ambil kire lam setiap ape yg dia buat...
somi aku pun boros gak tp somi aku boros bukan bab buat hutang piutang bagai nih..sbb aku ngan somi aku x gune cc..sumer main cash n carry...skang dia kemaruk mau beli moto besar ala2 big bike...mmg dah kemaruk sesgt nak beli manjang duk ngadap tenet psl motor nih...tp aku tahankn niat dia tuh ngan alasan beli umah dulu then u can buy ur big bike...
tiap ape yg kite buat bila kite kawin harus diambil kire sumer aspek lam umahtangga....sbb masing2 ade peranan tuk pasangan hatta bini TT keje dan ade own salary tp ape yg dia buat dah melebihi dr ape yg dia earn.... kalo dah tau ape yg bini duk buat tuh satu kesilapan tegurlah dan carilah jalan penyelesaian yg terbaik tuk umahtangga.... jgn smpi umahtangga tergadai baru nak sedar.... kalau 5taun kawin x leh kawtim peel bini pk la lg 5taun akan dtg...adakah ko dah berjaya kontrol bini ko atau masih lg sm cam dulu2.... then figure out la adakah sabar yg ko ade tuh worth it lam keadaan yg duk ada skang nih dan buat bini ko syukur yg dia punya laki yg baik n penyabar lam menghadapi kerenah dia tuh or ko jek yg tau sabar sedangkn bini ko x menghargai kesabaran ko then u should do sumting 4 ur merij... |
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1# merz
Kalau aku lah...
Aku ceraikan jer...
Biar dia hidup ngan hutang hutang dia...
Kalau ader mamat lain nak ambik pun...gerenti kena ngan utang2 sekali..ekekekekeke |
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1# merz
Kalau aku lah...
Aku ceraikan jer...
Biar dia hidup ngan hutang hutang dia...
Kalau ader mamat lain nak ambik pun...gerenti kena ngan utang2 sekali..ekekekekeke
nighunter71 Post at 26-2-2010 20:08 
aku tak ceraikan, aku tinggalkan duluk......biar dia dok sesorang, dah dok sesorang tuhh br la sempat dia nak mikir benda apa dia dah buat sampai aku tinggalkan dia..............mamat ni takut nak marah bini sbb takut tak dpt main....siannn aku ngan dia......cam sotong |
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aku tak ceraikan, aku tinggalkan duluk......biar dia dok sesorang, dah dok sesorang tuhh br la sempat dia nak mikir benda apa dia dah buat sampai aku tinggalkan dia..............mamat ni takut nak ...
BingkaUbi Post at 27-2-2010 09:22 
jahatnya diaaa...cakap cam tuu..tak bayek
bukan takut bini, bini yang tak takut dia ...mentang2 laki sayang gila babas
salu isteri cam tu..kalo suami dia baik..salu banyak ujian
sama lah kalo dah bini baik cantik pandai hias diri untuk suami masak jaga anak kemas umah seme2 bagus kendian laki dia buat pangai..sama jekkk, kire ujian
so suami or isteri yang dapat pasangan extreme cam tu kene bijak handle ler..tokleh ikut emosi jek |
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186# ajinomotonosuga
Aji..aku teringin sangat nak tengok ko kawin...
boleh bahagia dan perfect tak seperti yang ko selalu promosikan...
hakikatnya dalam dunia nih...teori dan praktikal tak pernah sama...
cakap dari luar dengan kacamata pihak ketiga memang senang....amat senang...
sebab u are not bound and blinded by emotion, suffering and confusion orang yg mengalami semua tu..
aku pun boleh cakap..sebagai lelaki kita kena prihatin, sabar..peka terhadap kehendak isteri..utamakan dia..dengar
rungutan dia....
tapi tu sekadar cakap....in real life...kalau hari2 bini ko membebel..ko boleh sabar?boleh pujuk?boleh psycho?
It takes two to tango...
