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Post Last Edit by ParinAmat at 26-1-2010 08:59
so damn ugly n kampung-ish that once have an affair with him....
n she is already married with kids,
when i said to my hubs, like omg is that the person you betrayed me with
she is fugly, he admits that i am wayyyyyy prettier than her....
kecibung_abang Post at 25-1-2010 17:35 
first of all, can you please sort out your phony-movies-pick-up-lines American wannabe English? Its so all over the place, man.
Secondly, when you said something like the above, it shows what kind of a person you are. Forget about outer beauty, k cause beauty is really subjective and it really depends on how people see it. To your hubby, you might be pretty but to others, you are just so-so. But it's your superficial mentality and that tiny piece of wicked soul that need to be fixed.
Frankly speaking, i swear too but i don't criticize, let alone insult the way people look. |
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first of all, can you please sort out your phony-movies-pick-up-lines American wannabe English? Its so all over the place, man.
Secondly, when you said something like the above, it shows what ...
Core Post at 26-1-2010 23:49 
kan dah kena ngan ahkak core sejibik..  |
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58# tina^^
Geget tu semua orang geget.............jangan sampai luka dah ler |
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First and foremost I would like to apologize for the usage of words that has offended a lot of ppl here,
To tell you the truth, those language that I’ve chosen does not in any way defines me,
I know I shouldn’t have written it that way, but I am kindda pissed n emotionally unstable…
Btw thanks for all your kind remarks, n for ppl that would say bad things bout me based on my post, thanks as well, I accept that…
Just wanna tell you what happened actually,
Now it’s the 8th years of my marriage, n things are not looking up at all,
As I am reproductively challenged…
Btw that is not an issue….we still love each other…
But this questions arises on my mind as that incident happened as I mentioned earlier,
We were about to go for a vocation with my in laws (fil, mil n sil – me n hubby)
And my hubby’s ex was there checkin in our luggage
Later, she has the nerve to come and say hi to all of us
(She shook my hand too and I accept it cuz of being courteous)
My mil was shocked cuz one of the reason that her looks has changed
She’s married with three kids, so maybe she look a lot different than those days…
I too thought that my hubs first love was pretty as he has describe before
But was kindda relieved actually….
After the trip, I was fine with the whole deal,
But I got mad later when I found in his phone that he actually store his ex’s hp number,
Before this when he had betrayed me
He promises that he won’t have anything to do with that woman,
I went ballistac and one of the reason he stored the hp was that he just wanna be friends…
Omg! I went beyond mad, knowing that it hurt like crazy
Before this when he betrayed me even its like 2 years ago…
Btw that woman that some of you are trying to defend,
Is married with 3 kids, she eloped to Thailand to get married (but I don’t judge her, but that is the truth) after broken hearted with my hubby as she sees my hubby as the man of her dreams, - got this info from my sil
But not happily married cuz of the husband is ‘kaki pukul’ n ‘kaki perempuan’ – Wallahualam
Always call my hubs to share stories bout her kid n hubs,
And a few messages which I caught in my hub’s secret sim card (at the time he was cheating on me) were:
Good morning papa, I miss you, love you, rindulah jom jumpa (I think they meet up a couple of times during that time)
Dengar tak radio era cuz ada lagu I tuju utk u- lagu kekasih gelapku at that time
Is that what a righteous woman would do,you think?
but later I forgave him, he decided to change phone numbers n will not contact his ex
So I took his words, and we patched it up…
Recently, when I found out bout the phone number,
I confronted him, n he said he has his own reasons,
Would you in you right mind would accept that?
When I mentioned that what’s wrong with me n why you still wanna be friends with her?
I also mentioned bout her physical attributes,
And the fact that I’m not intimidated by her cuz I am better than her,
Then he said that word ‘dia pentingkan dalaman not luaran’
Ok, I have to admit that I do have some negative traits that he constantly nag about which are:
I’m a shopaholic (till his family labeled me that I am ‘boros’ – but which woman doesn’t like to shop?)
I love to gossip (I hog in front of the tv for E News, Daily 10, Keeping up with Kardashian n etc – he hates all of that)
I’m a bit immature (I admit that maybe ex dia lagi mature based on her appearance)
Always ‘muncung’ if things don’t happen the way I want it to (I dunno how to have a fake smile – like really!)