The question is...can u practise what you preach?? |
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bini macam ni pun ada..suami penyabar macam ni pun ada...aku belanja duit dapur dan anak2 rm1000 sebulan pun hubby aku bising bila hujung bulan aku minta tambah sikit je...padahal gaji dia banyak..sedih aku dengar cerita ko ni...kalu aku la dapat hubby macam ni..tak tau laa...mesti aku senyum sampai telinga depan hubby aku..( sekarang ni pun senyum..tapi senyum dalam duka).. |
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sayang bini, jentik-jentikkan |
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189# my-alja
Tang mana nak jentik tu alja? |
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Assalamualaikum,
Satu problemnya, pasal semua ni dia sorok dari saya. Ingat saya tak tau... Tapi saya ada la caranya. Tu yg tau brp byk loan dia buat, rugi main saham dgn forex tuh! Dgn brg yg di gadai tu sekali...
Dia ni la pulak panas baran. Tegur sikit, dia melenting, free2 saya kena tengking. Nasib baik la saya ni penyabar... Ntah berapa kali dah gaduh, jarang la tengking dia spt mana saya kena dgn dia.
merz Post at 8-2-2010 01:58 
...personally...i think u have gone way beyond penyabar...u have given all your power away to her...not only that...u have also allowed your wife to abuse u...
...why do u let your wife think that she can make all major decisions by herself??...why arent u allowed to have a say in those major financial investments??...sampaikan dah kerugian beratus ribu pon ko bley berdiam diri dan let her to continue with her self destruct behaviour??...what on earth are u thinking about bro??...
...i think u are an intelligent person...cuma i think u yourself lack self confidence...tak keterlaluan kalau aku katakan jugak u have low self esteem...surprise??...hmmm...think about it...kalau bukan kerana your low self esteem...apa lagik yang prevent u from taking charge of this messy situation??...love??...puhlesssssss!!...cos u have a high level of kesabaran??...puhlesssss also!!...its becos u are scared that u will lose her thats why u let her have her way...thats why u let her pijak kepala ko sesuka hatinya...thats why u let her berlaku biadap terhadap ko...
...kalau ikut hukum islam...suami sepatutnya menjadi ketua rumahtangga...but...in our modern marriage situation...where both husband and wife are working...some couples tend to be lax a bit in this 'whose the boss' thingy...since both are earning and contributing equally to the household...the concept of partnership is preferred...both having equal say in major family decisions...both husband and wife putting their heads together and planning for success of their marriage...their future...
...however...if partnership nie dah banyak dikawal oleh satu pihak saja...tentu akan terjadinya sesuatu yang tak seimbang...sesuatu situasi yang abnormal...and this is what yang terjadi to u rite now...
... kalau pon nak berlembut ngan isteri...nak jadi suami yang penyabar...janganlah sampai biarkan isteri naik tocang...janganlah sampai isteri nak menjahanamkan rumahtangga pon masih bley tengok dan berpeluk tubuh saja...menggeleng kepala dan membiarkannya terus2an with her addiction nie...u have to get back your control as a husband...
...kalau boleh...and i do implore u to stop letting your wife verbally abuse u...dont let her be totally in charge of your life and finances...since she has lost most of u guys punya savings...then...it is time for u to take charge of the finances...let her noe that important life decisions must be made by the two of u...and not just by one person saja...
...if u really and truly love her...u would do as many of us here have advised u...but if u just sit and do nothing about it...i can bet that u will be miserable in this marriage...and u will definitely be doing a disservice to your kids and yourself kalau u let your wife to continously do what she is doing rite now...