Stubborn – Sometimes I love to answer back to him, n don’t really do the things he ask me too….but usually it’s just teeny weeny things…nothing major!
I’m a tad chubby – I love to cook at home n both of us are foodies…
Berkira – this one I have to say, since I lend him a large ammount of money for investment n his friend cheated on him, but he never paid back….When I constantly ask bout it he said I berkira….Of course I have to ask cuz it involves thousands k….but I have the right to do that…..it’s my money
Rude – he said the tone of my voice when I speak to my dad, my brother or even brother in law is totally soft spoken but with him it’s not…. (He actually always yells at me in front of my sibling n even friends-even my mom hates it when he yelled at me) – So what comes around goes around…..rite?
He basically said that he’s a simple man and just need a simple woman to be his wifey…Maybe cuz of my lifestyle before has made me who I am (my dad spoilt me, with money n all n he has a ‘status’)…But I want to change for him
But I don’t think it’s my entire fault, none of his…
Shouldn’t it be him the one to guide me?
Btw, glad that I can express my feelings here….
You are most welcome to give me valuable thoughts….
To married ppl that has been betrayed you must’ve know how I feel
I always feel that if the one you love betrayed you cuz of sleeping with other person
Which they have no feelings with; maybe you can give a second chance
But if it’s emotionally betrayed
It hurts like crazy…so please understand my predicament here…. |
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dear kecibung...
ok faham lah now.. patut hari tu you expressed all these before others judging you negatively. tapi bukan semua orang ada masa pun kan nak taip panjang2 kat forum.. so understood.
since you yourself already listed all the traits that you think are unappealing about yourself to your hubby's eyes.. why don't you work on that?
i mean, improve on all those things.
i'm a woman but not a shopaholic, but i don't think there's anything wrong with it if you have the means. since you are reproductively challenged (are you seeking costly treatments for it, or tak buat apa2?) then you are financially less burdened than most of us here... so.. shop away, i guess.. yang hubby tak berkenan tu, kenapa? ke sebab you guys are not exactly in the mewah mode in actual?
yang lain2 fakta tu.. me rasa bukan je kurang manis seorang isteri ada.. tapi memang kurang manis any on of us ada, as a human being.
so try to change that, gradually, if not drastically.
you love him, and you don't want him to stray away.
so try to win him back ON HIS TERMS. meaning, buat apa yang dia suka.
unless you loathe him like madness, then it's ok to keep on with your antics. tak payah lah nak fikir nak gembirakan dia. there's a two way street here, you choose the way.
furthermore, you already know how to correct yourself so as to be more appealing to him on the inside. cuma like you said so up there, you are stubborn, refusing to bend towards his wants.
girl, you can't win all the time... you want something, you have to sacrifice something... even if it's your ego..
good luck on your marriage, hope it'll last forever, and he will eventually forget the married ex. |
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[quote]First and foremost I would like to apologize for the usage of words that has offended a lot of ppl here,
To tell you the truth, those language that I’ve chosen does not in any way defines me,
I kno ...
kecibung_abang Post at 28-1-2010 09:15  [/quot
muahahaha..muehehehehehe..
jom kita tengok sapa yg akan wat 360 darjah..wawawaahhahhahhaaha..
btw, TT aku cam dah agak 'apa citer kau'..he...he...
biasalah..pompuan pung cam lelaki..
ada yg hensem..tp pangai menyakitkan hati...
tp ramai gak yg tak hensem..pastu pangai hazab..he.he..
pompuan pung sama..he..he..
muka bodoh2 gitu..appearance cam lurus2 lah konon..
bercakap lembut, mcm tak dengar suara..muka tunduk,sampai dagu nak cecah dada..
tp tang skill mem..biraaaaaahhhhh..mak aiiii.....
oppss..sat lagi aku kena sekolah ni sbb pengunaan kata2 yg tidak beradap..
btw, kesian TT..he..he..tak pasal2 kena prejudice.. |
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Post Last Edit by hereana at 28-1-2010 10:36
And a few messages which I caught in my hub’s secret sim card (at the time he was cheating on me) were:
Good morning papa, I miss you, love you, rindulah jom jumpa (I think they meet up a couple of times during that time)
Dengar tak radio era cuz ada lagu I tuju utk u- lagu kekasih gelapku at that time
erk..aku malas nak komen 'keburukan kau'..yg kau listkan tuh..