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191# blackmore
blackmore... some of the things u wrote are valid points and I agree... some x brp setuju, tp coz maybe x tau citer sepenuhnya (ye la, nanti jadik cerpen lak nak citer segala benda, kan?). tp aku tetap respek pendpt org dan paham apsal org pikir aku camni dan camtu. knock some senses into me... that's all i have to say |
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...whats the point of u knowing all the things yang dia sorokkan from u but u do nothing about it??...adakah by knowing what she did makes u feel that u are in control of the situation??...that u have ...
blackmore Post at 28-2-2010 23:21
me ambik iktibar dari post black more..thanks fren... |
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salam...
dah baca citernyer...n tak nak ulas panjang2....faham,tuan umah sendiri tgh cari jalan terbaik...moga dipermudahkan penyelesaiannya..
satu..penyelesaian takkan datang dengan tak ada keputusan.
keputusan kena tegas.....dah jelas si bini boros dan takleh di ajar.
cara nak tegas...jangan pikir banyak2 hingga melarat..saya tgok merz ni otak selalu berbolak balik..memang hati bykbenda nak ditimbangkan...tapi ketegasan melambangkan karisma kepimpinan.
cadang....gi kedai buku...beli buku "la tahzan"...maksud "jangan bersedih". buku arab yang diterjemah..
dalam buku tu...ade byk pengajran.salah satu...kat topic belakang ade panduan cara nak tetapkan hati mengambil keputusan..insyaAllah.(dalam rumahtangga sekali).
bangun mlm.solat hajat doa.....saat masalah sampai kemuncak tu lah sebenarnya saat penyelesaian dan pertolongan Allah akan tiba.sabar dan bertindak..
buat merz....mintak pendapat byk2 memang bagus...tapi sendiri tau kan kalau 'takut' nak bertindak sebab sayang bini....tunggulah hancur dulu sikap dia tu..betulkan sekarang n betul2 tetapkan kat hati...Allah tolong.
bini tengking2 suami....nauzibillah.syurga isteri tu bawah tapak kaki suami. betulkan sikap dia tu...saya pikir ni bukan takat masalah boros, tapi yg lebih utama sikap dia ngn suami...kalau selesai masalah boros ni pun....akan timbul juga msalah lain, selagi masalah sebenat tak diperbetulkan...masalah tak hormat suami sebenar ni.
bagi dia buku teknik bercinta dengan lelaki....tak igt tulisan sape.buku agama.. dah dia taknak baca, baca sendiri...n bagi ceramah sket kat dia sebelum tido.
salam. |
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merz, kalau Ling suggest something jgn mrh tau!!
xnak cari yg no 2 ke?kali ni cari la yg low profile...ala2 perempuan kampung or wanita melayu terakhir.....xyah cari yg vouge de vass wat sakitkan hati jek nanti.....hehehehhe
mcm leo ckp kat atas.....bunga bukan sekuntum daaa....
larikk.....nnt kena serang!!!!
DarLing79 Post at 25-2-2010 16:01
Dah lama plan nak reply, tp x sempat jer. Jgn risau, takyah nak larikk mana2 pun (mcm la aku tau mana nak carik pun) 
Mmg pernah terlintas, masa mengelamun sorang2... ada lagi kawan2 lama (bukan ex2 aku la) yg somehow takde jodoh lg sampai sekrg. Tapi tu belum dipikirkan lagi pasal kemampuan diri sendiri tu aku x sure. Financial tu satu hal la. Tp tgk la, bini sorang camni pun aku dah pening kepala tahap gaban, nak jaga 2? Pernah sekali masa balik kpg, mak aku dok sembang2 pasal kelas tafsir Al-Quran dia, kebetulan baru jer cover bhg pasal poligami. Siap citer kat aku penjelasan ustaz tu. Masa tu bini aku pun ada tgh tgk TV, lain mcm jer muka dia, mcm mak aku dok hint kat aku jer. Kesian gak tgk muka bini aku tu masa tu 
Dan bila aku baca thread lain pasal masalah org berpoligami, seghiyau aku....takut aku menzalimi kedua2 bini aku atas sbb tidak berlaku adil... Pasal yg sorang ni pun secara tak langsung aku menzalimi dia gak.
Dan aku dok ingat apa sorang pakcik aku pesan masa baru kawin... Kalau belum boleh jamin nak bawak sorang bini masuk syurga sekali dgn kita, jgn lah fikir dulu nak bawak lebih lagi. |
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kronik betul cara dia perabih duit
aku rasa kes mcm ni mmg perlukan bantuan
nampak sgt dia out of control
cam kes2 ketagihan tu..kena attend terapi kot
rewire balik otak/ mindset dia tu.. |
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Tips ini mungkin dpt membantu kita menangani kewangan kita dgn bijak...
(Credit to www.ineedmotivation.com)
If you are in debt and finally ready to listen to some sound advice keep reading:
1- No matter how much you make always try to save
If you can only save 20$ per week it’s better than nothing. Over the years it will add up and you never know when you will need it for an emergency. I understand it’s important to live in the present but that’s not a reason not to think financially about your future.
2- If you can’t afford it do not buy it
This sounds weird for some people, but it’s a FACT. You should live by this motto. If you can’t pay something right now, just don’t buy it. Save money first, and then buy it when you can actually afford it. Putting yourself in debt just to have a big screen TV or is financial self-destruction.
3- Beware of the hidden costs
Often I see people buy things without thinking too much. Never purchase anything by impulse. Do not purchase accessories that require additional spending. For example, I’ve seen people buy a pair of shoes only to realize they need to buy new pants to go with them.
4- Never buy anything of credit that lose value
Using credit isn’t always bad but never purchase products that will lose great value (such as cars, electronics) with credit. Remember your credit cards have 19% interest rates. You never know if you will need to sell that object and if it’s the case it’s pretty sad to still have monthly payments on an object you no longer own.
5- Only buy what you need and not what you want
This advice is key in controlling your spending. Each time you go and buy something ask yourself this question: What do I need this for? Chances are it’s not for something extremely useful.
6- Buy Quality items
It’s important to buy items that will last a long time. There is no need to always get the newest gadget if what you currently have works fine, for example cell phones. Buy quality and keep it as long as you can.
7- Fix things yourself, Do-it-yourself
In today’s world it seems to be a lost trade to do things ourselves. The other day I changed the air filter on my car, it took me five minutes and I did not even get my hands dirty. I saved close to sixty dollars doing this myself, and this is just one example on how we can save money.
8- If your expenses are higher than your income, your interest payments will keep piling up
It’s important to think of your family/personal income like a business. Each month you need a surplus. Do not run a deficit, the interest you pay on your debt is money you don’t have. If you ask me, it’s better to have money in the bank making interest each month than paying some.
9- Don’t compare what you have with others
Try to be smart and don’t compare yourself to the neighbors. Even if the neighbors have a brand new car, lawn mower or new tools each month, they probably have more debt than willing to admit. It’s better to have money in the bank account than any material goods.
My grandmother once told me something very important: “Keep loving what you have and not what you want”. |
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baru 5 tahun kawin... baru lagi la.. isteri kalau dia perasan laki sayang dia mmg dia mengada2... dia buat apa pun husband tak marah... dia mmg naik kepala la....
kadang2 suami ni kena jadi macam parents... anak2 buat salah kena marah.. marah sebab nak betulkan... bukan sebab tak sayang... kalau tak marah tu le tak sayang sebenarnya....
macam ustazah siti norbayah selalu pesan... rumahtangga ni macam masakan.... tak boleh manis je... tak sedap... kena cukup garam asam gula semua la... kalau kita ingat sedap dengan gula je.. apa jadi gulai kita... cam tu la perumpamaan nya.... |
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Post time 26-2-2010 03:08 PM
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...So next time boleh tak tolon besarkan sikit. Aku takut dok squinting..squinting nak baca apa ko baca, aku cepat dpt wrinkles plak...
..Tu je aku nak cakap.
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