sbb nampak kau membodohkan diri kau aje..downgrade diri sendirik..
kang aku listkan keburukan aku plak..meraung kau buat sujud syukur..
hello..baik kau listkan kelebihan diri kau..mcm cthnya..kau anak org kaya, pandai masak,suka masak..pandai bergaya, body mantap..etc..etc..
appreciate diri sendirilah..jgn harap org lain do so..
aku pun cam kekawan lain yg bg opinion..
mmg laki kau saje carik alasan..yg inner sesgt..
padahal tak lain tak bukan..hanyalah semata2 nak 'apam extra'..(uppss..sekadar mengambil ayat Mr Kuda..dan sebilangan forumer lelaki di sini..he..he..)
btw..info kau pasal si fugly tuh...dah cukup wat aku meluat + nak muntah..
aku tak kisahlah sihina mana kau..tp tt kampung-ish tuh dah cukup melampau..
cam s&y*l..jer..mengadu domba dgn laki kau, merayu bagai...rindu dendam..yucks.. |
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Laki TT masih lagi beraffair ngan ppuan tu ker? |
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aku cuma ingat perkataan fugly ni masa aku tgk citer Mean Girls, Lindsay Lohan ngan sape lagi sorang ntah. |
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87# kecibung_abang
ermm....padanlaaa berapi-rapi....
my thot is, when u hit the lowest point in ur life...
try to point out gud things/traits about urself...
when focus too much on the negative traits cam kat atas tu
u tend to blame urself....
percayalah dear, org nak beraffair...dia tak perlukan alasan....k |
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Aku rasa TT ni kena ada anak le... baru ok kot... |
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93# my-alja
bagus jugak kalau kita dpt listing keburukan diri sendiri..
dapat muhasabah diri..
BUT penatlah kalau sorang je nak muhasabah..
yg sorang lagi just cari alasan demi alasan utk menutup kesalahan..
for me kalau TT rasa ader yg perlu diperbaiki.. perbaikilah..
tapi utk diri sendiri..
jgn buat utk org lain.. x kemanaaaaaa...
buang kareeeeeeeennnnn jeeeeeeeee.. |
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tt paham apa makna
MUHASABAH? |
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93# my-alja
bagus jugak kalau kita dpt listing keburukan diri sendiri..
dapat muhasabah diri..
BUT penatlah kalau sorang je nak muhasabah..
yg sorang lagi just cari alasan demi alasan utk menu ...
bakawali_04 Post at 28-1-2010 11:58
listing keburukkan dgn NIAT yg btul...utk muhassabah diri
bukan dlm bentuk reaktif camni....
benda2 reaktif camni....u akan tertarik pd negatip perception of urself
bukan dah mahassabah jadinya....blaming oneself
silap ari bulan, pasangan akan letak semua kesalahan dia kat bahu bini
and bini plak indulge in selfpity...:kant: |
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87# kecibung_abang [/b ]
U ada almost all the quality that turn off men...
1.)Pandang rendah pada orang lain.
2.)Mulut kuat menjawab
3.)Kedekut dengan suami - berkira
4.)Tak pandai hormat suami....
Dari penulisan you..i tahu u cantik....sebab tu u ada ego...dan ego ini lah yang buat hubby benci kat u..dan pastinya u orang yang terlalu serius
Beleive me..i know...my wife was like u...
It takes me years to mold her...
Improve yourself first..then only say if your hubby if finding reason or not..
Orang kat sini memang jenis bersorak kalau ada orang bercerai.. |
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98# my-alja
betul tu alja..
me dulu2 zaman stress pk mcm tuan umah jugak..
tapi lama2 apsal pulak lah nak membodohkan diri sendiri..
i admit i pun ader buat salah..
but meletakkan semua kesalahan pada me.. itu unfair..
tapi benda dah lepas kan.. yg penting i upgrade diri sendiri..
kalau pasangan yg itu cuma tau hargai yg baik tentang u
tanpa membantu mengurangkan ketidakkbaikkan u
atau sekurang2nya menerima u seadanya..
itu worthlah nak muhasabah diri..
tapi kalau semata2 nak please dia..
then perubahan hanya sementara..
baik x payah..
kalau nak berubah..
buat dgn ikhlas n utk kebaikkan u.. |
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